how to stop loving someone and let them go

denton6

hi i wont actually see the solicitor tomorrow, i went a while ago to sort but she didnt think i was strong enough at the time, she needs marriage certificate, my wage slips and tax credit letters. filled in the forms at the time but still need to proceed. thanks all off to bed now x

denton6

squidge60 wrote: »

Sooooooooo on a positive note the time you have not got the boys try to do something for YOU. What about hair/makeup new clothes gym.etc etc.:)

am working tues morning and have my new maths class starting in the afternoon, them working wednesday morning. it's the nights that i find hardest when it's tea time etc. no point in making food just for me. least i will lose some weight lol though not sure how much i should lose. had to get some new work pants yesterday cos others had gone to big. nite all and thankyou

rachel6188

night huni. stay strong and i hope your doing ok xox

Michelin

denton6 wrote: »

am working tues morning and have my new maths class starting in the afternoon, them working wednesday morning. it's the nights that i find hardest when it's tea time etc. no point in making food just for me. least i will lose some weight lol though not sure how much i should lose. had to get some new work pants yesterday cos others had gone to big. nite all and thankyou

So in addition to the positives that I and others have posted for you, you actually have a whole lot more Wendy - good for you!!

denton6

havent had the best morning, boys have gone to ther dads after school and so was getting myself in a mess over that cos wont see them till after school wednesday.tonight will be another night in the house all on my own which at 41 is fairly scary when i can prob count on one hand how many times that has happened. councilling i cried most of the way through it, last month i felt so positive, think for today hopefully i am all cried out. have been shopping and got myself a reduced salad from morrisons which looks nice, least this way i will prob eat some tea. have got the heating on and have got a facepack to put on when i soak in the bath shortly. god i'm 41 and seem to be getting one big spot after another at the moment.may even have a glass of wine to sip in the bath.councilling prob has helped today have got my next appointment in two weeks, last time cos i felt positive i said i would try a month in between.
she made me realise i'm not going mad just having so much to take in at the moment, oldest son has gone to uni, little ones now staying with dad some nights since he has got his own place. she thinks i need to focus on ME. i have always put the others first. she did realise that everytime we tried to speak about me i turned the conversation or rather my tears back to ex. she thinks if i think about him i should say to myself stop , think back to me what do i want. kind of makes sense so i will try and do that. least i have a fairly busy day tomorrow , work in the morning and then maths group in the afternoon. think i need to keep busy. work does make it hard sometimes cos i bake instore bread so am in the room on my own which does give me too much time to think sometimes. think i may need to change my job though cos early mornings and all weekend doesnt really fit in with the boys.

Michelin

Wendy, I think the counselling is going to do you the world of good and she certainly seems to be saying the right things. Well done on choosing a few things for you to do tonight - including eating!! Try and make these evenings without the boys all about you and doing nice things like you are doing this evening - it is quite luxurious to get time to yourself when you are a mum so enjoy it!!

dumpy

You've overtaken me on the positives today

Reduced salad, facepack, soak in the bath :j

I had a truly applling nights sleep, I think I woke every hour and so I felt like I had a head of cotton wool today. Work was so hard.

However, keeping with the positives, I um.....

managed to get 3 for 2 on cimmanon danish pastries. :rotfl:

Believe me this afternoon when I was really suffering from lack of sleep they were a lifesaver.

Good to hear you had a good counselling session.

mineallmine

good to hear you are pampering. that is so important. take care.

consultant31

I managed to get a Cranky the Crane for my little Grandson dead cheap from eBay - I'm chuffed to bits and can't wait to see his little face when I show it to him

Regardless of whether I have any more positives for today, this one will keep me going for ages........my GS is so gorgeous and loves his Thomas the Tank Engine so much - ooh I can't wait :rotfl:

Hope you're feeling good today Denton.

RacyRed

Hiya

Your councellor sounds good Hun, that is great advice she gave you.

Make sure you plan nice treats for yourself when the boys are with their dad overnight, you'll soon get into the swing of it

My positives today:

Got a first review from my new job, seems like I'm doing OK thank goodness.

Managed to get from A to B today without getting lost - VERY unusual for me.

And best of all I found a new wool shop which has some gorgeous stock at really good prices. I'm like a kiddie in a sweet shop in there :rotfl: