how to stop loving someone and let them go

consultant31

Positives for me: -
1) Had a lovely day with my eldest DD and DGS at my Mum's.
2) Mum is 82 and feeling good today
3) DD and I laughed a lot building a complicated train set for little grandson who was over the moon when he woke up and saw it

RacyRed

denton6 wrote: »

my positives for today..... i have had a morning at work and have managed not to cry, saw ex this morning when he got the boys and dropped them back for me and i was pleasent to him, {funny that he wont look at me and hardly said a word] guilt,
7 year old is going to a birthday party so he gets to have fun and me and 9 year old are going to make soup, he made it at cookery club the other dayso we get one to one time together.
have made a new friend from here , shame it is because we are both going through the same thing but have contacted each other by text. wow i can do this cant i. x

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Yes, you can

dumpy

The washing from yesterday briefly became a negative (I hate ironing) but I was brave and did it :j , so today's positives


1) Ironing has been done

2) It's beautifully sunny

3) I took the dog for a wonderful walk in the sun. She had a great time sniffing around.

Who's up next?

denton6

havent had a good day, to much crying again, but hopefully tomorrow will be better. i have councilling tomorrow afternoon and gonna drop my stuff at the solicitors to proceed with our divorce, that is gonna be hard but something i need to do,

ecgirl07

denton6 wrote: »

havent had a good day, to much crying again, but hopefully tomorrow will be better. i have councilling tomorrow afternoon and gonna drop my stuff at the solicitors to proceed with our divorce, that is gonna be hard but something i need to do,

you are not getting away with that - everyday has positives list at least two:

mine sorted out a debacle with oh today, did a load of laundry and enjoyed a walk.

squidge60

denton6 wrote: »

havent had a good day, to much crying again, but hopefully tomorrow will be better. i have councilling tomorrow afternoon and gonna drop my stuff at the solicitors to proceed with our divorce, that is gonna be hard but something i need to do,

Tut tut you WILL have a better day tomorrow Dont let those negetive thoughts get ya :grouphug: x

denton6

had a nice bath and done the ironing of school uniform for the morning. there dad picking them up from school tomorrow so wont see my boys till wednesday pick up time.

Michelin

denton6 wrote: »

havent had a good day, to much crying again, but hopefully tomorrow will be better. i have councilling tomorrow afternoon and gonna drop my stuff at the solicitors to proceed with our divorce, that is gonna be hard but something i need to do,

Ok so your positives as I see it are:

1) You have a counselling session tomorrow where you will have a chance to talk about how you are feeling with someone who can help.

2) You have got the divorce paperwork sorted and are going to drop it all off at the solicitors and start moving towards a new life.

3) The boys are going to spend time with their dad which will be good for them and will give you some 'me' time.

4) Uniforms all done for Monday morning!

5) You've had nice relaxing bath.

See, you can turn stuff into positives Wendy....:kisses3:

mineallmine

Evening denton6, amazing how a nice bath is really nice positive. I think you need to plan what you are going to do when you get back fromthe solicitors - is there a friend you could meet? or call? This is an enormous step. Go you. You will do this. You are gaining strength I can feel it, we all can here. And you already have a text friend from here to get you through. Go team denton6!

Edit: a positive is I heard from a long lost friend and another friend today. Yay.

squidge60

denton6 wrote: »

had a nice bath and done the ironing of school uniform for the morning. there dad picking them up from school tomorrow so wont see my boys till wednesday pick up time.

Sooooooooo on a positive note the time you have not got the boys try to do something for YOU. What about hair/makeup new clothes gym.etc etc.:)