how to stop loving someone and let them go

mineallmine

HI denton6, that photo sounds lovely.
You know you could take that photo and have it made into Christmas cards - say at Boots or online at Bonusprint. YOu can even have the wording pre-printed inside. What a great way to say this is what is important in this world, me and my gorgeous kids, looking great.
How about some pampering tomorrow, top to toe?
My positive is a really long walk in the sunshine and then a lovely sleep in the afternoon, bliss.

denton6

having a very bad day, our cat who is 21 isnt doing to well and so i took her to the vets this morning, the time has come for us to say goodbye. two little ones have just cried since they have come home from school and i have just cried all day. i brought her home so we can say our goodbyes and taking her back tomorrow morning. she seems to have gone down hill more this afternoon, her kidneys are failing and the vet said we need to consider letting her go fairly soon. part of me thinks was i wrong to bring her back today so we can say proper goodbyes. seems like this house has nothing but tears, just one thing after another. hard to just cope with day to day stuff without this. i know she has had a long a happy life but seeing her sleeping on the sofa now is breaking my heart. 9 year old has begged me to bring her home and bury her, the vets have told me different options and i thought creamation and then for us to scatter her ashes. dont know what will be the best. still have to tell our oldest son yet, need to ring him later. he has been away from home but sooty still has a very special place in his heart as she does in ours.

beachbaby_2

Oh, Wendy, like you haven't been through enough already. (((Hugs))) to you and your boys. There isn't really anything I can say to make this easier for you right now. I remember the pain when I had to have my dog PTS last year. You will know when the time is right. That is the one thing I hold on to- It was definitely the right time and he didn't suffer. Do what you think is right. Love to you all.

consultant31

I'm so sorry to hear about your cat - pets do wind themselves tightly round the heartstrings don't they?

We've had several dogs and cats (not to mention hamsters etc) over the years and they are all buried in the garden.

When my children were younger, they used to have a proper 'funeral' for them with a box and a hymn. It seemed to help them understand that all creatures die but that we can still carry on loving them even when they're gone and the memories are there for ever.

Hugs to you all

denton6

have just given her some tuna fish, she has been on same prescription food for years for her kidneys, but tonight it feels so right to give her a little treat.all the boys know now it is so hard,just want to protect them right now.

Nelski

denton I know i haven't posted on here before so I know this will come over as harsh but to be honest it is frustrating that you are making this your own personal chat thread when there are many more outlets for discussing sadness/depression/good days/bad days/general chat elsewhere on the boards. You have had a long time to start dealing with this and I do think the BGs have been kind to let you continue but seriously why don't you join one of the other support groups on MSE? This board is supposed to be about moneysaving in families although I know you would never know it sometimes - posts like yours are given the right respect but 3 months down the line is a long time imo

I am sorry you split with your hubby its not nice and that your cat is ill thats very sad too and i really do feel for you - on the other hand you have a chance of a new start and maybe a better life

sorry to be harsh

mineallmine

hi denton6. so sorry to hear about your cat. lost ours earlier this year to kidney failure - its very common in cats. your s has done incredibly well to survive with it so long. you are doing the decent thing and your darling cat has loved you for 21 years, wow.
we had our cremated and they all 'live' in a wooden glass cupboard. yes we probably look mad but they were our babies.
take it easy.

squidge60

Sorry to hear that :grouphug:

RacyRed

It never rains but it pours. I'm so sorry to hear about Sooty.

xxx

Michelin

Nelski wrote: »

denton I know i haven't posted on here before so I know this will come over as harsh but to be honest it is frustrating that you are making this your own personal chat thread when there are many more outlets for discussing sadness/depression/good days/bad days/general chat elsewhere on the boards. You have had a long time to start dealing with this and I do think the BGs have been kind to let you continue but seriously why don't you join one of the other support groups on MSE? This board is supposed to be about moneysaving in families although I know you would never know it sometimes - posts like yours are given the right respect but 3 months down the line is a long time imo

I am sorry you split with your hubby its not nice and that your cat is ill thats very sad too and i really do feel for you - on the other hand you have a chance of a new start and maybe a better life

sorry to be harsh

But this is her own personal chat thread; she started it and if she wants to continue on here then she has every right. She may not feel ready yet to join other threads and she is getting lots of support on here and posting when she feels able.....some people just need to take things more slowly in their recovery and aren't ready immediately to jump all over the board.