Holiday or not?

GEEGEE8

bylromarha wrote: »

Not. .

It unanimous then lol. Everyone thinks the same as me.. stupid boyfriend is wrong, yet again.

paulwf

Apologies for going on about him again but I just re-read one of your posts OP...he's a 33 year old bloke and still living at home!!!

Sounds like he just wants to live for the moment and wants to have a high disposable income and blow it all on holidays. You are looking to the long term and want to better yourself and you'll get even more independence than the considerable amount you already have when you go to uni.

I bet if you leave him he will still be living at home when he is 40. My advice would be to make the most of uni, this guy is just going to get in the way of working and having a student based social life.

2nd_Time_Lucky

paulwf wrote: »

Apologies for going on about him again but I just re-read one of your posts OP...he's a 33 year old bloke and still living at home!!!

Sounds like he just wants to live for the moment and wants to have a high disposable income and blow it all on holidays. You are looking to the long term and want to better yourself and you'll get even more independence than the considerable amount you already have when you go to uni.

I bet if you leave him he will still be living at home when he is 40. My advice would be to make the most of uni, this guy is just going to get in the way of working and having a student based social life.

:T

OP- i would just let him drift away, he really doesnt sound very pleasant, and if he is being a selfish !!!!! now...imagine what he will be like a few years down the line. Time for you to think about you methinks

mrcow

£1000 each.

Well I guess it depends how many of you there are.

Edit: It's just you. Just go. Life's too short and far too steep to be carrying pointless baggage.

Have a lovely time.

January20

Ah this is the "awkward boyfriend" of your other thread isn't it? The one who wasn't keen on spending time with your mum when she visited? At least he is consistent in his selfishness! So, no, I wouldn't go on that holiday if I were you!

GEEGEE8

January20 - yes, this is the same boyfriend..

I didn't text him back, he text saying he wasn't in a mood and sent a pic message of something he does at work, I didn't reply. Then he tried to ring and I just don't want to talk to him.

In the awkward boyfriend thread I was taking a lot of the blame for his behaviour myself by the end of it and I guess it's all come around full circle again.

Yes, he's 33 and lives with his mum. I hate it. I left home when I was 18 and was in an 8.5 year relationship with my ex. My current boyfriend has never moved out and never had a girlfriend really before me, never more than 2 months anyway from what he's said.

He/we decided about moving in together in the spring/summer next year, but only because I pushed the issue a few months ago. I don't want to live with him though, certainly not at the moment. I don't even want to spend the weekend together.

He's a lovely bloke most of the time, but it's things like this that I feel pressurised into doing or buying and I can't seem to make him understand that I can't afford it.

He's immature, selfish and likes to do things his way. I'm more laid back and easy going and I like change and trying new stuff.

I get frustrated so much with things (as you can tell by now). I don't want to give up on it all, but I'm becoming increasingly aware of how much it's affecting what I want to do.

GEEGEE8

paulwf wrote: »

Apologies for going on about him again but I just re-read one of your posts OP...he's a 33 year old bloke and still living at home!!!

Sounds like he just wants to live for the moment and wants to have a high disposable income and blow it all on holidays. You are looking to the long term and want to better yourself and you'll get even more independence than the considerable amount you already have when you go to uni.

I bet if you leave him he will still be living at home when he is 40. My advice would be to make the most of uni, this guy is just going to get in the way of working and having a student based social life.

I think you are spot on!

I'm gonna just get on with things for now, not tie myself down to any holidays etc and look forward to uni and meeting new people and doing new things.

firesidemaid

GEEGEE8 wrote: »

I know texting is the spawn of the devil, but;

Me: "so you've not starting being funny since I said about the holiday"

Him: "shut up, not everything is about you"

OMG! my OH says that - think they must have been separated at birth lol (he/we are older even:rotfl:)

also, he may be immature and selfish because he has lived at home for so long and is used to doing his own thing and getting his own way - you'll have to reward his 'good' behaviour and ignore the 'bad' behaviour. you're not going to study psychology by any chance are you?

all said, nobody's OH is perfect, it all about compromise (on both sides though). tell him that week/price is not good, give him the other options and let him choose one so that he feels he has also had a say in it. the other thing to do would be to leave it and see how your relationship goes and book something last minute for that week.

GEEGEE8

firesidemaid wrote: »

OMG! my OH says that - think they must have been separated at birth lol (he/we are older even:rotfl:)

:rotfl:it really irritates me when he says that.. especially when it's plain that they are being selfish and then they accuse you of thinking of yourself..

January20

mrcow wrote: »

£1000 each.

Well I guess it depends how many of you there are.

Edit: It's just you. Just go. Life's too short and far too steep to be carrying pointless baggage.

Have a lovely time.

Life is short yes but it can also be incredibly long and painful when you have been made redundant a few weeks ago, you are about to go to university and you had £1600 of savings, but spent £1000 on a short 1 week holiday and then you find you have no money to pay for the bills, or to feed yourself or buy books that you need. (Especially when the same holiday could cost 1/2 that price at another time of the year).