Think he was just a wee bit 2 honest. ( long, sorry)

Bitsy_Beans

jojo90 wrote: »

I love the way the girls on this thread think they really know what goes on in a guy's brain . Trust me, we are masters of deception when it comes to getting in your knickers .

Put it this way, if you stood any of those guys in front of their long term porky parter, then stood an attractive, slim, pert, and perky girl next to her... then offered him the choice?

KeeeeeeerCHING!!! UPGRADE!!!

What you mean as a species you have finally got one? Is it one between you all? Do you have to share?

clairehi

blushred2 wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies.

I rang him, and he offered no apology, or enquired as to how i was today after that amazing conversation last night.

I gently reminded him of waht he had said.. His reply was i was just trying to give you the kick up the bum u need, the doc has told u.
i'm just repeating what he said.

I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at the minute. but i reached for a kiwi instead of the usual bar of choc.

Gotta start with small steps.

Take care everyone. x

I am sure we all agree he doesn't sound like a very sensitive soul...OP only you can judge whether his intention is to help you or to undermine you. So much depends on what he is like the rest of the time.

Good luck with the weight loss and please, remember it is much easier to lose the weight if you start now and do not delay. It gets harder the older you are.

Any

blushred2 wrote: »

I've lost nearly a stone from i saw the doc in may, yeah it could have been more. thats what i meant when i said i was playing with dieting.

I've just had to go back and re-read what you wrote and I still read "I've only been playing with the idea of dieting".

If you are trying hard and he just gave you a dig then yes, he is a pig.

If you believe he meant to "be cruel to be kind" then it is something else again.

I read mixed messages from you now.

Any

blushred2 wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies.

I rang him, and he offered no apology, or enquired as to how i was today after that amazing conversation last night.

I gently reminded him of waht he had said.. His reply was i was just trying to give you the kick up the bum u need, the doc has told u.
i'm just repeating what he said.

I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at the minute. but i reached for a kiwi instead of the usual bar of choc.

Gotta start with small steps.

Take care everyone. x

Blush sorry to be blunt, but what would that apology be?

"I am sorry love I didn't mean what I said..."...

And then you are back to square one, just more doubtfull.

You seem to be unsure in yourself, and him.. up and down.. very mixed messages..

If you think giving him a kick will make you feel better, do it.

jayII

blushred2 wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies.

I rang him, and he offered no apology, or enquired as to how i was today after that amazing conversation last night.

I gently reminded him of waht he had said.. His reply was i was just trying to give you the kick up the bum u need, the doc has told u.
i'm just repeating what he said.

I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at the minute. but i reached for a kiwi instead of the usual bar of choc.

Gotta start with small steps.

Take care everyone. x

Oh honey! ((((Hugs))))

I didn't say it before, but if my OH (of many years), ever said anything like 'lose weight or I'll leave', to me, I'd be incensed, and he would have to work very hard to convince me to stay with him. I'm also a larger lady.

I totally adore him, but love has to be a two-way thing, and you either want and love someone, or you don't. Relationships are tough enough without one of us having an attitude like your boyfriend's.:(

Oh, and as for the 'not attractive' comments, our love life is red hot and sizzling, 7 nights a week. He can't keep his hands off me. :j

jojo90_2

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

What you mean as a species you have finally got one? Is it one between you all? Do you have to share?

Oh I fully accept that women are superior to men in ever conceiveable way. I totally adore women and my life would be dull without them .

I don't think there is anything that a women can do that a man can do better... so with that in mind... the hoover is in the cupboard my love

Bitsy_Beans

jojo90 wrote: »

Oh I fully accept that women are superior to men in ever conceiveable way. I totally adore women and my life would be dull without them .

I don't think there is anything that a women can do that a man can do better... so with that in mind... the hoover is in the cupboard my love

Oh good. I assume them you'll take the role of my Husband then - here's the iron and the ironing board - because he's the one that does it in this house not me

jojo90_2

:money:

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Oh good. I assume them you'll take the role of my Husband then - here's the iron and the ironing board - because he's the one that does it in this house not me

Iron Man is a superhero... Iron Women is a command .

Bitsy_Beans

jojo90 wrote: »

:money:


Iron Man is a superhero... Iron Women is a command .

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

It might be but it won't get you laid

<wanders off daydreaming about Robert Downey Jnr>

ecgirl07

jayII wrote: »

Oh honey! ((((Hugs))))

I didn't say it before, but if my OH (of many years), ever said anything like 'lose weight or I'll leave', to me, I'd be incensed, and he would have to work very hard to convince me to stay with him. I'm also a larger lady.

Is he really saying "lose weight or ill leave" or is he saying in the future i want a partner who is happy healthy and able to safe carry a baby and be an active parent.

We all have these conversations early in a relationship and yes maybe he should not have done it drunk, its still a conversation that has to happen if the relationship is to progress. These conversations cover many topics, while a couple finds compatible atiittudes to money/debt, drugs/alcohol, cats or dogs, etc etc.

The guy is right to put his cards on the table and it is up to the OP to respond, does she want the same things in life and does she want to work towards it or not?

If the op came on saying my bf wants me to stop taking recreational drugs/stop smoking/stop drinking/stop harming myself and live a healthy life so much would he be getting slated?