How can I ensure my stepsons don't get a penny from my will?

Jerryjerryjerry

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

That's the situation at the moment. However, have you considered what the situation might be at the time of your death? Your MIL may have died, your stepson may have married, all the boys might have moved in with her - any combination of the above!

Plus there have been other cases where charities have pressured grieving beneficiaries to sell a home as quickly as possible, or borrow money to pay the bequest before the home is sold.

You need proper advice. Personally I'd look for a STEP solicitor for this. You may not be able to stop them contesting the will, but you can take steps to make their claim less likely to succeed.

Thanks for this. What is a STEP solicitor?

thatgirlsam

Jerryjerryjerry wrote: »

If this post is aimed at me, then I think its totally unfair. I didn't work for 24 years to then later meet someone whose children might want a share of MY years of hard work. I wish to leave my money to a dog's charity and to ensure that that actually happens. How hard is that to understand?

Its not hard to understand at all

Its just you are accusing posters on here of being mercinary (sp) - trying to 'fleece' their familes for money etc

When it seems to me its you that has the obsession about money within a family

Leave your money to whoever you like! I expect your step children might prefer to have nothing from you anyways

Besides, I predict you will be divorced long before the issue arises

mumps

Jerryjerryjerry wrote: »

If this post is aimed at me, then I think its totally unfair. I didn't work for 24 years to then later meet someone whose children might want a share of MY years of hard work. I wish to leave my money to a dog's charity and to ensure that that actually happens. How hard is that to understand?

You sound very bitter and unhappy, I hope you find some resolution so that you can enjoy life.

rachbc

why not just spend your money go out to the cinema, have a coffee, buy some new clothes - then not only to they not get the money, you get to enjoy it too....

Savvy_Sue

Jerryjerryjerry wrote: »

Thanks for this. What is a STEP solicitor?

Society of Trusts and Estates Practitioners.

Use a STEP practitioner to support you through any trusts, estates or related issue. STEP members (TEPs) provide expert advice on how to comply with the often complex law and tax rules surrounding trusts, estates and inheritance.

You can identify if your adviser is a full STEP member by the use of the designation TEP (Trust and Estate Practitioner) after their name. TEPs are the most experienced and senior practitioners in the field of trusts and estates.

They have undertaken extra study. not just solicitors, accountants may also be members. For any legal matter, you might want someone who specialises in that area rather than someone who skips from conveyancing to family law to criminal law.

Jerryjerryjerry

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Its not hard to understand at all

Leave your money to whoever you like!

I have left my money to an animal charity. The only reason for this post is to ensure that my money goes to that charity. Whatever else has been extracted from this thread is not important to me.

Jerryjerryjerry

rachbc wrote: »

why not just spend your money go out to the cinema, have a coffee, buy some new clothes - then not only to they not get the money, you get to enjoy it too....

I will do that when I retire.

Problem is at the moment, i've got to save enough money to make sure I have enough to live on when I retire. Then of course, I can remortgage the house, release the equity and leave as much as I can to an animal sanctuary. Thank you for your input.

Jerryjerryjerry

mumps wrote: »

You sound very bitter and unhappy, I hope you find some resolution so that you can enjoy life.

What makes you come to that conclusion?

Bitter and angry?

Or worried to hell that my hard earned cash is going to be fed to a donkey? There is a hell of a difference.. and only those who have slogged their guts out for 24 years+ without going on the dole would understand that.

You clearly are not of that calibre.

thatgirlsam

Jerryjerryjerry wrote: »

What makes you come to that conclusion?

Bitter and angry?

Or worried to hell that my hard earned cash is going to be fed to a donkey? There is a hell of a difference.. and only those who have slogged their guts out for 24 years+ without going on the dole would understand that.

You clearly are not of that calibre.

How on earth would you know that?

I too have slogged hard since leaving school - Hard earned cash, certainly.. many people have, you are not alone there

Why don't you leave your money to another member of your family?

Do you have siblings or neices / nephews?

*max*

While I completely agree OP should leave her money to whoever/whatever she fancies, I think it's unlikely, given the general tone of her posts, that she would be leaving anything to actual people...
It seems that since she has had to work so hard for her money (and don't we know it!), and makes so many sacrifices (again, don't we know it) everybody else should be the same, and people getting help should be ashamed - because she has never got any herself. A bit of a "hollier than thee" attitude here, in my opinion.