Friend's partner is moving his ex in

ailuro2

give her the phone number for Women's Aid. Tell her to give it to the woman along with her house phone.

If she makes any excuse then tell her she has a choice - phone from inside the house with the home phone, or from outside the house with her own.;)

lizzylugs

Originally posted by meritaten
am I the only one thinking that this woman is absolutely desperate? there may be a good reason why she doesnt want to go to local womens shelter? she may know her partner knows where it is. also a damn good reason she doesnt want to go to her family? your partner is helping her.....that may well be all she wants. why dont you listen to her and your partner and try to help? it sounds as if you have distanced yourself and you dont want to know her reasons.

So you would be perfectly happy for your OH to move his ex in to your home?

lookingforsun

meritaten wrote: »

am I the only one thinking that this woman is absolutely desperate? there may be a good reason why she doesnt want to go to local womens shelter? she may know her partner knows where it is. also a damn good reason she doesnt want to go to her family? your partner is helping her.....that may well be all she wants. why dont you listen to her and your partner and try to help? it sounds as if you have distanced yourself and you dont want to know her reasons.

It isn't my OH - it's my friends. But I have to say that if my DH moved an ex in - even if she were absolutely desperate - I wouldn't help, nor listen to the woman.

There are genuine homeless people on the streets (whereas she has a hostel place), yet I don't invite them home with me..

If I was my friend I wouldn't care why she didn't want to go to the hostel, or to her friends - no matter how good her reasons... at the end of the day she would be nothing to me, and hopefully, while wishing her well, nothing to my DH, and I wouldn't have an ounce of empathy if it were a threat to my family

Blackpool_Saver

He has been seeing this cheeky mare recently, that's for sure, now he wants her in his place and wants the current woman out.............despicable RAT, yes another bloody pig of a man !!!!!!

MrsTinks

I love how a silly man who's probably a little dim and certainly insensitive MUST obviously be having an affair... what happened to trial by jury with evidence etc?

OP - I agree that your friend shouldn't stand for having ANYONE - ex or not - moved into her home and sanctuary without consultation and agreement. I recently had my parents in law stay for nearly 3 weeks and it was incredibly stressful and my daughter is nearly 2! I *did* agree to it before they arrived but it was because DH and I saw no alternative... they literately had no money and no roof over their heads. Our patience WITH FAMILY ran out in under 3 weeks.
I don't really care if she's an ex - this is not her home, it's your friend and her partners. Therefor if ONE of them does not want her there then she does NOT stay there. The reasons why are pretty immaterial really I think - but I can certainly understand the anger. If my DH asked if his ex could stay I think I'd agree to a couple of nights till she could make alternative arrangements - but then I have no doubts about their relationship, nor my partners love for me and our daughter... I know they still speak, same as I still speak to one of my ex's - we have no problems with that at all. However your friend obviously DOES have a problem with it - and therefor it matters
Partnership is about mutual respect and she needs to make that VERY clear to her partner...

fannyanna

If I were in your friends situation my husband would be homeless as well as his ex

There is absolutely NO WAY that I would stand for that.

Your friend should tell this woman to F off and also tell her partner to buck his ideas up.

I'm actually astounding and I'm getting rather worked up myself on your friends behalf. Some people really are outrageous aren't they!!!

ska_lover

fannyanna wrote: »

If I were in your friends situation my husband would be homeless as well as his ex

There is absolutely NO WAY that I would stand for that.

Your friend should tell this woman to F off and also tell her partner to buck his ideas up.

I'm actually astounding and I'm getting rather worked up myself on your friends behalf. Some people really are outrageous aren't they!!!

I totally agree. It would be my OH booking himself into a homeless hostel if he tried this caper. How awful for your friend, i really have sympathy for her that her man can be so thoughtless to her feelings and move an ex in! Jesus Christ!!

scooby088

I wouldn't certainly have an ex stay with me neither would my OH, for that matter i doubt that i would have a friend stay either. I think when it comes to it you have to be hard hearted and tell the ex to get lost basically, but i am lucky as i have nothing but contempt for most of my ex's.

fannyanna

scooby088 wrote: »

but i am lucky as i have nothing but contempt for most of my ex's.

:rotfl:Made me chuckle

*Louise*

I wouldn't stand for that for a second.

I would tell her myself that she isn't welcome and she should go take up the offer of homeless accomodation. The bloke is obviously too much of a soft touch.