Am I being awful?

Kazz81

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Following post 114, the gist of which is "hopefully...the op will be back moaning about her marriage breakdown" my point being it isn't something to be wished for as there's a baby involved.

I think the baby involved is belong to the guy from uni not the OP. I meant when her husband finds out what her intentions were he probably wont want anything to do with her, so no hubby and no uni guy either

heretolearn_2

You've got your mind made up so what's the point of asking us?

Don't come running back for sympathy if yours/his marriage breaks up over this.

You know you are playing with fire. What do you hope to achieve by seeing him again? 'Closure'? In any innocent way, that isn't going to happen. You fancy this guy. OK, that isn't a crime. But how is that helped by continuing to meet up with him? That's just going to make things worse.

Most people do face temptation at some point. Those who care about remaining faithful steer well clear of it. Those who play around like it's a game, are the ones who destroy lives.

There must be problems in your marriage you aren't facing up to for this to be anything more than an idle thought about a uni friend. To track this man down and have fun feeding up your lust/desire/fantasies, is not healthy to your marriage.

How would you like it if your husband met up with someone they lusted over in the past and just HAD to see? Would you think that was ok?

thorsoak

The past is a different country to which we cannot go back!

flossy_splodge

shellsuit wrote: »

She contacted him.

Ah, ok, thanks.

flossy_splodge

Mrss wrote: »

OP said she contacted him.
Do not feel sorry for me - I can trust my husband - its silly slappers like the OP who think its ok to jeopardize marriages/relationships that deserve pity.

I only hope she loses everything and lives the rubbish life she deserves.

I wasn't feeling sorry for YOU but for her.
I don't wish anyone harm, I just hope she might get real before it all goes belly up.
And I think the situation is sad for ALL involved as he too seems to be looking over his shoulder at what might have been.
I count that as disloyal but none of us is perfect.

flossy_splodge

gonzo127 wrote: »

haha me and my mate used to joke that we was going 'trouting' when we went clubbing in a sense of casting our line out and seeing if we could get some dumb creature to gobble our bait...

oh how crude and mature we were back then :rotfl:

That at least makes a bit of sense for me now so thanks.:rotfl:

sashadesade

I'm a bit late to the party, but in answer to your question: yes, you are being awful. The reasons why have been stated numerous times but seem to have soared over your head continuously.

Sometimes you should leave the past in the past. As for unanswered questions, I suspect the only question you really want answered is whether you could still have him now if you wanted him.

flossy_splodge

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

You might be referring to my story there rather than OP's...

Ah, OK, I was in fact referring to hers.:beer:

gonzo127

flossy_splodge wrote: »

That at least makes a bit of sense for me now so thanks.:rotfl:

glad to have been helpful, of course the explaination is what me and my mate used it for i am sure others use it in a slightly different way.

although it has brought up some interesting memories for me...

shoppaholic_returns

I have just read through this thread, and TBH yes the OP is being silly, but there is no justification for the ridiculous and childish namecalling?:mad::mad::mad:

Really, the individual has come for advice, and has NOT actually done anything, just IN THE PAST been in lust, as I'm sure all of us have been at times.

I dont believe the OP from reading the replies to be in lust now, but was in lust at university. There's a difference!


Yes the OP, needs to look deeper into things, but I really object to this vitriolic spout, frustrated or not, especially when it is coming from the people telling OP to grow up!!!

Do what you need to do OP, but I urge you to look deeper, before jumping too quickly!!!