how to stop loving someone and let them go

rkoziol7

It is brutal maybe - but if you start to look for another man there is a chance that you will forget about the present.

Love can't be compelled but you should try to help yourself.

Chakani

Do your children become bad people when they do something they shouldn't? No, of course not, and you don't either. It was a silly thing to do, and you know it wasn't the right thing, but you are still a good mum, and your boys need you to be strong and stable for their sake. Just promise yourself you won't do it again, and move on, make today a more positive day. Do something today that puts a smile on your face, even if it's just for a few minutes, no matter how small it is.

I would second ecgirl07, very sensible advice.

:grouphug:

RacyRed

Print what ecgirl07 has said and put copies of it all over your home.

I know so many of us are seeming harsh now, but it is because we are really worried about you.

Our sympathy hasn't helped you break the pattern of self destructive behaviour you have gotten into. So now we are being brutally honest with you. I hope we have shocked you enough into wanting to break the pattern yourself.

YOU CAN DO IT WENDY, C'MON GIRL, YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN THIS.

dumpy

What's done is done. You can only move on.


You need to draw a line now and say this is my life now.


There is nothing you can do to get this man back and everything you try makes the situation more difficult for you.


Right, thats that. Done. We aren't going to mention that again.



Positives for the day.

These are mine.

The sun is shining here, (hope it is with you).

I have the afternoon off so my weekend starts now, woo hoooooo

My Dad's cateract op appointment has come through so hopefully he'll get some sight back soon. :j



What are your positives?

RacyRed

Dumpy that is brilliant!

Ok, my positives for today.

I don't have to water my garden in the rain.

I'm having sausage and mash later :D

dumpy

Now I am craving sausages.....:rotfl:

Anyone else? 2 or 3 positives??

ninky_2

ecgirl07 wrote: »

Start faking happiness, and eventually the real thing will start creeping in a little more every day.

this is such good advice.

start acting as if you would if you had the strength.

don't do anything stupid. i know of a woman who tried to drink herself to death to get back at her husband / get attention. she's now permanently disabled and deeply regrets her actions.

ultimately we are all alone in this life. learn to like your own company and others will learn to like it too.

dumpy

Hi Your light is on so I hope you are reading.

If I can be really cheeky can I do the first positive for you?

You have really special sons.

Now it's your turn.

denton6

yes i have four very special sons
tonight i have eaten proper tea with my boys, last few days i havent eaten anything.
my friend is coming round later for wine and chat, i have some really special friends.
the house is cosy and warm and i have scissor sisters playing loud on the stereo.
two little ones are at the local friday club, havent taken them cos not on in the summer and they were excited
WOW i am doing well thankyou so so much

dumpy

Thats fantastic. :j:j

I'm off for the evening as I need to get on with some marking but I'll be in tomorrow to post some Saturday positives (hopefully one will be I've finished the marking :rotfl:).

See you tomorrow:wave: