Does anyone else find it hard to make friends?

Drea

jinky67 wrote: »

me three:cool:

Hey Jinks

jinky67

Drea wrote: »

Hey Jinks

:hello: what you doing in Cardiff?:D

Drea

jinky67 wrote: »

:hello: what you doing in Cardiff?:D

Not really sure :rotfl:

Got a job and just sort of went for it, why not eh

How's tricks?

jinky67

Drea wrote: »

Not really sure :rotfl:

Got a job and just sort of went for it, why not eh

How's tricks?

Quite right as well:T:T

tricks are just fine....now;):cool::j

pebbles88

Drea wrote: »

Yeah exactly, I'm happy to sit somewhere that is more chilled, I can't stand clubs at all or ridiculously busy places, they just stress me out and make me want to go home :rotfl:

Listening to your song on YouTube now you oldie!

eeek cheeky!!! im only 30! :rotfl:

jinky67

pebbles88 wrote: »

eeek cheeky!!! im only 30! :rotfl:

great now I feel old:mad::mad::mad::mad::(:(:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Drea

jinky67 wrote: »

Quite right as well:T:T

tricks are just fine....now;):cool::j

Now? Did I read somewhere you were moving too?

pebbles88 wrote: »

eeek cheeky!!! im only 30! :rotfl:

:rotfl: Maybe that cheek is where I'm going wrong

pebbles88

jinky67 wrote: »

great now I feel old:mad::mad::mad::mad::(:(:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Dont Be silly!!

Drea wrote: »

:rotfl: Maybe that cheek is where I'm going wrong

Cheekiness can never be wrong!

FelinePrincess

Hi!

Can I join in? I agree with many of the statements on this thread, never been someone with a huge group of friends and have drifted apart from those I did have due to them moving, lives changing, or chose to distance myself from them due to them being fairwether friends/users. I would love to have a couple of friends to just chat to and go places with occasionally. I am self employed and work on my own so end up getting quite lonely, I live in north wales so bit of a rural area with my partner, I'm 24 and get on well with all ages but I am told I'm old for my age so I think I'm best suited to friends a bit older then me.

I often feel like people wont be interested in hearing what I have to say, or about me so don't tend to talk about myself much so I don't know what impression this gives when I meet people and even though I don't consider myself to be a shy person I'm too shy to make the first move with potential friends so maybe i give the impression I'm not interested. I always feel like everyone else already has established groups of friends so it's hard to break into a group and tbh, I'm not sure I want to be in a big group, I'd just like a couple of friends to do stuff with now and then and txt/speak to/email regularly so I can have a bit more human contact when I'm working!

moneypuddle

Sorry, haven't had a chance to read all these posts but let me assure you that you are most definitely not on your own. I am 90% sure that most people go through a bit of a "dry spell" in their lives in terms of relationships and friendships and when you're awar of it, and find yourself actively seeking people out to become your friends, your situation becomes even more apparent and harder to deal with.

Just to try and give you a litte hope .... just a year ago my life was completely different. I was trapped in a dead-end relationship with a man that I had been with since I was a child, and although nice we wanted different things out of life and I had to take the step to leave him and start again. We'd been together from 16 to 24 and it was a really hard choice to make and one I certainly don't regret. I used to constantly worry about not having 'enough' friends and not being sociable enough whilst I was with him and although it wasn't actually his fault, I didn't feel he helped me in any way.

Well since coming out of that relationship, I just seem to have found new friends.

Friend A = old school friend. We stayed in touch via letter throughout uni then became really good friends and after and she is now my best friend. I see her usually once a week

Friend B = girl I used to work with, and now has a young daughter. I see her every couple of week around at hers for a girly gossip

Friend C = I work with and see her every day.

Friend D = a girl I meet for a drink/lunch with every month or so

And genuinely I have found ... that is all I need. By chance it happenes to be one I see every day, one every week, one every couple of weeks and one every month and I am happy with that. I have various workmates and acquaintances too, but dont feel lonely at all anymore and actually I learnt to enjoy my own company too. Couple with a new boyfriend, life feels very different now in the space of a year.

Basically what I'm saying is you never know whats around the corner, and sometimes if you stop looking so hard, what you have been searching for might just find you
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