how to stop loving someone and let them go

squidge60

Sorry my last post seems harsh just feel its all eating you I feel the same as Racyred dont know if i should post anymore not trying to make you feel worse.:( x

beachbaby_2

RacyRed and Squidge60, please don't stop posting. I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to upset anyone or jump down your throats with my post. I just feel I was sticking up for Wendy a bit as she seems a bit more fragile than me at the moment. Oh heck, now I feel awful. I know we also need nagging and pushing to move on, it's just that I am also experiencing the same pain right now and know how horrid it is.
Please, please don't stop posting on my account.

squidge60

beachbaby wrote: »

RacyRed and Squidge60, please don't stop posting. I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to upset anyone or jump down your throats with my post. I just feel I was sticking up for Wendy a bit as she seems a bit more fragile than me at the moment. Oh heck, now I feel awful. I know we also need nagging and pushing to move on, it's just that I am also experiencing the same pain right now and know how horrid it is.
Please, please don't stop posting on my account.

Oh goodness now i feel bad because you feel bad i didnt feel you were having a go just that after i posted i thought maybe it was to much to soon and thought about deleting i am to honest for my own good sometimes (and yes i am abit like that in person )but when things are written they can/do come across wrong.Beachbaby i had looked at your thread but wasnt to sure what i could give in a good way/positive way.I hope both of you can /do see some way through this .x:grouphug:

beachbaby_2

Thanks. I'm sure we will. I've managed a good day today. Even looking at booking a holiday for the three of us next year!

beachbaby_2

Wendy, glad you had a better day. (The crying is rather exhausting isn't it?) x

consultant31

Denton, You have one amazing positive every day - you have 4 healthy children who love you. In all honesty if someone asked me to choose between losing my children or my husband, I would choose to keep my children every time and hubby knows that and understands.

I do understand that you're unhappy, I don't understand why you can't see that making your children unhappy too won't help the situation.

Do please at least pretend that things are fine in front of the little ones, my heart goes out to them, they have no control over what's going on, poor little things. Who knows, if you pretend hard enough, you may begin to believe it yourself too

RacyRed

beachbaby wrote: »

RacyRed and Squidge60, please don't stop posting. I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to upset anyone or jump down your throats with my post. I just feel I was sticking up for Wendy a bit as she seems a bit more fragile than me at the moment. Oh heck, now I feel awful. I know we also need nagging and pushing to move on, it's just that I am also experiencing the same pain right now and know how horrid it is.
Please, please don't stop posting on my account.

No Sweetheart don't feel bad! No-one is upset, honestly!

I knew I was walking a very fine line with my posts on here but really am only doing it because something similar was done for me once, I benefited greatly from it even though it was absolutely horrible at the time. So now, when lovely ladies like you and Wendy post, I remember the debt I owe and try to give something in my turn.

But being so heartless in posts really doesn't come easy, I think I was jumping on an excuse to stop to be honest.
You are quite right to stick up for Wendy :T And I'm sticking around.

Back on track!

Positives today

My tomatos didn't rippen - but I love green tom chuntey :rotfl:

It didn't rain all day.

denton6

my very large positive for today, i got my new family photo delivered and i love it, i have a large frame with one large photo in the middle of me and my boys and then six other photos on it, i got the photographer to re use a frame i had that had bad memories, it was a limited adition print of a heart called share the love which ex bought me for our anniversary, unknown to me at the time that was the january and he had cheated on me in the december and then the feb. the name of it said it all. so tonight on my bedroom wall in that frame i have all my four boys looking down on me.

RacyRed

denton6 wrote: »

my very large positive for today, i got my new family photo delivered and i love it, i have a large frame with one large photo in the middle of me and my boys and then six other photos on it, i got the photographer to re use a frame i had that had bad memories, it was a limited adition print of a heart called share the love which ex bought me for our anniversary, unknown to me at the time that was the january and he had cheated on me in the december and then the feb. the name of it said it all. so tonight on my bedroom wall in that frame i have all my four boys looking down on me.

Nice one! Well done

beachbaby_2

That sounds lovely Wendy. Good for you. I am waiting for a memory stick of photos from our last holiday which has a photo of me and my girls. My mum wants a copy as well. Had a few glasses of wine this evening and feeling the effects. Hope I will be ok as I have re-arranged my bedroom furniture today. Could be fun if I wake up in the middle of the night to go to the loo - I will be walking the wrong way!!
Best wishes. X