Friend's partner is moving his ex in

Incapuppy

I do hope that this is indeed a 'friend' of yours OP and not more trouble that your OH is landing on your own doorstep given your recent thread?

LadyMorticia

I'd be mad too. The partner should have at least discussed it with your friend and even then, this woman doesn't have the right to come around, after no contact for a few years, and just expect him to help her. He should put his partner and the baby first, not some ex that he hasn't seen for goodness knows how many years! Why does she expect them to drop everything and help her? Words fail me sometimes.

Sublime_2

I'd have told him/her to fcuk off. She's weird, as been offered housing, but chosen to land at your doorstep. Sounds like a heap of trouble.

sashadesade

the_cat wrote: »

Am I the only one who doubts that this is really the truth? It seems much more likely to me that it is some story they have come up together and they have been in regular contact recently

Good point. After all, why on earth would you turn to an ex you haven't spoken to for years over your own family and friends? It wouldn't even occur to me to turn up on an ex's doorstep asking to move in! The whole thing's very fishy.

Gleek

Sounds absolutely bizzare, especially given that they have no contact and suddenly she turns up and assumes/wants to stay and he says yes (despite that no contact, a new partner and a baby) and the fact she "doesn't want to ask" her actual friends/family that she supposedly does have contact with.

Even more worrying (I assume, I'm not 100% sure on how it works, it's just what I've picked up from here) wouldn't having somewhere 'secure' to stay and her daughter staying with her father make her less of a priority to rehome and therefore mean that she'd stay for longer than if she went into the hostel?

Could she not stay with the daughter/ex if she HAS to stay somewhere and wouldn't ask friends/family (which she should have turned to first)

Like others say, I'd give the ultimatum and leave, he clearly doesn't respect her.

lookingforsun

Incapuppy wrote: »

I do hope that this is indeed a 'friend' of yours OP and not more trouble that your OH is landing on your own doorstep given your recent thread?

It's definitely not my DH, it is my friend's partner

lookingforsun

I hadn't thought that they may still be in contact, though i got the impression from my friend, that they weren't. My friend did say that her partner still had this woman's photo up when they met, and only took it down when they got serious.

It would make her a lesser priority than if she were to go into the hostel, I agree

mrbrightside842

I wouldn't want a stranger being in the house where I am sleeping, and especially near my child.

meritaten

am I the only one thinking that this woman is absolutely desperate? there may be a good reason why she doesnt want to go to local womens shelter? she may know her partner knows where it is. also a damn good reason she doesnt want to go to her family? your partner is helping her.....that may well be all she wants. why dont you listen to her and your partner and try to help? it sounds as if you have distanced yourself and you dont want to know her reasons.

DVardysShadow

1. Tell partner to get rid
2. If that does not work and you are either on the deeds or a tenant, tell unwanted guest to leave within 12 hours
3. If that does not work, tell partner to leave, taking unwanted guest
4. If that does not work, get police to remove unwanted guest
5. If none of the above work or they are not possible, move out.