Am I being awful?

topsym

I'm not gonna make any decisions for a good while yet and nothing will be sorted if it does happen until a reunion can be organised cause I wont for everyones sake see him alone.

I'll keep you all posted, on what does or does not occur.

Thankyou xx

clearing_out_my_pockets

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I want your story Not my poxy "never gonna see each other again" one :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::D

Nah you don't. M had a tendancy towards stealing from me and being violent. Realistically if I hadn't got together with him way back in 2000, I probably would have ended back 'on' with J anyway!

pickledonionspaceraider

Thats the thing with these boards, there are an awful lot of people who make assumptions and judgements based on a paragraph rather than sharing their own experiences as you asked. This is an interesting thread.
to the OP - in my humble opionion I would leave well alone, its a can of worms best left unopened, and you yourself said you wouldnt be happy if your husband did this, Uni is over chick, you are a married woman now and not the same person you were at uni, you have a memory of this guy as he was way back then. If I found out that my husband went off to meet an ex, I would go wild to be honest and quite possibly go round to her house to find out what the heck is goin on - not trying to scare you honestly, its just one perspective.
However, if you DO decide to go, dont say on here, or the loons will have a field day!!

Think carefully and dont get caught up in fantasies. If you decide NOT to go, you continue in a loving marriage, no problems there..however if you do, you potentially stir up trouble - its a no brainer if you ask me hun. be careful.

GracieP

topsym wrote: »

I agree! but how to stop my enquiring mind?????

Invite him and his wife and child over to your house for Sunday lunch with you and your husband. It's what I'd do if I innocently wanted to reconnect with a guy from my past.

clearing_out_my_pockets

topsym wrote: »

We have spoken about families, children etc and I cant say that we wouldnt speak about that when we met up, but I would like to see the person I knew from back then, and talk to him,as i dont know them.

As for the control issue, I was a little OTT on that issue,for which I apologise. I think it would be more about me wanting to find out what all those years back was going through his mind.

Just to pick up on this one... You wouldn't be seeing the person you knew then. He is 12 years older and his wife and child make him who he is. Presumably you're not the same person as you were 12 years ago...?

poet123

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

Thats the thing with these boards, there are an awful lot of people who make assumptions and judgements based on a paragraph rather than sharing their own experiences as you asked. This is an interesting thread.
to the OP - in my humble opionion I would leave well alone, its a can of worms best left unopened, and you yourself said you wouldnt be happy if your husband did this, Uni is over chick, you are a married woman now and not the same person you were at uni, you have a memory of this guy as he was way back then. If I found out that my husband went off to meet an ex, I would go wild to be honest and quite possibly go round to her house to find out what the heck is goin on - not trying to scare you honestly, its just one perspective.
However, if you DO decide to go, dont say on here, or the loons will have a field day!!

Think carefully and dont get caught up in fantasies. If you decide NOT to go, you continue in a loving marriage, no problems there..however if you do, you potentially stir up trouble - its a no brainer if you ask me hun. be careful.

And where have you shared your experience?

SailorSam

If you're only going to meet up with an old friend from Uni, would you be telling your husband where you're going ?

minnie123

topsym wrote: »

I wouldnt be happy, but if he felt he had to do it to resolve issues from the past,or just to meet to see how she had done in life then I would let him. I speak to the few exes I have had and dont want to have sex with them,but i must of felt something for them in the past,as mrx and my husband has no issues,they are friends as is mrx

If my BF felt he had to meet with an ex to see how she had done in life I would not be happy and I could see it being the end of us if he ever did anything like that because I would never feel as special again. Best to keep fantasies in your head.

garthdp

Well having read through the thread all tthe replies seem to be saying a big fat DONT DO IT the name callers,the ones who chummy up and call her 'hun',the rude, the polite, the ill informed the well informed, Uncle Tom Cobbleigh and all.

I guess some people just cant be told whats good for them.

Go Topsym run and meet this fantasy man who will one day have a beer belly, greying or balding hair,fart like a trooper and all the other things that you probably think he is not and have your fun.But do us a favour,dont bother reporting back cos no one gives a monkeys.....

shoppaholic_returns

And that's why your'e posting is it Garth??