Stripper Opinions - but fear I may regret it.

aliasojo

euronorris wrote: »

OK, I still don't understand why, but each to their own and if you aren't comfortable, you aren't comfortable.

I think this is the important bit. We all have things which we are relaxed or uncomfortable about.

I was in a changing room come toilet come shower room the other day and there was a female who was stark naked walking about quite unconcerned. I felt uncomfortable. I didn't for one minute think she should have covered up, her behaviour was completely appropriate given the situation, but my logical understanding of the situation didn't stop my uncomfortable feelings. We are what we are.

RoxieW

euronorris wrote: »

Roxie, do you object to him watching strippers in general (ie, in a seat away from the 'stage'), or to having a private dance?

Personally, I don't mind if my OH goes to a strip club to just view from a distance, so to speak, but a private dance is a complete no-no. If he wants that, he can just ask me instead! lol

He knows my feelings on this, and respects it. He doesn't have any interest in going to strip clubs anyway, as he just sees them as a big tease, in which case he'd rather be at home getting some real action.

I'm just wondering if there is a compromise that can be reached between you, if you only object to the private dancing?

Just reading through the posts and wanted to comment on this.
I feel the same. To me there is a difference between viewing from a distance with a group in a stripclub, and having a private dance.

RoxieW

Hi Everyone

Thank you to everyone that replied. To update,we are working through it. OH see's where I'm coming from with the issue and has apologised. We;re working on getting things back on track now. The trust has been broken to some extent now and im hoping it can be fixed. Time will tell.
I feel let down and hurt by him, but I can understand how he might have got carried away with 'lads banter'. He's reassured me as much as he can and hopefully i can trust that he's sincere.
TBH I'm glad this issue arouse and we have had this blow up as it has forced us to talk - well, forced him to talk to me. After months of radio silence for no apparant reason that can only be a good thing. I think we both realize that our marriage is in danger and want to work on it to make it better. Hopefully we can achieve that.
Thanks for all the replies.