MSE Parents Club Part 16

tinkwings

Tesco are having a baby bargains event - 21 march - 2 april

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ethelsmum

DD2 was really off it after the first set of jabs, she slept most of the day with the occasional crying.
2nd lot she wasn't half as bad and 3rd lot gave her no trouble at all.

MV - how was/is he after them?

We had a rubbish nights sleep here for the 2nd night running. She has a cold so not sure if it is that causing her to be so restless.

DD1's nursery used to have a snack table where they could go and help themselves, but I can't remember if the snack was out all the time or if they just bought it out at certain times of the day.

Good luck for your hospital appointment Becles.

MERFE

Morning all

Becles my DD would sit at that table till either its time to come home or all the food was gone. It's really not a good idea to have it there all the time imo.

MV hope little one is ok. Bob was completely unaffected by the first 2, I've had to put off the last lot as he has been poorly. DD and DS got red marks on their legs and were a little fussy and slept more after them but that was all.

Bob is really playing more now and reaching for things. He gets so easily frustrated though - trying to run before he can even turn over typical boy.

Best go wake him up or he'll miss baby bounce an rhyme x

delain

aless02 wrote: »

Exactly. All dog rescues we've looked into won't even consider you with any children in the house under 5. Umm, how are children supposed to grow up and learn how behave around animals? We had animals around since I was a baby, and there was never even a hint of a problem. I think it's a UK-thing, because you'd never find this in America.

Cats protection won't rehome kittens in families with young kids,only older cats who probably already hate kids. Weird eh.

I've been wrapping up the twins birthday presents today, partly to be organised (it's in early April) and partly so I know what the've got and if I still need to get anything

Pouring rain here, lovely. Especially as Squeak's early poo habit rumbles on (ha) had to strip her bed again this morning becauseit exploded everywhere *sigh* might just wash it then keep in basket to hang out tomorrow, and just dry the bits we can't do without in the dryer.

pigpen

Mine still fills almost every nappy.. but she eats like 3 bears.. she likes food.

I have guilt..

KH was supposed to get the girls from school onThursday but found something more important so said he would get them tonight and I said no because they have after school stuff so only 3 would be able to go (though 1 of them probably wouldn't go anyway) I think it is unfair for him to take 2 on a night the others are busy they should all have the option or none.. so I said he can have them at any point over the weekend and he refused to have them so isn't seeing them until Tuesday.

So I now feel like I am mean and won't allow the little pinks to see their dad.. it is partly the principle that he should see them the days we arranged and not chop and change at the drop of a hat or on a whim and partly because I always say yes and let them go because he doesn't see them enough and I don't want to say he can't see them, but I think I am being taken advantage of .. he goes out night after night yet doesn't pay a bean towards the children and expects me to drop everything to accomodate his fancies.

Am I allowed this guilt or am I just being a fool and need to stop being such a pushover because I am so desperate for him to see them???

delain

No, I think you are in the right, absolutely so!

My KH at one point said he wanted shared care (before the courtstuff, when we first split up) but that because his 'job' was unpredictable he'd just pick them up and have them when he wasn't busy because he apparently 'can't control' his hours, so we'd have to sit around all the time waiting for the phone. No chance.

At the end of the day, ou're the one who's thinking about the children, and he'sthe one being selfish

Becles

He can't mess you about pigpen. If he's broken agreements he can't expect you to rearrange everything to accommodate his new wishes.

Been through similar with ex and the boys and it's so frustrating.

I've seen the CT scans they did and my sinuses are blocked and my turbinates are enlarged. She's going to operate and drill my sinuses and remove some of the turbinates and hopefully that will help the steroids and douching flow through my nose better so the congestion will clear.

They've just got the sinus operation stuff in Durham hospital - she just did her first op with it there yesterday! She said she could do it next Thursday or Thursday the 31st. I've opted for the 31st as I'm already booking in for a big job next Thursday and it's a bit short notice to the let the company down.

Bit nervous and it's a horrible op so I'll be in pain for a few days afterwards, but hopefully things will be better once I recover.

It's dress up as a princess or a superhero to raise money for Comic Relief today. Just took my little princess along:

Mazcabs

She looks lovely Becles...

tsstss7

Becs she looks gorgeous!!!

I'm with you lot on the being messed about by ex (what does kh mean btw?) When I split with ds1's dad he was supposed to have him the first wknd and then "something" came up I just said "fine you can have him for your next wknd instead then" (and not my wknd the next week which is what he expected - although he did have wed t time as well then so wasn't having to go 2 weeks between). He's never let ds1 down since! I must admit now thats he's proven pretty reliable I don't mid the odd change every now and again(to accomodate holidays and work stuff etc) provided it is discussed with ds1 first and not made out to be my fault. Now ds1 is 13 it's down to him how often he sees his dad but he's quite happy to keep to the same arrangements - only I get less usually now as ds1 always arranges sleepovers for my wknds as we live nearer to his friends.

pigpen

tsstss7 wrote: »

Becs she looks gorgeous!!!

I'm with you lot on the being messed about by ex (what does kh mean btw?) When I split with ds1's dad he was supposed to have him the first wknd and then "something" came up I just said "fine you can have him for your next wknd instead then" (and not my wknd the next week which is what he expected - although he did have wed t time as well then so wasn't having to go 2 weeks between). He's never let ds1 down since! I must admit now thats he's proven pretty reliable I don't mid the odd change every now and again(to accomodate holidays and work stuff etc) provided it is discussed with ds1 first and not made out to be my fault. Now ds1 is 13 it's down to him how often he sees his dad but he's quite happy to keep to the same arrangements - only I get less usually now as ds1 always arranges sleepovers for my wknds as we live nearer to his friends.

kn0b head.

I don't mind being flexible but when he lied and said he had booked a holiday at half term then was seen by 2 different people during that week it pee'd me off.. and then he promises to pick them up from school and texts at 2:30 saying he can't/won't so I have to go and they are so disappointed. He is far too busy living the single life to be interested in having the children.. he doesn't pay a penny towards them or even offer to help with trips and uniforms and proms and stuff.. so why should I be all accomodating, sod him..

Last September he said he wanted them fri-sun 1 weekend then pick up from school the following Thursday then the following Tuesday then back to his weekend... he hasn't et done this consistently.