MSE Parents Club Part 16

Metranil_Vavin

Evening gang - well my rash is still here, and itchy, and I woke up this morning with my right eye all swollen and puffy. It looked like I'd done a couple of rounds with Mike Tyson! I also had quite a few red blotches on my face..nice. They seem to have gone down a bit now, thank goodness.
I also went out with Josh in the pram BY MYSELF to the shops! Go me!!! :j
What people must have thought though seeing a pale and washed out looking woman, with a swollen eye and blotchy face, I don't know! OH refused to come with me as he thought people would think he'd been beating me up!
My night alne without OH and Josh was weird. I kept waking up thinking I was feeding Josh, and would be searching in the bedclothes for him!
It did help though, and when OH brought him in at 7am for a feed, I latched him on easily. My boobs were quite swollen though, think it was because I hadn't done the middle of the night feed.
Becles - thanks for the tip. I'm never taking penicillin again. My mother has a bad allergy to it, as does OH. It seems quite a common thing.
Sir M - thanks hon. The BF'ing does seem to be getting easier, and less painful which is great. I brought one of those feeding pillows from Mothercare, and it really helps me get him positioned nicely.
Smartie - has Daisy always only slept for 6ish hours a day, or is it something that's happened as she's got older? Josh sleeps a fair bit at the moment, which is great. He'll kip for an hour or so, wake for a change and a feed..have a bit of a play and then go down again. He does seem to have a barmy couple of hours most evenings at around 7-8pm.
M-it-3 - sorry Nina is only sleeping a couple of hours a day. That must be exhausting. I've been reading this book that a friend recommended to me:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1841881856/ref=oss_product
It might be worth you having a read of it too, it seems to have some good tips on helping your baby get into a sleep routine from a young age.

moonbeam2007

Ok here goes.

My lovely son is 3 yrs old and I am being told that I 'need to let go a bit'.

He goes to Nursery a few sessions for 2 1/2 hours but that's not the problem. I have not let him stay away from home not with anyone as I feel he is 1] very young - no rush 2] he likes being with Mummy and I love being with him too

But it's driving me mad being told 'you need to let go' 'your not doing the right thing for him' WHY??? he's 3 not 23.

Now granted he hasn't stayed anywhere, only once when I was taken into hospital over night and left the next morning I was with him by 9am and hated it not being with him. I worry I really worry and maybe Yes I worry too,,, much but he's my whole world and I really enjoy our time together. I don't need a break as people sometimes say, I don't NEED him to go away for a weekend or over night.

He only has me, his Dad has spend past 3 years popping in and out his life and hasn't seen him since july last year. I am over protective of him but isn't all Mum's??

Am I being wrong by not letting him stay away? He doesn't seem to want to when he's asked but I'm told that's my fault.

Don't know what to think

concerned43

I am an over protective mother to my 12 year old and I am always being told to 'let go of the apron strings'. I will when I feel he's ready but I do not think this applies to a 3 year old. Your his mummy and your job at that age is to love and protect. If you don't want him away from you then don't! Trust your motherly instincts and you can't go wrong.

SkintGypsy

Vile people! I have only left my five year old DD a couple of times overnight. Am frantic at the thought of her going to stay with her grandparents for a week in the school holidays. Needs must as we have no other childcare options, but it will break my heart. You are perfectly normal, in my eyes anyway!

Pink_Princess_1

I understand where you are coming from. LO is 3 next month and slept at my parents for the first time 2 weeks ago and that was so we didnt have to take her there early as we were both working. I am a big worrier also but she was fine and I won't worry too much if she has to stay there again. I love having LO with me and usually the only time shes not with me is while I am at work. She sleeps in our bed which dosnt work for everyone but we dont mind and we all get sleep.

Do what you feel is right and ignore everyones comments, he is your child and you know whats best for him

lindseykim13

What a total load of rubbish, i spend nearly 24hrs a day with my 3 kids (we homeschool) they see friends, family go to clubs etc but with either me or dh with them. The older 2 spend some time out at friends houses etc but never for long. They enjoy being with me and i enjoy being with them. Don't let anyone put you off doing what you think is right. None of my kids have spent weekends/nights away with grandparents etc as there is no need, they only live local!
At 3 they are still babies as far as i'm concerned and i don't see why there is such a rush in this country to push kids into growing up so quickly. My eldest did start going to nursery and i had to force him into toilet training before he was ready. Now i leave them all to progress at their own speed. He's now 8 and quite happy to go round to friends houses and not so bothered about spending all his time with me, they soon grow up!

happy35

my DS is now 15 but when he was little he didn't stay anywhere as I just hated being without him, he didn't really stay away from home until he was about 6 and asked to stay at a friends house. I did let him stay but lay awake all night worrying about him.

I do still worry but have managed to let go a bit as he has grown older but dont think there is anything wrong with what you are doing, you know how you feel and if you are happy your little one will be happy

DS slept in the same bed as me and his dad until he was about 5 and even after that came in with us if he woke in the night for at least another year

hitatotatus

Don't worry. :A
You sound like me and, I am sure, many other mums. I was very "intense" with my children and think it is natural as your first instinct is to protect your child. The time will come when you need to start to loosen the apron strings (about 12 years old imo!) and that will feel natural too.
It is my policy not to allow sleepovers at friends, although they stay with their grandparents and aunt and uncles occassionally.
Also, would certainly not leave them until they were old enough to express themselves, just in case something untoward happened - not nice to contemplate but what with the nursery scares lately it is something to consider (a new case today too!). They need to be old enough to tell you when something is wrong.

moonbeam2007

concerned43 wrote: »

I am an over protective mother to my 12 year old and I am always being told to 'let go of the apron strings'. I will when I feel he's ready but I do not think this applies to a 3 year old. Your his mummy and your job at that age is to love and protect. If you don't want him away from you then don't! Trust your motherly instincts and you can't go wrong.

Thank you that is how I feel, to me he's still so young and it's just a lovely stage he's at. I had him why on earth would I want a break from him.

Thank you

moonbeam2007

lindseykim13 wrote: »

What a total load of rubbish, i spend nearly 24hrs a day with my 3 kids (we homeschool) they see friends, family go to clubs etc but with either me or dh with them. The older 2 spend some time out at friends houses etc but never for long. They enjoy being with me and i enjoy being with them. Don't let anyone put you off doing what you think is right. None of my kids have spent weekends/nights away with grandparents etc as there is no need, they only live local!
At 3 they are still babies as far as i'm concerned and i don't see why there is such a rush in this country to push kids into growing up so quickly. My eldest did start going to nursery and i had to force him into toilet training before he was ready. Now i leave them all to progress at their own speed. He's now 8 and quite happy to go round to friends houses and not so bothered about spending all his time with me, they soon grow up!

Agree totally, thank you it's mad me see it's not just me being OTT.

My lad only started Nursery last Sept a few hours because he starts big school this Sept and he'd not long of turned 4 so I was worried if I left it too late it would be hard for him. It's only 2 1/2 session few times a week and I hate even that, I miss my little Moonbeam

I think having kids and spending time with them is a wonderful thing and I don't want to give that up yet.