Feeling lost

gratefulforhelp_2

Becks I hope we haven't frightened you off.

Mutter_2

Have had notification from MSE that over 5 attempts were made last night to infiltrate my account, password though withstood. The IP was my own.

My IP, for reasons I wont bore you with, is a million miles from where I live. Someone obviously managed to get it.

Gained through a link or a PM. Mine I believe was to reply via PM.

Not to be paranoid, but take care of links and replying to PM's.

gratefulforhelp_2

scary and a bit weird.

misgrace

beckseven wrote: »

Do you know what Gratefulforhelp-I'm half expecting this too. He has been so critical of me recently, he has been acting strangely-not coming to bed when I do and sleeping on the sofa because 'there's no point', always fiddling with his phone and now having two phones-one's a work phone, shouting at me and saying that I am boring because I watch telly in the evenings. He just seems very dissatisfied with things and me and he isn't prepared to go to counselling or anything. I know I'm not the perfect wife-especially since the second baby came along and I went back to work- maybe I've been so wrapped up with stuff that I've neglected him-i don't know. I got married for life but I'm too proud to beg him to stay. If he has got someone else then I don't want him anymore.

Is there someone else in wings?, as I feel all this attacking you verbally, and making out your the bad one is because he has met someone else, and rather than come out with it, being the coward he is, he is being downright nasty to you, hoping you will say 'ok, I'v had enough' and that gives him a clear run to pusue his new woman, or the single life, I could be wrong, but why has he suddenly turned like this, you dont wake up one morning and turn on your partner unless there is a reason, and sorry to say, but the one that comes to my mind, is that he has someone else.:(

gizmo111

Seems sadly that the OP has disappeared - hope she is OK and it's not all the bickering and insults on the thread that are keeping her away.

beckseven

Hi-blimey have just logged on and seen all the comments on the thread! I'm so grateful for everyones advice-great to get a lot of different viewpoints and I really appreciate it. Basic update-DH cold facade cracked last night and he apologised saying that he had taken things too far and that he didn't mean what he had said to me all weekend. We had a long talk and he said that he wasn't having an affair and he was just very angry with me. We have decided to try again and have some counselling and make a lot of changes on both sides. Whereas I'm really upset about the whole traumatic weekend and upset about being put through that by him as I feel it was a nasty and unnessary thing to put me through if he didn't 'mean it' I don't want to end our marriage which I went into believing was for keeps without trying to save it. However if he uses this as a threat again I am armed with the knowledge of what to do so it wouldn' t seem so scary a thing to go to-although it isn't what I want. Thanks a million for all your help and I'll keep you updated.

Pixiechic

Great news beckseven, I am pleased that you managed to resolve it.

Good luck with the counselling and great decision.

Take care

shellsuit

Ahh, glad you managed to sort things out Becks, good look for the future xx

minnie123

Becks really pleased it's sorted for you - I suspected he didn't 100% mean it and was just trying for a reaction - guess he has some growing up to do and hopefully you have shown him that his behaviour didn't get him the desired effect and you are stronger than that. I hope it all goes well for you, some people say people can't change,but from personal experience I know they can xxxxxxx

gratefulforhelp_2

Glad you're ok becks. Did he say why he was so angry with you?