MSE Parents Club Part 16

wendz86

Oh no can't believe we were on page 5.

That is brilliant about your LO's sleep Make-it-3 ! Gives me hope! Hope the mmr doesn't affect things.

We were at my parents last 2 nights and Poppy was in same room as me and slept awful. Hope tonights better now we are home again.

MERFE

hiya

Giz happy birthday to little giz x

well we have not given Bob a dummy for his nap today (cried for 5 mins, OH went and settled him then straight to sleep but only for an hour). Tonight I think he knew he wasnt gonna get it because I put him in his sack and he was getting fidgety and looking for it on top the wardrobe, where it normally is. He really screamed, nothing I could do (except give the dummy), I walked out the room to do the older ones milky hot chocolates and thought if he is still crying by the time the kettle boils I'll see if I can settle him but if not give in. Before I got downstairs he had stopped crying. Not looking forward to if he wakes in the night, fingers crossed he sleeps through. Apparently it only takes 3 days for them to get used to the change. I know its for the best and its better to take it away now than when he gets to an age where he can ask for it but when they cry and scream like that and you know it would soothe them, its hard not to just give it and not because I like an easy life (although I do) but because no one likes to hear their baby crying.

Leopardlady

Thanks Merfe, I am thinking of stopping the dummy at naps and at night. LO only has it here as we don't send him to nursery so i think we are just being soft. Good luck, I think i will start tonight! I think he only really likes it as he is teething, but he takes it out when i say "what is that doing in your mouth" in a silly voice and he then gives it to me. I will see what happens.

I am on a days unpaid leave today, work are trying to change my contract from full time to 30 hours but until then i am allowed to take a day a week unpaid.

My mother used to look after LO for two days a week and then he was in nursery 3 days a week, but my mum has been ill since christmas so we have had to try and sort out childcare for 2 days a week. We have decided that we need to sort something out a little more permanent as my Mum, is amazing, but should not have to travel to look after LO as much as she is. So we have upped LOs days in nursery to 4 days a week and I am hoping to have a day at home with LO.

Over Christmas one of my best friends drowned while on holiday and her death has led me to really appreciate what we have and so i want to spend more time with my little Man. But money means i have to work, but 4 days at nursery means i have to work at least 4 days really, so lets see how it all goes. At least this site helps me save money

right sorry about the very long post!

elainec

sorry to hear about your friend leopardlady, so sad. xx
Do agree though it does make you re-evaluate your life when something like that happens.

MERFE

Oh leopard I'm so sorry about your friend. I value time over money as well. We will never get this time back with our kids so best to make the most of what you can.

The dummy is going well so far, went to sleep at nap and tonight without it no problems. And I found one under the couch to chuck out, must give the car a good clean out too as there is bound to be a couple in there.

jennynoo

Hello, sorry I haven't been on for ages.

LL, sorry to hear about your friend, it must have been quite a shock. How are you getting on at meal times now? I know they say to let LO's play with their food but it's really annoying when the house becomes a mess isn't it. We had to set limits so she could play with her food but anything purposely dropped had to stay on the mat otherwise it got taken away and no waving spoons around with yougurt etc on! 'Gently' is a word often used in our house! DD never really seemed to eat much until recently really but we have never worried as I'm still bfing her and we give her vitamin drops. This Christmas she amazed everyone by eating more than her cousins at most meals I also found letting DD watch me cooking helped and having her eat exactly the same as us - at the same time (ie. we all eat a forkfull of food at the same time!) was a good way to get her to eat and sometimes just giving her the food off our plates rather than her own was the only way to get her to eat. maybe she was worried we were going to poison her!

Wendz, I went back to work 4 days a week when DD was 11 months. She was still being BF on demand and fed to sleep but we had no problems with her starting nursery. With the feeding they just gave her a sippy cup with cows milk which I was happy for them to do as I didn't want to express. For a while I had to feed her before work, as soon as I picked her up and at night but gradually she dropped the feed when I picked her up, with a little bit of encouragement from us, and now I only feed her at night. At the weekends though I still did demand feeding and it worked fine, i didn't suffer any problems with supply. Now at weekends I feed her for nap time and bed time and love those times so don't see any need to stop yet. You will just have to see what works for you and your LO, no need to do +1 milk, as far as I can see it's just an advertising gimmick.

With sleep nursery will have their own tactics and DD adjusted fine. At first they rocked her in a pram but after a while they would just put her in a cot and rub her back until she feel asleep. She still sleeps fine there even though I rarely manage to get her to sleep without feeding - I think they just adjust to the different environment and realise there are different rules.

I'm doing fine, DD is great and the bump is growing and kicking lots. I might actually end up tandem feeding which is not something I ever thought I would do but now I've read a bit about it I'm quite looking forward to it. And since I'm turning into a complete hippy with my child rearing I'm also thinking about natural infant hygiene or EC, has anyone on here tried it? I went to a talk about it last week and there was a mum there whose daughter is 11 months and wasn't wearing a nappy! That would really save some money!

Lauralou

Ladies you were on page 5:eek:!

Thought i would pop in and say hi. My DD is now 5weeks old, still can't believe i'm a mummy.

Just after some advice

So DD had her first bottle yesterday and she took it. Have expressed again this morning and got 3oz-how much should they be having per feed.?

DD has been 'sleeping through the night' I've started to let her wake up in the night when she wants feeding last night she woke up at 4.45 for a feed but after i put her she really screamed so i did pick her up for a cuddle and put her down and she did it again but after i put her down she went back to sleep until 7.45.
As shes been like this for three night should i now try more off a bed time routine? i usually give her a feed after 9 whenn we go to bed then nappy change and put in her swaddle blanket then bed but thinking off maybe giving her a last feed at 10 or 11 so could maybe go longer at night.
Her evenings feeds are still a bit over the place as she had colic which is now better but she still unsettled in the evenings, plus shes starting to fight having a late afternoon nap, shes tired but doesn't go off to sleep no matter what we try, so she get a bit cranky and we have given her a dummy which does help her settle,so her feeds are a bit over the place asshe tends to have 5 mins here and there.

Can i do anything to help with DD noises at night? her noises have changed. hard to explain but it kind off sounds like she gulping something.

gizmodo_2

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Just logging in to bump us from oblivion (page 5) and wish Baby Giz a very happy birthday for today.

My LO had her MMR today, I hope it doesn't upset her - we've had six yes SIX consecutive nights of sleep thru's last week.

Awww thanks. How did your LO's birthday go?
DD's was great So glad I did it and ignored the comments that it was a waste of time/effort. The babies seem to have great fun and DD seemed so sad when they all left!

How was she after the MMR? DD has hers a week Monday.

MERFE wrote: »

hiya

Giz happy birthday to little giz x

well we have not given Bob a dummy for his nap today (cried for 5 mins, OH went and settled him then straight to sleep but only for an hour). Tonight I think he knew he wasnt gonna get it because I put him in his sack and he was getting fidgety and looking for it on top the wardrobe, where it normally is. He really screamed, nothing I could do (except give the dummy), I walked out the room to do the older ones milky hot chocolates and thought if he is still crying by the time the kettle boils I'll see if I can settle him but if not give in. Before I got downstairs he had stopped crying. Not looking forward to if he wakes in the night, fingers crossed he sleeps through. Apparently it only takes 3 days for them to get used to the change. I know its for the best and its better to take it away now than when he gets to an age where he can ask for it but when they cry and scream like that and you know it would soothe them, its hard not to just give it and not because I like an easy life (although I do) but because no one likes to hear their baby crying.

Yeah it would be easier now than later I think. How's it going?

jennynoo wrote: »

I'm doing fine, DD is great and the bump is growing and kicking lots. I might actually end up tandem feeding which is not something I ever thought I would do but now I've read a bit about it I'm quite looking forward to it. And since I'm turning into a complete hippy with my child rearing I'm also thinking about natural infant hygiene or EC, has anyone on here tried it? I went to a talk about it last week and there was a mum there whose daughter is 11 months and wasn't wearing a nappy! That would really save some money!

Don't think I knew you were pregnant. How many weeks?

Um, yeah I've heard of that, but not sure I get it myself. Think I'll stick to me washables.

gizmodo_2

Lauralou wrote: »

Ladies you were on page 5:eek:!

Thought i would pop in and say hi. My DD is now 5weeks old, still can't believe i'm a mummy.

Just after some advice

So DD had her first bottle yesterday and she took it. Have expressed again this morning and got 3oz-how much should they be having per feed.?

DD has been 'sleeping through the night' I've started to let her wake up in the night when she wants feeding last night she woke up at 4.45 for a feed but after i put her she really screamed so i did pick her up for a cuddle and put her down and she did it again but after i put her down she went back to sleep until 7.45.
As shes been like this for three night should i now try more off a bed time routine? i usually give her a feed after 9 whenn we go to bed then nappy change and put in her swaddle blanket then bed but thinking off maybe giving her a last feed at 10 or 11 so could maybe go longer at night.
Her evenings feeds are still a bit over the place as she had colic which is now better but she still unsettled in the evenings, plus shes starting to fight having a late afternoon nap, shes tired but doesn't go off to sleep no matter what we try, so she get a bit cranky and we have given her a dummy which does help her settle,so her feeds are a bit over the place asshe tends to have 5 mins here and there.

Can i do anything to help with DD noises at night? her noises have changed. hard to explain but it kind off sounds like she gulping something.

Are you breastfeeding and bottle feeding? Or just bottle feeding now?

If breastfeeding with the odd bottle feed for a break, I would be inclined to say go with the flow and demand feed. I think when I was attempting to bottle feed once a day I was aiming for 4oz. But it never worked out. But I'm sure that was the amount I was told to go for.

As for a routine, go with what you feel is right. I remember we did a bit of trial and error getting things to 'work' for all of us. And also it's constantly changing too. Personally at 5 weeks through to weaning, I was demand feeding. Although I did make a change when she was about 5/6 months where I gave her an extra feed at 10/11 to try and get her to stop waking at 2am...which worked.

wendz86

jennynoo wrote: »

Hello, sorry I haven't been on for ages.


Wendz, I went back to work 4 days a week when DD was 11 months. She was still being BF on demand and fed to sleep but we had no problems with her starting nursery. With the feeding they just gave her a sippy cup with cows milk which I was happy for them to do as I didn't want to express. For a while I had to feed her before work, as soon as I picked her up and at night but gradually she dropped the feed when I picked her up, with a little bit of encouragement from us, and now I only feed her at night. At the weekends though I still did demand feeding and it worked fine, i didn't suffer any problems with supply. Now at weekends I feed her for nap time and bed time and love those times so don't see any need to stop yet. You will just have to see what works for you and your LO, no need to do +1 milk, as far as I can see it's just an advertising gimmick.

With sleep nursery will have their own tactics and DD adjusted fine. At first they rocked her in a pram but after a while they would just put her in a cot and rub her back until she feel asleep. She still sleeps fine there even though I rarely manage to get her to sleep without feeding - I think they just adjust to the different environment and realise there are different rules.
!

Thanks for this, you lot have made me a lot less worried! I have a keep in touch day on Thursday and OH is looking after her. First time I have left her for a whole day so will be strange but sure they will have a lovely day.

I need to get in touch with the nursery as they haven't arranged her settling in sessions yet and she starts in 4 weeks.

Glad the bump is doing well Jenny!

Laura- not really sure on how much they should have as Poppy wouldn't drink from a bottle grr lol.

I agree with the demand feeding but definately worth a try with the feed at 10/11 to see if she will go longer. As Giz said it is trial and error what will work for you.

Not sure about the noises but i found she got a lot quieter with her sleep as she got older so might just be something she grows out of.