MSE Parents Club Part 16

Becles

I wondered what kh meant as well Love it

I kept pushing my ex to have the boys more, but he just kept letting them down and I didn't like seeing them upset.

He now sees them about 2-3 times a year when he'll have them for a couple of hours and take them out for something to eat.

It's his choice to have that little contact and now the boys are older they realise who puts the work into bringing them up, educating them, buying clothes, sorting problems out, etc

SJP

aless02 wrote: »

If any new mums want to post pictures of their ickle babies for us to googoo over, I won't complain .

I( dont know how to do it!!!!?????

delain wrote: »

It's asking for money then complaining about the lack of homes for cats, when you basically have to be a homeowner living alone with a degree in animal heath before they let you rehome one... hmph.

We had this when we wanted one.... its really unfair.... we got one in the end from one of the smaller charities....

Becles - your little one looks beautiful....

Taken IL to clinic today.... she doesn't weigh enough :eek::eek: what do they want me to do force feed her?? shes not starving and takes her bottles etc.... think the hv got the general gist on what she could do with her centiles......:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

pigpen

I don't think it takes them long to realise who wants them.

I've just thrown a wobbly.. I don't do it often but it is spectacular when I do..

Tiddles clean folded clothes just got pelted down the hallway to the bin and she is in bed without dinner.. the 3 girs have also been made to clean he kitchen after making a revolting mess in there this morning.. so they are shattered being up so early.. tiddles fell asleep in her classroom and missed break..

when I got my old cats who are now 12 they said you couldn't have kittens with under 5's.. so I lied and said they were all older.. DS3 was 8 months, dd2 was 2.5 and ds2 was 4

tsstss7

Pigpen - KH sounds about right in that circumstance - I hate adults that constantly let kids down. I can't understand why they feel the need to make promises at all really if they can't keep to their word.

I'm lucky I guess as my Ex is more ffj than absent parent. He took me to court for more access (overnight in the week) when LO was 5 as I stopped the wed t time thing when he started school (he wouldn't take any time off work so wanted to see him 6-8pm and bedtime at that time was 6.30pm sometimes earlier as LO would aways be knackered after school).

The judge sided with me (in a way) as he gave him the extra night in the school hols and not in term time he asked for. The night in the hols he could have and more as far as I was concerned so was a definate win for me......Cue years of him telling everyone who ever talked to him about how I was trying to stop him seeing his son.

Thankfully thats all over now as LO is old enough to do what he likes (within reason) and so now ex is trying to get him to live with him as its his turn apparantly! Am hoping DS1 doesn't go though as we've got used to him now lol. They grow up so quick though so know it won't be long now before he is (hopefully) off to uni etc.

pigpen

my older ones hate going and often refuse but I get really upset as I want them to be happy to go and pleased to see KH and enjoy their time there but he makes them feel unwelcome.. for example DD1 (16) went for the first time in 8 weeks and he told DD5 (6) that all these people were his family and left out DD1 and DS1 so she said if she is not his family he won't miss her so hasn't seen him in 6 weeks again..

Another time he had them from Friday evening until Sunday evening and the only thing he said to DD2 (13) was 'goodbye' as he dropped them back here.. she was gutted.

He shouts and screams at them constantly and then got on his high horse when one had an accident here and needed stitches in his head threatening to kill me and OH. The children ask if his gf is going to be there because he doesn't shout at them if she is there.. he thinks it is because they like her but they tell me she is ok but they like her to be there so he isn't so vile.. I am saving that one lol.

He told the older 2 girls OH wasn't interested in me he just wanted to abuse them.. and he told the 3 little ones he was a stranger and they are not to talk to him and they are not to do anything he tells them too.. which you can imagine is great when out and about.. he tells them to stop at a road and they ignore him = dead children.. he really is a KH.

ladybirdintheuk

Hi All. I'vr not read back far, but did see the Gorgeous Charlotte picture

Busy times here - we put an offer in on a house yesterday (a proper one with a downstairs loo and a front garden to show off in and everything!) So now we have to get ours on the market quick smart... which means we have to get all those half-finished diy jobs finish and tidy up a <strike>bit,/strike> lot. We will never get it looking like a show home because we need to live here but we can at least have tidy floors with no dirty pants on them and a kitchen where the new paint colour doesn't stop half way round the room!

Becles

He really does sound like a kh pigpen

It's not doing the children any good if he's acting like that. I would back off and not push him into visits and see if they fizzle out. You're between a rock and a hard place here - you feel it's not right keeping the children from their Dad but at the same time, he's causing damage when he sees them. Something has to give, and honestly it's better having happy children with little contact rather than regular contact and getting their heads messed with.

Good luck with getting your house tidied up ladybird and hope you can manage to sell it quickly.

Off to work this morning and nothing else planned for today. Got a bit of an iffy tummy so will probably just potter about at home.

Hope everyone has a good day xx

delain

I second that Becles :T mine are having contact with their dad (supervised) for assessment, with a view to moving on to unsupervised, and he's already saying things he shouldn't to them about me and my OH. The worrying thing is the centre aren't telling me about this and I haven't been asking the children any more than did you have a nice time, so the tell me what they played followed by 'Daddy said...' and it also seems like before that all his attention is on DD1 and the twins are just playing by themselves

Oh and Charlotte looked beautiful in those pictures

Pigpen I think if he's saying that about your OH I'd have been livid and told him to apply for a court order if he wants contact. At least then CAFCASS would ask your girls what they wanted and he wouldn't be able to do jack about it if they said the never wanted to see him again as it would be on the court record that he's horrible to them and they don't want to.

The big monsters are off to my nan's today, then I'm meeting my mum to go to town so that should be nice, to get out a bit.

Good luck Ladybird

Well the washing machine is beeping so I'd better get going, my cunning plan of just putting yesterdays wet washing in a basket was successful as the sun is shining today so I'm going to get dressed (still in my PJ's :eek:)and hang it out whilst Squeak is asleep :j

pigpen

But I want time off.. i know that sounds horrible, but the boys have ASD's and 2 of the girls have difficulty walking etc and I just need a couple of hours every so often. We have another interesting scenario just cropped up.. I just got a letter from hospital regarding DD4 (8) and they want to start her on growth hormone replacement on the 29th.. DS2 has been on it since he was 8 too but KH refusedto learn how to administer the medication, obviously at 15 DS2 has been sorting his own for quite some time but DD4 will need help with hers so I am well within my rights to say she cannot stay overnight unless he learns to administer her medication wouldn't you think? I know it is not detrimental to her health to miss a dose but it is pointless taking it at all if it is not taken regularly. So it will be interesting to see what he says to that one.

delain

I do know what you mean re: time off. Sometimes it really does get too much sometimes.

I'm lucky enough to have family help with that sometimes (actually a lot) and I've got nowhere near as much on my plate as you