Hubby flirting! do i say something?

wongstack

She has basically offered it to him on a plate and he has turned her down

You should be incredibly happy right now, he must love and care for you deeply to turn down such a blatant offer of an affair. He has shown that flirting is the furthest he will go.

It is very difficult for men to turn down sex, we are genetically designed to have sex with as many women as possible

You should be very happy and proud to have such a strong man

suited-aces

welshmoneylover wrote: »

You haven't mentioned anything... I'd have gone mental and given him a sharp swift kick in the balls.

And if you were flirting, your partner would be right to hit you?

suited-aces

That question also goes to elastigirl, izzybusy23, LadyMorticia, nuttybabe and zippybungle

Angelic

I'd like to agree that you've nothing to worry about because he said no and told her he was married but..." I like you" and "what can I do to make it up to you" are red flags to me.
I hope i'm being overly cynical but flirty chats with colleagues usually end up in bed and I think you have to clear the air instead of burying your head in the sand as it's a large red flag.
I buried my head in the past when an ex started chatting to women online in a sexual way and looking back I should have ended the relationship (i'm the anxious wreck type) . Just glad I wasn't silly enough to marry him in the end:rotfl:
Anyway , hope i'm wrong and your husband just got carried away but please don't ignore your findings as you will end up feeling paranoid. Hope it works out ok.

Bloomin_Freezing2

I think he's already taken it too far with his questions to this woman. OK so i understand that men think differently, and they can be naive in situations like this, but I think he could've made his excuses and left the chat as soon as this tart started flirting.

I would have to say something, I'd always be wondering how 'flirty' he gets with women he meets when he's away with work. i'd have to at least email this woman too, and most probably her other half. has your husband got any work 'do's' coming up where you might bump into her? Who the hell does she think she is, she knows your husband is married!

C_Mababejive

Its obvious that hes thinking with his d ick. If he wants her,let him have her. Just tell him to pack his bags and leave by ..shall we say,next week ?

poppyolivia

yeah the ..what can I do to make it up to you?...!!!!!! does that mean?..I'd be going off my head way before now!

Volupturaptor

He wanted you to see it.
He probably wanted to talk to you about it, but didn't know how to begin. Leaving it for you to see was his way of starting the conversation. I'd probably just say something along the lines of "Blimey, that was a mad conversation, I bet you'll be more careful around her now..!" and see how it goes from there. I really don't think you have too much to worry about, he's told her he's not available, and tried to be open with you about it, if a little clumsily. But that's men for you.

Errata

He had been talking to a work friend all night long untill 2am,

Never mind the content, what about the length? If the shoe was on the other foot I'd be telling you to man up and ask your wife what her game is. Just because it's the other way round doesn't mean that you don't have to man up and call him to account.
If you haven't the courage to stand up for yourself, you need to find some to stick up for the well being of your kids.

Raspberry_Ripples

This might not be what you wanted to hear, but quite often the only thing stopping people having affairs if the fear of feelings not being reciprocated

That fear has gone now, and what happens now is almost inevitable.

IMO opinion, the best thing you can do now is tell him you read the message and hopefully "head him off at the pass" and make him realise what a big mistake he is making before he makes it

Whether or not you forgive him for flirting in the first place is your decision alone to make

Good luck!