how to stop loving someone and let them go

denton6

minnie123 wrote: »

I agree with Geegee8 - How are you feeling today Wendy xx

hi strange but feel so much better today, have my boys have had no contact with him apart from a text from me saying i had swapped some direct debits into my name, havent has a reply back but that is prob good for now. i go away with the two little ones on monday for a few days very local to where we live but in a little log cabin, i will miss the family holiday that is booked cos i wont be able to go with them, so that will be a hard 9 days. most days i have been away from them is 3 days but at least we can speak by mobile phone. maybe a silly thing to do but i got my tarot cards done on ebay site, so many things seemed true in it its spooky. but it has made me realise that i do think i have moved on, i dont need him like i thought i did and i should get on with my life. in time i hope there is a special person out there for me, for now my boys are all i need.hopefully i can keep up the positives. hugs to anyone that needs them right now. i even think that even if the ebay tarot is all made up if it makes me feel brighter and have belief then it is good for me x

minnie123

Sounds like you are heading in the right direction - stay strong - this is your fresh start - he is the loser xxxxx

mineallmine

HI there,
Hope you are feeling ok today. You sound stronger all the time.

A couple of things made me smile reading the posts. The one about being miserable but fit and also that 'she' won at Monopoly. The former will help you rebuild confidence for your new life and the latter, well that says it all really. Sadly men never learn that they will be upgraded at some point. And isn't there a phrase, if he's cheating when you meet him, he'll be cheating when you leave him.

Have a good day and if I were you I'd find some projects to do. Whether it's the garden, going for a picnic, going for a bike ride, decluttering your wardrobe - anything but distract yourself as that is when your thinking can become clearer.

denton6

hi am going away for a few days with two little ones today. its a little log cabin only about 15 miles away and looking forward to it. weather not to good but we have a good stack of dvd's, popcorn, games and things to do . hopefully we will get outside though as a park and river just outside our door there. still feeling positive hope this is the new me lol. hugs to all that need them and thanks feel like i have made some good cyber friends on here. when you feel low it definatly helps. come on sun come out on shine on us please a little bit of sun does help . even though we are only away till wednesday this is my holiday with the boys, our two weeks one they are going away with there dad on what was our family holiday, hopefully i can keep up the positives cos those days are goona be hard when they are with daddy.

denton6

hi am back from our little breakaway, only went about 15 miles from home but lovely log cabin, weather not been the best but boys have loved it. only got back about hour ago and starting to feel bit low again. back to home and also that that is now my holiday over. only boys to talk to here where on holiday there has been quite alot of people around the lady who we rented the cabin off was lovely joined us in with her friends and meal times. how do i get the kick up the bum i need again right now.

minnie123

Sounds lovely i'm glad you had a nice time - you need to start busying up your social life and spare time I think. Do you work? Do you go to the gym? have any hobbies? You need to start creating a new life that is yours!!!!

denton6

came down to earth with a bump, crying my eyes out here now. back at work tomorrow be in the next four days but only part time. no mobile signal where we were. boys managed to talk to there dad first day there, thought he may have sent them a text or two but he hasnteven done that. just has look on online banking and he has been having loads of fun with her, looks like they have been tyo blackpool and york. dont even know when he is gonna see the boys next. why has coming back here hit me so much.

sashadesade

Minnie's right, it sounds like you need to socialise right now. Maybe suggest a meet up with some friends? Making new friends would be good too, perhaps join a club or take a class? Book group, art class, maybe even join a choir - whatever interests you! Just get out there and find something to occupy your mind and help you meet new people.

minnie123

denton6 wrote: »

came down to earth with a bump, crying my eyes out here now. back at work tomorrow be in the next four days but only part time. no mobile signal where we were. boys managed to talk to there dad first day there, thought he may have sent them a text or two but he hasnteven done that. just has look on online banking and he has been having loads of fun with her, looks like they have been tyo blackpool and york. dont even know when he is gonna see the boys next. why has coming back here hit me so much.

I tell you now your Ex Hubby and his little home wrecker are not going to last!! The best revenge you can get is to pick yourself and and become a strong independent person. Just wait and see his face when you do. I have seen it happen so many times.

Are you still sharing a joint account maybe that needs to be changed?? Have you filed for divorce? I think you should you need to be proactive and in control don't let him be!!

ecgirl07

I'll second what Minnie123 says - why can you look up the bank acc on the internet, thats only going to fuel your imagination in a bad way. He might be out and about with the gf but you had a lovely time with your kids and tbh what position would you rather be in??

Edit - everybody has a post holiday blues period, its natural dont necessarily associate it with your ex iyswim.