how to stop loving someone and let them go

denton6

at this moment in time i dont think i can say i am ok with her been with the boys, at the end of the day she is the one that helped break up our family. i know we al have a part of the blame ,if i had been a good enough wife he wouldnt have cheated on me in the first place, maybe if it was a years time and with someone else it would seem slightly easier at the moment it all just seems a act to make me feel low and hey it works. he isnt even considering my feelings at the moment, what i want doesnt come into it. i know i need to back off , boys need there dad and they love him i never want that to change, but i also want him to think of how it is making me feel. maybe that is just me being selfish, but it kind of feels he is trying to make the boys choose between us right now. when he has them he takes them nice places and spends lots of money, maybe i should be greateful cos they still mean the world to him at least he hasnt walked away from them aswell. i dont have the money to throw about all the time so try and do the fun things to. when they go away on there holidays its gonna be so hard. today has just proved how unsure i am about everything. thanks x

ninky_2

denton6 wrote: »

if i had been a good enough wife he wouldnt have cheated on me in the first place,

what absolute rot. you did everything you could with the information he provided you with. did he give you a reasonable chance to make things work before starting things with someone younger? no.

it doesn't sound like he was the perfect husband either and yet you stuck with the marriage.

don't put yourself down. at least you don't have to live with the reality of having been part of breaking up a marriage or having had an affair.

consultant31

Your children will remember the times you spent chasing round the garden joining in their games, not how much money you spent on them.

It doesn't cost much to go to the park with a picnic, or take a couple of boxes and go for an adventure/ramble in some local woods and pick up leaves and things for them to stick in an album when you get home. Those are the sort of memories they'll keep for ever.

They might grow fond of the gf, but you will always be their Mum. Dad's are important, of course they are, but Mum is someone really really special in a child's life and totally irreplaceable

denton6

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They might grow fond of the gf, but you will always be their Mum. Dad's are important, of course they are, but Mum is someone really really special in a child's life and totally irreplaceable [/QUOTE]
that's just made me cry, wish the pain would just go away. have cried too many tears over a man who isnt worth it no more. thank you. x

denton6

gonna sleep in the tent outside in the garden tonight with the two little ones, hope the rain stays away. nite all thank you x

minnie123

That sounds like a lovely idea big hugs to you xxx

denton6

bad night in the tent, it poured down all night just about. not very comfortable as it's only a two man tent so didnt sleep very well. got up just about half 4 when it was starting to get light and had slightly stopped raining, have found my phone now wreaked. i was stupid and put it in the little pouch inside the tent, water has got on it and its now soaking and wont work. have rang phone company but because water damage they wont look at it. have cried and cried. i had all my phone numbers on it and also had kept a few texts for ex that i really needed to keep, ie him saying the house would be mine etc. also the text saying that he loved his new girlfriend and he didnt love me the same. i no that text should have been wiped straight away but in a wierd way i needed that text to remind me how he really feels, why did i put my phone there all going round in my head. boys have been back in there own beds since half 4, they slept well in the tent but when i got up they came back in doors thankfully. when is my luck gonna change cos i really could do with it right now.

elona

denton

Try taking the sim out and putting it and the phone in a big bowl of dried rice to soak up the moisture. Leave it there for 48 hours.

It worked when dd dropped her phone into a glass of water.

I got the idea from a thread on here which had several remedies on it.

squidge60

When my phone ended up having a wash in the machine :eek: we didnt turn it on but put it in the airing cupboard for a couple of days if i remember right it was fine you could try that.:)

Michelin

The SIM will be fine and should have all the texts/numbers. Sometimes the handset works again once it has dried out, sometimes not. Take the back off and the battery out and dry them all off in the airing cupboard.