Too young to have my baby?

Cait2

Hi all, had some computer based problems and haven't been online. It's not long until I can get 12 week scan. :j :j :j

Things with my BF are still okay for now but if I am totally honest I can't type "he'll make an awesome dad for sure, he'll really support baby". I would like to but......... even if he doesn't, it doesn't change how excited I am, and content with my decision to keep baby. My mum is totally supportive and I do need her..... probably more than BF.

Thank you sooo much for the support xxxxxx

horse76

Hi Cait, just want to wish you the best of luck for yourself and your baby. So glad you've come to a decision you're happy with. I'm currently 34 wks pregnant and sadly don't have my Mum around for support (she passed away 18 years ago), so take all the support your Mum will offer. xx

fireflycatcher

I'm sorry for your loss horse76

Good luck Cait, glad everything is ok.

Furny

Cait 2 - What are you doing up & posting so early? get some sleep girl you will need it when that baby comes along! ha!:D
I 'm glad you have made a decision that you are comftable with.
At the end of the day it is only yourself you would argue with through the years if you felt bullied in to a wrong decision because your say so is final as it's your body.
The scan is so exciting, when you see the baby on the screen it suddenly becomes soooo real! & i'm sure any niggles you did have will be pushed away when you see them it is an unbelievable feeling.
My mum had my bruv at 17 & me by 20 & was a Nanna at 37 by my bro & his partner!:eek:but she always said she would have never had it any other way as she felt she had so much energy with us & grandkids & now in her 50's when we are in with the kids mums going out! it's reversed roles, you will still have YOUR life just a bit later on!

meritaten

Cait I applaud you! you are a very responsible and mature person and I am sure will be a wonderful mum!!! It wont be easy but you say your mums onside so I am sure that your baby is going to be well-loved and probably spoiled rotten!
my heartfelt good wishes for the future hun, and I hope your mum enjoys being a NAN OR GRAN as much as I do!

Nitha

I had a planned pregnancy at 24 (only a year after graduating) and am now on my second planned pregnancy at 27. I also became a stepmother at 22. It is very difficult raising a child before all of your friends settle down and I often envy my friends when they head off to Ibiza at short notice or go out at the weekend, however I love my son and can't wait to meet the next one! However career has never been an issue to me, I think it is easier to have kids before establishing a career personally (however that is just my experience compared to that of other women I've met with careers and kids)

Have you watched any of the series 'Underage and pregnant'? It's on BBC iplayer and is quite interesting seeing the impact teen pregnancy has not only on the mother, but also her family and friends.

hngrymummy

Hi Cait

Nice to see you back.

In terms of career, don't worry at all. I would like to give up work completely until my sproglet(s?) are at school. However, this is really not a practical solution if I want to keep with the same career. I'm looking at 5+ years off work. By the time I'd be ready to return, the younger generation will be doing my job, and because a I do a lot of computer and technology-based work I will be utterly out of the loop and will have to start from the bottom again. I'll then be pushing 40 before I got anywhere near where I was, and I really don't fancy that at all.

In your case, you'll be 22ish when your one goes to school, and have your whole life ahead of you. It's a good age to do a uni course, and you'll be the younger generation 'stealing' my job from me, and have the rest of your life to build up a very good career.

BF may come round when he holds LO for the first time, so be gentle with him at the moment.