Holiday or not?

GEEGEE8

Bit of a dilema. Me and OH are keen snowboarders and are looking at going on holiday this winter.

Due to his work making him take a week off at Christmas we were looking at going from 26th Decemeber, only problem is the price!

It's going to be £1000 in total.. (each!)

I've kinda said that I don't want to spend that much money. The week after is half that price!

I am starting my first year of uni in Sept, and since being made redundant in May, I've somehow managed to gather a nice savings pot of £1600. Partly due to having to sell my car as the cambelt went and I couldn't afford to fix it.

I would rather go later in the year when it's half the price, but I know my OH will moan about his holidays.

Spoke to my mum who said I need to be selfish and do what's best for me, and £1000 is far too much.

Don't know what advice I'm looking for, just wanted to see how you would handle this?

TBH - as much as I want to go, I'm happy not going and using my holidays from uni to do temp work, especially at xmas when it should be busy with overtime etc..

Pee

He needs to take that week off work but does this mean he can take another weeks holiday when you are also off when the prices are cheaper?

If you don't want to go, that is fine, but hopefully you wouldn't mind if he went with a group of friends instead?

It is a lot of money and I wouldn't want to go then, I'd try to find another week instead, especially when as a student you may need to spend that savings on books, a computer etc

GEEGEE8

Pee wrote: »

He needs to take that week off work but does this mean he can take another weeks holiday when you are also off when the prices are cheaper?

If you don't want to go, that is fine, but hopefully you wouldn't mind if he went with a group of friends instead?

It is a lot of money and I wouldn't want to go then, I'd try to find another week instead, especially when as a student you may need to spend that savings on books, a computer etc

He can take another weeks holiday yes, he has a further 3 weeks to take, but doesn't want to 'waste' this week and so wants to fill it with the holiday so he can use the other days for things like mid-week football matches etc. lol.

I don't think he would go if I weren't going, but he could do yes.

I think I'll suggest another week where it'll be more like £500 each, and then I'll still have my savings.

I'm annoyed because he is being 'funny' with me now.. short with texts etc..

Pee

Another week sounds a much better idea to me, and maybe plan some good things to do in that week off. I don't know how much the Tamworth Snowdome would be then or how far you are away from it - or whether there will be any good football matches that week..

I expect we all get a bit "funny" when we are disappointed and don't get exactly what we want. Hopefully he'll be over it by this evening.

GEEGEE8

Pee wrote: »

Another week sounds a much better idea to me, and maybe plan some good things to do in that week off. I don't know how much the Tamworth Snowdome would be then or how far you are away from it - or whether there will be any good football matches that week..

I expect we all get a bit "funny" when we are disappointed and don't get exactly what we want. Hopefully he'll be over it by this evening.

Ha! I actually live 1 mile from the snowslope in Castleford, Leeds.. Altho I used to go Tamworth when I lived at home in the midlands

I guess I'll just have to state my case and get on with it. If he doesn't like it then fine, but he brings in double what I do and has large savings and a nice car. I however, no longer have a car, have to get a part time job once I start uni and am living off my income insurance policy until uni starts.

We don't live together either, so I am totally self sufficient. I don't want to be scrimping for money when I'm studying, I'm much happier now that I have nearly 3 months worth of bills behind me in savings.

MacCavity

Myself and husband go on skiing holidays every year for Christmas/New Year and never spent that much. Would you consider looking at cheaper operators? For example we use Equity Ski and Erna Low a lot and haven't had any problems.

GEEGEE8

MacCavity wrote: »

Myself and husband go on skiing holidays every year for Christmas/New Year and never spent that much. Would you consider looking at cheaper operators? For example we use Equity Ski and Erna Low a lot and haven't had any problems.

I'll have a look at them now.

The problem is that I would be quite happy booking through most places, he however almost 'demands' to book through Thomson Ski..

Any

I think your mum is right. It's not even being selfish - or at least not on the level he is being selfish!!

He wants only what is good for him without looking back at your situation. You are starting Uni, it will cost you. Over that you are still willing to go on holiay, but you have to watch your money. What he wants is to have all of the cream and eat it, even if you were dying of mal nutrition(SP?).

How about him paying the difference for you if he really wants to go that week?

I completely understand where you are going - I am enjoying traveling out of kids holidays before I have some and have to pay the ridiculous prices.

Maybe tell him that another plus of going the week after will be that the ski sloups won't be full of kids!!

BitterAndTwisted

If he's that keen to take this week off over the Christmas period rather than using up his holiday entitlement then I think he should pay for your holiday as well as his.

paulwf

£2K combined for a holiday when you don't have an income coming in and are about to start uni...I wouldn't do it. Personally I wouldn't even go on the £500 each holiday.

If there are money issues now what is it going to be like when you are a couple of years into your course and there will be a massive differential in your savings/earnings by then? Is he really willing to subsidise you through your course or alternatively drastically reduce his lifestyle?

BTW if you could live together that might well reduce your combined outgoings by 25% or so. Is that an option?

GEEGEE8

Any wrote: »

I think your mum is right. It's not even being selfish - or at least not on the level he is being selfish!!

He wants only what is good for him without looking back at your situation. You are starting Uni, it will cost you. Over that you are still willing to go on holiay, but you have to watch your money. What he wants is to have all of the cream and eat it, even if you were dying of mal nutrition(SP?).

How about him paying the difference for you if he really wants to go that week?

I completely understand where you are going - I am enjoying traveling out of kids holidays before I have some and have to pay the ridiculous prices.

Maybe tell him that another plus of going the week after will be that the ski sloups won't be full of kids!!

He is known to be selfish yes, so that's not a big suprise that he is being like this..

No doubt he'll think it's my fault for going uni lol.