Think he was just a wee bit 2 honest. ( long, sorry)

balletshoes

ailuro2 wrote: »

just read your post about the Eurodisney trip - is there anyone else you could take with you, pay for a name change instead of losing the money?

just trying to be MSE:money:

Thats a great idea, take a friend, take a sister, cousin etc. Its not just for kids, if you go with another adult you could have a fabulous time, and it would be a real break from day do day life :T

spuddy1

I am so sorry about what has happened to you but you are so much better off without a destructive person like that in your life. It sounds to me blushred like the main reason you wanted him was so that you had someone to have children with. 6 months is not long enough to make a decision like that and your life could have ended up so much worse if you had got pregnant with him.

Children are not the be all and end all of a great life, but if you do want children so badly why don't youthink about adopting one?

You need to learn to love yourself and learn to be happy alone before you can ever truly be happy with anyone else. Life is what you make it and if you want your life to change you have to take some steps towards that.

I wish you all the luck in the world and my thoughts are with you at the moment xx

ailuro2

The holiday idea is a good one - Portugal has just come out top in an investigation into the cheapest place to holiday in Europe this year.(Price of beer, bread, jelly shoes, pedaloes and a sun lounger)

Why not grab a last minute deal and go take your pic from sex on the beach, love in the afternoon, a screaming orgasm or just a plain bloody Mary? Most of these places have poolside bars where they can rustle up a delicious looking martini / cocktail.:D

POPPYOSCAR

if you feel fed up over the weekend and can get online come on here and we will do our best to cheer you up!!

ninky_2

i tell my OH if he's getting a bit too much belly and i expect him to tell me if i need to tone up. i would hate to have an overweight partner and i know that i'd be unhappy if i was overweight myself.

i also nagged him to stop smoking (which he has).

looking after yourself shows respect for yourself and also respect for your partner.

balletshoes

ninky wrote: »

i tell my OH if he's getting a bit too much belly and i expect him to tell me if i need to tone up. i would hate to have an overweight partner and i know that i'd be unhappy if i was overweight myself.

i also nagged him to stop smoking (which he has).

looking after yourself shows respect for yourself and also respect for your partner.

fine, but if you didn't tone up quick enough, would your OH tell you to go hang yourself???

POPPYOSCAR

balletshoes wrote: »

fine, but if you didn't tone up quick enough, would your OH tell you to go hang yourself???

.... and also if you don't he will find someone else?

top_drawer_2

blushred2 wrote: »

Thank you all so much for ur comments.

its his birthday today, and i've left him alone as requested.
i've returned the gifts i'd bought him

Regarding the holiday, i'd only put a small deposit down, nothing that is going to annoy me greatly to loose.

I just feel sad. The guy has a few problems of his own, and i would have liked them sorted.
Only knowing him 6 months, i would have loved a child with him, but at the back of my head was always the thought that i didn't know him well enough. didn't want to rush into things.

My life is not as i expcted it. it would have been nice to have been like everyone esle i know. married with kids by a certain age.

I wish him only the best, and even though he has shown his true colours. i still love and care for him. I'm no longer wanted!!!

But as so many have said, gotta move on, do this for my self.

Have a lovely weekend everyone, i will be trying hard to fill an aching empty void.

hey,

You sound very lost and regretful of your life......

I decided to lose some weight 5 weeks ago now and someone suggested Rosemary Connolly classes; you should definitely look it up online if you want to look at losing weight..... there is no push to get down to a "perfect weight" here so you could just aim for a stone for the time being. I find that the more in control of my life I feel then the happier I am.

What is it you do for work? I think you are focusing too much on wanting a child; its really not the be all and end all if you dont ever have children. Have you thought about going off and doing something you have always wanted too.

I am looking at volunteering in romanian with children who were abandoned in the Checeous (sp) regime, or a working holiday in Cuba as I am really interested in the communist regime - mainly just for a change of lifestyle and perspective on my sh!tty job.

Jen

Magpye

OP, congrats on your sudden loss of several stones of completely dead weight. No matter how good-looking you think he is, he's still a useless, thoughtless bag-o'-flesh if he can put you down like that.

I suggest now that you focus on treating yourself WELL, rather than dieting. There is a reason there is a weight-loss INDUSTRY... and does any industry want to do itself out of clients really? Suggest you focus instead on being more active and reducing your blood pressure, which may or may not have an impact on your weight. Check out the HAES movement for more information.

Angelic

blushred2 wrote: »

i was too emotional after he had only been trying to 'gee' me into action.

he actually told me to go hang myself...

I'm angry on your behalf because I can't believe someone would be so cruel. It's a cliche but it's true- you are better off without some shallow fool who can talk to you like you are nothing , berate you when you need support and act cold towards you.
Losing weight can't happen unless you are ready mentally especially if you have been bigger all of your life. I wish you luck and after your posts you really deserve some:(

Dpn;'t usually send pm's because i'm shy but hope you don't mind the fact i've just sent one.