Stripper Opinions - but fear I may regret it.

FelinePrincess

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Are you saying you've seen your pregnant friend naked - I sincerly hope not.

I don't see what's so outrageous about that?! There's nothing wrong with nakedness and nothing sinister or sexual about it. Surely you have seen some of your friends in their swimwear? Thats almost naked!

Pixiechic

nat21luv wrote: »

Yes dear but you said you dont like it when he watches !!!!!! before coming to you, so this isnt about 'letting' him like 'letting' him go to the shop, this is letting him hurt your feelings(that he chose !!!!!! over you), completely different. Thats about respect.

I see how I wrote it, I have edited as not how I meant to come across. Had OH chatting about the benefits of organic coffee at the time so wasn't concentrating!

It is not that he chooses !!!!!! over me. He doesn't. Just to clarify

nat21luv

Scrap my replys then, nothing to see here....apart from me on the exercise bike in only me undies! Sexual?! I think not!!

digitalphase

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I have even seen photography magazines with pornographic covers! :eek:

"Pornography or !!!!!! is the portrayal of explicit sexual subject matter for the purposes of sexual excitement and erotic satisfaction." - Wikipedia.

Which photography magazines would those be, then? The nude form is often used in photography and it has nothing to do with pornography.

I think the issue here is that the OP's OH knows she doesn't like strippers etc so it is very disrespectful of him to try to do it regardless. Everyone's relationship is different, and people need to realise that. If someone is OK with their OH seeing strippers etc then fine, but if someone isn't, then it should be respected.

dmg24

nat21luv wrote: »

Scrap my replys then, nothing to see here....apart from me on the exercise bike in only me undies! Sexual?! I think not!!

Good to see I'm not the only one who exercises in my underwear! I'd ask if I could join you, but some people might not like it ...

RedwoodBrook

digitalphase wrote: »

If someone is OK with their OH seeing strippers etc then fine, but if someone isn't, then it should be respected.

But doesn't it work both ways? Shouldn't the OP be respectful that her husband wants to go and watch strippers and he has every right to do so. Just because she doesn't like the idea of him doing it, doesn't mean he shouldn't do it.

I really don't like some my OH's friends but I wouldn't for a minute expect him to stop going out with them based on that alone.

northeastern

dmg24 wrote: »

I'm not going into details, but my view is from within the industry. Do the strippers feel that they are being objectified? Nope, they see it that they are earning far more than they would otherwise by doing something that they enjoy.

How do you know they enjoy it? They're probably not going to tell you how much they dislike it. I don't think all strippers believe it's a great way to make money doing something they enjoy.

And I'll go into details as I'm using another user name. I worked in a club in London many moons ago. Was basically told by one of the well-off clientele that the women could make a lot of money from the "xtras", and I was very naive to think otherwise. I didn't enjoy it at all, didn't take him up on his offer of a nice cruise and didn't stay.

My sister-in-law also had a decent cocaine habit developed while she was stripping, she may have gone down that route anyway but I'm pretty sure that if she'd enjoyed what she was doing she wouldn't have been taking so much drugs.

Maybe some clubs are better than others, and some women enjoy it and believe they are in control, if so, great, good on them. However, lap-dancing/gentlemen's clubs have been investigated for prostitution, big ones in London included, there was also a C4 documentary on it a while ago.

So whenever someone says "nothing wrong with stripping", fine, that's their opinion but there can be more to it than "just" taking your clothes off. And if that's your choice, great, but I found it difficult to deal with.

shell_girl

I'm not going to get into the whole !!!!!!/ stripper morality issue... we're unlikely to come to consensus and risk hijacking the OP's thread!

My 2p's worth- I felt a bit queasy when I read the phrase 'nailing some strippers'. Horrible horrible turn of phrase. 'nailing' basically implies sex with no regard for the female's pleasure. Some men will talk about 'strippers' or 'prostitutes' instead of talking about them as WOMEN who do a particular job- suppose it makes it easier to objectify them.

Gracie P put it best, but imho objectify one woman, objectify us all.

Most of us have probably had one night stands along the way that's just about the sex and nothing else- no problem whatsoever. But once you're in a committed relationship it becomes much more.

I want to be able to make love with my partner knowing that what we are doing is mutual pleasure- giving and taking, and that we are equal, and respect each other. I would struggle to do so if I heard/ read that he'd made that comment.

RedwoodBrook

shell_girl wrote: »

I want to be able to make love with my partner knowing that what we are doing is mutual pleasure- giving and taking, and that we are equal, and respect each other. I would struggle to do so if I heard/ read that he'd made that comment.

You would struggle to make love to your partner if you heard him say "nailing some strippers"?

Good Lord, MSE is full of over-sensitive people.

shell_girl

It's the sentiment behind that phrase- it absolutely turns my stomach. I don't think that makes me over sensitive, just someone who knows what (for me) is acceptable in a partner and what isn't.

In the same way I would be turned off if my partner was making racist, homophobic, or any other type of comment that really really offended me.