Does anyone else find it hard to make friends?

DatabaseError

Anyone that thinks sitting with a pot of tea (coffee in my case) rather than something alcoholic spoils a holiday is someone I (and you) don't need as a friend....but I really am quite boring...but I can be that sober

Pebbles, someone extended the invitation to me to PM them if I wanted to talk, feel free if you want to as I'm probably quite a nice guy (and opening to strangers did help me!)

Hoopylass

I just wanted to join in here as Im feeling a wee bit down about the friends thing too.
My best friend has recently moved down to england and im mssing her loads. Ive got friends but they all have different commitments and priorities than me. They have kids, boyfriends and going out is not always an issue for them. They seem to favour the nights in the house which is great however Im single and would love to meet someone but im not going to meet anyone sat in someones living room.
Sometimes I get really down and can go for days without hearing from anyone and that gets me down, sometimes it would be nice to be invited places rather than me having to make the 1st move all the time.
I know my situation is slightly different but sometimes it can be just as lonley having friends as having no friends.

DatabaseError

Hoopylass wrote: »

....but im not going to meet anyone sat in someones living room.

I met my wife of 17 years in someone elses's living room

Hoopylass

DatabaseError wrote: »

I met my wife of 17 years in someone elses's living room

Lol well unless I turn into a lesbian that aint gonna happen for me:rotfl: Girlie nights in are not the way to go!

There_Goes_Trouble

Hoopylass wrote: »

sometimes it can be just as lonley having friends as having no friends.

Snap!

I have got friends, however my best friend lives 200 miles away and my other best friend is ten minutes away but is married with her own family. I'm single and often feel like I don't want to intrude on their family time unless invited. I am close to my own family but again, I'm the only single childless one and they really don't need me hanging around all the time. A third close friend moved to the Channel Islands....

I do know a lot of people, I work full time, I play badminton twice a week with different groups of people and I go to dog training, but still there is no one I can just call and say 'wanna go out tonight?' I have many aquaintances but not actual friends.

Like just now, I'm bored and got no one to talk to. Can't ring friend 200 miles away because she's a single Mum with young children so can't sit and chat and leave her kids unsupervised. (I might ring her later though). Local friend, I know she is out for the day with her family. I texted my sister but she didn't reply so I guess she's busy. Brother and family are away. Parents are away. I'n not that close with work friends that I can call them.... and so it goes on.

I tried 'meet up' but didn't find anything much on there. I found a dog walking group but they wanted a lot of personal info before I could even join and I don't give that much out to strangers on the internet. I also found a badminton group but it turned out to be about 25 miles away which makes it an expensive game once you factor in the diesel costs to get there!

*sigh*

Drea

I find it hard to make friends too.

I have only just moved to Cardiff from Edinburgh, but even in Edinburgh I never went out, got home from work and sat in the house all night online, watching TV or reading. Weekends were a struggle as I don't have a lot of spare money and mostly spent them again sitting in doing nothing.

Now I've been trying to force myself out at weekends, usually just wandering the shops around town because sitting inside all day isn't good for anyone! But would love to have a friend or two to catch up with now and then. Problem is that I'm only 23 and most people my age want to be drinking all night and while I don't mind sitting in the pub having a drink I am not into clubs and getting completely drunk anymore.

pebbles88

Drea wrote: »

Now I've been trying to force myself out at weekends, usually just wandering the shops around town because sitting inside all day isn't good for anyone! But would love to have a friend or two to catch up with now and then. Problem is that I'm only 23 and most people my age want to be drinking all night and while I don't mind sitting in the pub having a drink I am not into clubs and getting completely drunk anymore.

snap, im not into that either now, i am a few yrs older than you granted, but i got sick of it a long time ago. I have the odd night out every now and then, but prefer sitting in the bars that are open til 1ish and the ones that play my kind of music! im not sure what genre you would call it, but i love love love luther vandross never too much.

but then the day after i regret it as i feel like i have been hit by a bus!

Drea

pebbles88 wrote: »

snap, im not into that either now, i am a few yrs older than you granted, but i got sick of it a long time ago. I have the odd night out every now and then, but prefer sitting in the bars that are open til 1ish and the ones that play my kind of music! im not sure what genre you would call it, but i love love love luther vandross never too much.

but then the day after i regret it as i feel like i have been hit by a bus!

Yeah exactly, I'm happy to sit somewhere that is more chilled, I can't stand clubs at all or ridiculously busy places, they just stress me out and make me want to go home :rotfl:

Listening to your song on YouTube now you oldie!

jinky67

pebbles88 wrote: »

snap, im not into that either now, i am a few yrs older than you granted, but i got sick of it a long time ago. I have the odd night out every now and then, but prefer sitting in the bars that are open til 1ish and the ones that play my kind of music! im not sure what genre you would call it, but i love love love luther vandross never too much.

but then the day after i regret it as i feel like i have been hit by a bus!

Drea wrote: »

Yeah exactly, I'm happy to sit somewhere that is more chilled, I can't stand clubs at all or ridiculously busy places, they just stress me out and make me want to go home :rotfl:

Listening to your song on YouTube now you oldie!

me three:cool:

Februarycat

DatabaseError wrote: »

well...I decided to be pro-active.
Yesterday I joined a dating website (fishy one), today i've exchanged over 200 text messages with someone, and a couple of phone calls, and we're out for dinner tomorrow. Not saying ~I'm fixed, but 1 less stranger, maybe 1 more friend?
...and she knows i'm nervous as hell...it does show..she thinks it's sweet

Good luck DB, I know the website you mean, I joined that when I got divorced, well still one it but never really get any messages so bother much now. Its not easy when you have been married for a long time and getting back on the dating scene again, well Im not finding it easy. Enjoy your date.