lazy husband

Wickedkitten

Imelda wrote: »

In my house it works likes this:

DH works long hours, leaves at 6am and is rarely home before 8pm so monday- friday I do all the cooking, washing, admin etc. Because he is unable to help out DH got us a cleaner, just for 2hrs per week but it means the kitchen and bathroom get a wipe over and all the floors are hoovered, also if they haven't already been done she irons his work shirts. I usually have a day off per week and do a thorough clean then. This works for us as I do think I would resent having to do the lot.

DH is not lazy and will often spend a few hours at the weekend gardening, doing DIY etc. We clean up after dinner together (I am the worlds' messiest cook!) and he has taken it upon himself to take the bins out (thank goodness, I hate that job).

As for men being lazy because of their mothers I'm not sure I agree. I think my MIL has cleaning OCD, her house is spotless at all times, she wakes up at 6am so she can clean the house before 8am when her "day starts". She did everything for my DH, even now he will take washing and ironing to her as he likes the way she does it (!) If anything it has rubbed off on my DH and he too likes everything to be perfect and he actually enjoys housework. I do think it helps that he lived on his own for several years before we moved in together and so he wasn't used to having someone do it all for him.

I'm not saying its the case for all of them, but even still, you're home all week cooking, doing a thorough clean, doing the washing and admin, and then your MIL is still doing your DH's washing and ironing when the cleaner isn't doing it. He might like the house spotless but a few hours on gardening and DIY on the weekends isn't getting it to that point.

snookey

Not sure if the following has been mentioned as Iv not read the whole thread. Id stop washing his clothes,doing his meals and sharing his bed. I bet he would soon get the message,lol.

Gefjun

Give him the choice of what he wants to do - example "do you want to hoover or clean the bathroom", "would you prefer to wash up or dry". That way he has a clear option that he has to do one or the other. Remember that men are very simple creatures and need things spelling out to them time and time again. Mine has only cleaned the bathroom twice since it was installed two years ago despite using it every day, however he does hoover, iron and put the washing on on a semi-regular basis, so I can't really complain too much. He's not terribly proactive with cleaning and it does need pointing out to him, but I think this is a step too far at the moment and needs a detailed action plan to work to!

I quite like the suggestions of taking money from their accounts depending on how many tasks you're left with - inspired!