Too young to have my baby?

gravitytolls

You are indeed young, but you don't appear to want to go through a termination, if you did, you wouldn't be asking for advice, you'd've already had it arranged.

You certainly shouln't make a rushed decision, but equally, time is of the essence, as the simple 'procedure' becomes less so as time goes on.

If you decide to go ahead, things will work out ~ they will, because they have to, it sounds as though your parents are supportive, your BF seems to be supportive, and he's already working, so that's one less worry. Re. your dog, I'm confused, why can't you keep the dog and the baby?

Whatever you decide, counselling would be a good idea. If you choose termination, please ensure you understand your decision, and don't ignore any feelings of sadness, it may be described as 'no big deal', but your emotions will be all over the place.

If you go ahead, counselling for both of you might be a good idea, just so you're aware of what the future holds. Babies are wonderful, they bring so much joy to the lives of their parents and grandparents ~ along with exhaustion, fear, and worry. They bring people closer together, united as they are in love with this miracle of life they've created. They push people apart with petty squabbles over whose turn the nappy change is, and the not so petty cash concerns.

But, as long as you're both prepared for good and bad times, there's no reason why you won't cope and be wonderful parents, wondering what all the fuss was about.

Good luck.

margaretclare

Westcountrymaid, it's indeed true that university is not for everyone. However, it does seem to be the case that some kind of certificate, qualification, is needed for any kind of a job which is just above the most menial, low-paid and unskilled. This has always been true. Nowadays it's possible to do things that would have seemed out-of-court in the past. Once you left school, that was it. No longer the case. Volunteering, too, forms a useful place on anyone's c.v. I would think it's a great pity if Cait was to give up altogether on her dream of becoming a veterinary nurse.

alanalea

Hi Cait2.
First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy!
If you have made your mind up to keep your bean, now is the time to start taking care of yourself. It's not too late to get some folic acid tablets from the supermarket to protect from neural tube defects.
I wish you a healthy, happy pregnancy!

Cait2

Thank you everybody *group hug*

Read all of your posts again. I'm living with my parents right now and I'm going to be while I get a proper job, and I will probably loan money from my parents. I don't want to move to somewhere that I wouldn't want to bring a child up in so I'm in no rush to leave home. I have the whole upstairs of my house if my 22 year old brother ever moves out (roll on the summer, woot woot!! ).

I won't give up my education at all!! I know how vital that is for me and little one.

fireflycatcher

Cait2 wrote: »

Thank you everybody *group hug*

Read all of your posts again. I'm living with my parents right now and I'm going to be while I get a proper job, and I will probably loan money from my parents. I don't want to move to somewhere that I wouldn't want to bring a child up in so I'm in no rush to leave home. I have the whole upstairs of my house if my 22 year old brother ever moves out (roll on the summer, woot woot!! ).

I won't give up my education at all!! I know how vital that is for me and little one.

You're being very sensiable about this. I'm so glad you have such support from your family. My mum wanted to kick me on the streets with a box she had at the time.

samandona

AmandaAyrshire wrote: »

You're being very sensiable about this. I'm so glad you have such support from your family. My mum wanted to kick me on the streets with a box she had at the time.

I was going to say - Cait, you are very lucky to have such supportive parents. Mine would certainly not have let me stay at home and be supported (financially) by them.

margaretclare

samandona wrote: »

I was going to say - Cait, you are very lucky to have such supportive parents. Mine would certainly not have let me stay at home and be supported (financially) by them.

The attitude and support (or not) of the parents has always been of crucial importance, more so in my generation when there were no benefits.

If my maternal grandparents had not been supportive and loving towards my mother I might not even be here to tell the tale.

With very best wishes to you and your baby, Cait.

jimbms

Cait2 wrote: »

Thank you everybody *group hug*

Read all of your posts again. I'm living with my parents right now and I'm going to be while I get a proper job, and I will probably loan money from my parents. I don't want to move to somewhere that I wouldn't want to bring a child up in so I'm in no rush to leave home. I have the whole upstairs of my house if my 22 year old brother ever moves out (roll on the summer, woot woot!! ).

I won't give up my education at all!! I know how vital that is for me and little one.

Good luck to you lass, I am sure from what you have said, that your parents will probably be looking forward to the prospect of helping to raise their grandchild, if you was my daughter I would give you all that support, with parents like yours I am sure you will be able with their support to get a decent education/training to enable you to give a good future to your child. On the brother side. I am sure once a little one is screaming all night and he spots the picalilli napies and discovers everything he has is ingrained with the sweet baby poo smell, he will be tempted to move out.

Cait2

Hehe I hope he IS tempted to move out I need his space.....

All is well at the moment. I've been a pig becuase i now have an excuse to be

Fang_3

Cait2 wrote: »

Hehe I hope he IS tempted to move out I need his space.....

All is well at the moment. I've been a pig becuase i now have an excuse to be

How delightfully mature. Good lord.