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Am I being awful?
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I know I would feel awful, but i am older and wiser now and sure i dont want anything more.0
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Despite many of us asking topsym you have not answered the question of how you would feel if your husband were doing the same thing behind your back.please listen to MFD - she is a wise woman
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Sorry to keep harping on here, but OP you ASKED if anyone has been in a similar situation. I have posted my experience which you seem to be ignoring. Are you ignoring it because I mentioned that it stirred up old emotions? Are you ignoring it because I split with the partner that I was originally with? Or have you genuinely not read my post?Don't worry about typing out my username - Call me COMP(Unless you know my real name - in which case, feel free to use that just to confuse people!)0
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I know I would feel awful, but i am older and wiser now and sure i dont want anything more.
so the question is, if you would feel awful if your husband was doing this to you (as stated above), are you actually willing to carry on doing this to him and potentially take it further by actually meeting this guy
if the answer is yes then i think you have the answer to your original question, and also i feel that you would seriously have to ask yourself some deep questions about your marriage
as in my mind you should not be married if you are willing to do something to your partner, that if they where to do back to you would make you feel awful/angry/upsetDrop a brand challenge
on a £100 shop you might on average get 70 items save
10p per product = £7 a week ~ £28 a month
20p per product = £14 a week ~ £56 a month
30p per product = £21 a week ~ £84 a month (or in other words one weeks shoping at the new price)0 -
I have a friend where the situation is maybe a little like this. We have been friends for a long time and been through a lot together but one or both of us has always been in a relationship. At the moment we are both in relationships, me a very solid one I wouldn't jeopardise and he is in a much newer relationship that probably won't become serious. Shame as she is a nice girl. I think we both know that were we both single at the same time we would want to get together and I think we would be well suited. We are good friends and there is nothing more. My boyfriend knows him and likes him, I know and like his girlfriend, I am still in touch with several of his exes, he came to my exes funeral.
For years I was friends with my boyfriend before we got together, when he was married and I was in another relationship and there was nothing wrong or lustful in that friendship.
On the other hand, I am not sure how it would work if we had slept together. I do have male friends who I have previously slept with, but always it's been the case that I wouldn't have happened again.0 -
clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »Sorry to keep harping on here, but OP you ASKED if anyone has been in a similar situation. I have posted my experience which you seem to be ignoring. Are you ignoring it because I mentioned that it stirred up old emotions? Are you ignoring it because I split with the partner that I was originally with? Or have you genuinely not read my post?
Sorry,I hadnt seen your post, probably hidden amidst the anger on the board. I am going to be telling OH about the reunion if it happens, but I genuinely think that I just want closure on this,no sordid affairs just to clear my curiousity and keep in touch.0 -
My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »Despite many of us asking topsym you have not answered the question of how you would feel if your husband were doing the same thing behind your back.
I have! see above0 -
Sorry,I hadnt seen your post, probably hidden amidst the anger on the board. I am going to be telling OH about the reunion if it happens, but I genuinely think that I just want closure on this,no sordid affairs just to clear my curiousity and keep in touch.
You want attention, and you're no doubt thriving on this."An arrogant and self-righteous Guardian reading tvv@t".
!!!!!! is all that about?0 -
Sorry,I hadnt seen your post, probably hidden amidst the anger on the board. I am going to be telling OH about the reunion if it happens, but I genuinely think that I just want closure on this,no sordid affairs just to clear my curiousity and keep in touch.
Is this the "reunion" you're looking to create simply because you want a kosher reason for getting together with this guy?"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
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