Am I being awful?

robin_banks

topsym wrote: »

So nobody on here has thought impure thoughts about anyone, whether they be a superstar or the man next door or on the beach on holiday. Most people must be unfaithful in thoughts then!

Just have your quiet candlelit, suck his schlong afterwards , do whatever you want.

But lay off these boards.

You're getting tedious.

robin_banks

topsym wrote: »

So nobody on here has thought impure thoughts about anyone, whether they be a superstar or the man next door or on the beach on holiday. Most people must be unfaithful in thoughts then!

Why don't all meet up as couples and have a foursome?.

Alternatively just dont come on here with your made up stories.

shoppaholic_returns

Oh and to add, at least OP has come for advice before doing anything, Which indicates a concience, AND GOT SLATED FOR IT!

So maybe some of those commenting of how ashamed they are of what she MIGHT OR MIGHT NOT, do may look closer to home??;)

shoppaholic_returns

robin_banks wrote: »

Why don't all meet up as couples and have a foursome?.

Alternatively just dont come on here with your made up stories.

do you really think this is made up, why?? strange thing to make up??

shoppaholic_returns

sashadesade wrote: »

Sometimes you should leave the past in the past. As for unanswered questions, I suspect the only question you really want answered is whether you could still have him now if you wanted him.

I think this is the case, but still no excuse for the horrid comments from the more verbose posters.

robin_banks

shoppaholic_returns wrote: »

Oh and to add, at least OP has come for advice before doing anything, Which indicates a concience, AND GOT SLATED FOR IT!

So maybe some of those commenting of how ashamed they are of what she MIGHT OR MIGHT NOT, do may look closer to home??;)

No they sought validation and permission to wreck 2 marriages.

No that any of it is true.

Nixxx

OP, you know you shouldn't meet this guy otherwise you wouldn't have asked on a public forum.
You also know that you haven't been completely honest about him to your OH.
You know too that if you meet up with him there is a likely chance that something will happen.
It doesn't matter that the last 7 pages have answered your question because:

YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER

You need to wake up!

robin_banks

shoppaholic_returns wrote: »

do you really think this is made up, why?? strange thing to make up??

There's no end of made up threads, read a recent one entitled "Hello", same paragraph structure, punctuation etc.

WestonDave

In terms of the original question - at some stage in this "journey" you are either going to find that what you are tempted/enthralled by at this time isn't worth it, or you are going to have to control your response to the temptations or you are going to end up wrecking at least one relationship.

If you seriously thought the first option was likely then you wouldn't be as desperate to follow this up, you'd be expecting him to be the sort of person that you might like a phone conversation with once every five years, and the fact that you've recently had that phone conversation recently would be enough. It isn't because there is still "chemistry" and so realistically you are left with the two remaining options as being the most likely outcomes. Yes it is possible that you meet him and find that he's fat and bald with bad BO but that is really a hope that fate will get you out of making an adult choice.

So if you discount that as a likely option, either you control your response to temptation now, or you have to control it when you meet him and find that whatever his response to you, you still want more of him. It is probably far easier to control yourself now than when you've added more fuel to the fire - so if you've got any sense, delete his email address, lose his phone number and get on with valuing what you've got. If you happen to bump into him in 5 years time fine but don't go chasing something that could be explosive.

robin_banks

shoppaholic_returns wrote: »

I think this is the case, but still no excuse for the horrid comments from the more verbose posters.

Not half as horrid as potentially leaving a child without a father to satisfy some 'lust'.