MSE Parents Club Part 16

pookie5488

When i woke up today both my big toenails had a distinct yellow tinge all my other nails are fine- how randomly bizarre!

pigpen

Poor Tiddles has a large graze now evident about half the size of the palm of my hand.. and it is all bruised and sore. She said it is hurting when she remembers it but is limping all the time.. I hope it isn't too painful and disturbs her sleep, she is horrible when she is tired.

Their hateful father has said he isn't having them over the easter holidays.. tomorrow I am ringing the solicitor about a contact order.. 1 full week at easter, 1 full week at christmas (27th Dec-2nd Jan) and at least 2 weeks during the summer holidays doesn't sound unreasonable does it? Plus every other weekend fri-sun and the alternate Thurs & Tues in between weekends.

Becles

What's a contact order?

So far this year my ex has had the boys for about 2 hours when he took them out for lunch in January. He sent James an email on his birthday in Feb and we've not heard from him since.

He's got plenty of time to play Farmville on Facebook so he's still around, but chooses not to communicate with the boys.

pigpen

The ones that state who has the children and when.. though I guess if they simply don't want them you can't force them.. I just want the children to know I have made every effort possibe to get him to see them.

I asked DD2 today why she didn't want to go.. she said 'because he doesn't like us' .. how sad is that for a 13 y/o to say about her dad.... it made me cry.. I had to have 'something in my eye' and o to the bathroom to deal with it. They truly believe the only ones he is interested in seeing are the 3 small girls and I can't say I think he is wrong TBH..

Becles

Morning

I've tried everything to get him to have more of a relationship with the children but he chooses not to bother.

The boys are older now and don't really want anything to do with him.

I could never turn my back on the boys, but I get a bit narked that I've had to do all the discipline, sorting out problems and all the less glamorous side of parenting by myself and he's taken no responsibility at all for them. He thinks paying maintenance money absolves him of any responsibility as whenever I've mentioned it, he points out he pays me each month and what more do I want?!

Off to work again this morning with bits and bobs to do. Have a good day all xx

rach

Pigpen that's so sad and upsetting. good on you for trying everything, they will thank you for it one day.

Giz - you're probably on the same parenting forum as me!

I don't leave L to cry really, sometimes i leave him to moan at nap time, but he rarely properly cries without reason, and he gets very worked up very quickly. Plus I'm too soft!

Had a battle for morning nap today, think he has finally gone off, only 45 mins after I put him down! Typical as i need him to sleep by 1230 at lunchtime as I have a counselling appt and I need to take him with me so hopefully he'll sleep!

Our littlelife back carrier came yesterday. I think it's massive and unwieldy but dh refuses to carry L in a 'hippy' sling as he calls them! PLus for coast path walks we probably do need a framed carrier for safety.

elainec

hiya, hope everyone is ok, havent been on much as now back at work so get no spare time!!

just a question as to what to feed H for lunch, hes on 2-3rd stage of weaning, hes eating mashed food, but ive been making up separate recipes for him once a week and freezing it. However this is time consuming and was wondering if there was an easier way. We give him finger food for snacks, cheese, carrot sticks, rice cakes etc. For lunch and tea at moment ive been giving him a portion of the meal ive made . Running out of ideas of what to feed him though!

CL

After an hour or so crying last night (not sobbing and I stood by the cot touching her face), my LO fell asleep in her cot and slept in her cot for 8.5 hours! She had a feed, went straight back into her cot and slept for another 3 hours. I gave her a few extra ounces of formula on top of her last breast feed (she hasn't had any formula in a few weeks) and put an extra blanket on her. So great to have a block of sleep that long!

rach

CL there's a great book called the no cry sleep solution with lots of gentle ideas like that too, I've found it really helpful here. x

CL

Thanks Rach. I'll look it up. I used to watch Supernanny and the baby Whisperer and think "For God sake, there's nothing wrong with the baby. Let it cry and it will soon learn", but it's totally different with your own baby. I hate to hear her crying. At one point during that first hour last night she started to cry a bit harder and I lifted her and she smiled and giggled and snuggled up against me, so I knew I'd been had!