how to stop loving someone and let them go

denton6

RacyRed wrote: »

How are you today Wendy?

have sent you a mesage

RacyRed

denton6 wrote: »

have sent you a mesage

((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))

Michelin

Hi Wendy, how was the weekend? Today is the start of a new week so what have you got planned??

sunflower_2

hi wendy.

my husband left me on thursday and i know how you are feeling, i feel a physical pain, like someone sitting on my chest :eek:

we have 2 tots ages 3 and 4 and i hav a teenage boy from previous marriage.

it has taken a couple days to read thru all the posts on here and to be honest i was selfishly expecting to see you totally over it all by now (which would give me hope and courage).
at least i can see sometimes it does take a while to go through the grief stages...

i dont think my hubby went off to be with someone else, but i suspect he has got close to his friend's daughter over the past few days. it hurts nomatter how hard i try to not think about it.

there hasnt been any form of equalness in our marriage for some time, i felt like he just wanted me as a slave.
my heart is breaking thinking of the ickle ones...

very unlike me - i did realise begging him was no good whatsover and have therefore had no contact except brief replies to his business-like texts. in the past i have been not much short of a crazed stalker

life goes on - we will all be brave together xxxx
:A

denton6

hi have had a very bad weekend, but nothing due to ex this time, just wish this world would stop being so cruel. saturday made me realise that there is even worse happening to others around me , especially this weekend. gonna be a hard week but today i will hug my boys and let them know how much i love them. you really dont no what is a round the corner. am only hoping this is the end of all the heartache for me , my boys, my family and my friends. one special friend needs a very big hug today i wish i could give her that, but she does know i am thinking about her.

Michelin

denton6 wrote: »

hi have had a very bad weekend, but nothing due to ex this time, just wish this world would stop being so cruel. saturday made me realise that there is even worse happening to others around me , especially this weekend. gonna be a hard week but today i will hug my boys and let them know how much i love them. you really dont no what is a round the corner. am only hoping this is the end of all the heartache for me , my boys, my family and my friends. one special friend needs a very big hug today i wish i could give her that, but she does know i am thinking about her.

Oh Wendy, I am so sorry you have had such a bad weekend. Whatever has happened, you will be a good friend to you her. xx

mineallmine

Hugs to sunflower and denton.
I think in the heart of all this pain, it's good to try and find something, even if small, to smile about. So here is a video about a real man, a pilot shot and then landing his helicopter. There are real heroes out there:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RXJBCXHtUgM

Eager_Elephant

Hi denton

Long time lurker here!

I don't know your financial situation but if you only work 16 hours I assume you receive child tax credits.

If you do you should be able to claim up to 80% of childcare costs with your Tax Credits.

Do you have any local childminders who will take children early in the morning? If you do maybe she could do the week days freeing up your parents to do weekends when needed as obviously they are not as sprightly as they were.

EE

denton6

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Hi denton

Long time lurker here!

I don't know your financial situation but if you only work 16 hours I assume you receive child tax credits.

If you do you should be able to claim up to 80% of childcare costs with your Tax Credits.

Do you have any local childminders who will take children early in the morning? If you do maybe she could do the week days freeing up your parents to do weekends when needed as obviously they are not as sprightly as they were.

hi yes i am on tax credits, hadnt thought about childminder to be honest. think my parents would feeel abit put out though cos at the moment i think they think this is the only way they can help me. also boys are going through enough at the moment and dont want to upset them more, but def something i can look in to for the future. having a very tough week, but this time it is for my very dear friend , life is just so cruel sometimes. tonight my boys have has a great big hug and our cuddle up together bedtime story. hugs to all who need it, especially my special friend and her family x

mineallmine

Take care denton. Give all your kids extra hugs.