Too young to have my baby?

Fang_3

JaneRN wrote: »

What a load of rubbish - as a 16 year old I was so selfish that I forgot any idea of staying on to 6th form and to continue my education to pursue my career in medicine as I had originally intended. Instead I decided to selfishly to allow my unborn son to continue his development in my body. Do you want me to ask my son to document his opinion of how selfish I was? He is quite bemused at the comments he has read here, suggesting I was selfish allowing him existance.
You may all like to think you are talking about a non entity in your blase sweeping statements but when you make such awful suggestions I look at my son and think you are talking about him.

It's not rubbish at all, and you need to get a grip. But to illustrate a point in emotive terms that you might understand, was it not selfish to abandon becoming a doctor where you would save thousands of lives, to continue to allow a bunch of cells to develop? Was that not selfish?

Cait2

I have read everything as a guest, I've wanted to stand back though. Some of the comments have upset me (and I imagine others). I do know we all have opinions though... so it's fine obviously.....

Just want to clear up I was not completely irresponsiable. I was on the pill - and it failed, I didn't use no protection at all. I had imagined that would work, but I don't want to talk about that so much, because it didn't, right ?

I didn't have sex underage. I waited until I was 16, and no younger. Same with my boyfriend. We're not idiots, we're not children, we're at the legal age. And he is not a stranger, I do love him, and after long talks I know he is serious, he will stand by me...! If he didn't, then it doesn't matter, I live at home and my parents are totally behind me on this. My mum is more excited than myself bless her. :rotfl:I'm not bring a Baby into a bad enviroment.... far from it. The baby will be loved more than ever, and cared for the best I, my boyfriend, (and my mum :rotfl:) can.

I won't get too involved in the debate, but please don't get personal to the point the thread is closed.... but it has been interesting seeing your opinions.

Also yes I joked about my brother moving out. It was a light joke, he's moving out anyway, because he chose to. If he didn't, it wouldn't change the love or care Baby will get.

Stay well all
xx

Cait2

Also big big thank you to all who have posted and been supportive. xxx*Hug*xxx

fireflycatcher

Cait2 wrote: »

I didn't have sex underage. I waited until I was 16, and no younger. Same with my boyfriend. We're not idiots, we're not children, we're at the legal age. And he is not a stranger

Maybe it's just because of my past, but to me that sounds like enough.... maybe they should have used more protection but what's done is done and debating it on this thread won't do much when she's decided that she's keeping the baby. Cait I personally wish you the best of luck, it sounds to me like the baby will be born into a lovely home with a wonderful mum.

xx

hngrymummy

Hi Cait2

I have to agree with you. This thread has run it's course. There are many people posting on it who have such deep-rooted ideas that they can't see any other point of view and everyone else must be wrong. It's going round in circles and to be honest getting a bit unpleasant at times. I suggest that the mods close it and let it go away.

Person_one

Cait2, I'm glad you are happy with your decision and wish you the best of luck with your future.

Just one thing though, after this pregnancy please sit down with your doctor and have a really thorough discussion about contraception, what you are going to use and how exactly it works and should be used. The pill needs to be taken very strictly to be fully effective, and for a lot of people there are better options. The pill is great for some but was terrible for me, I'm on the depo injection at the moment which is great for me and terrible for others! You certainly aren't alone in not being a contraception expert, I have plenty of friends my age (25) and older who don't really know what they're doing and have just been lucky!

Its a long way off (7 months or so!) but please bear it in mind for nearer the time as there's very little that's rougher on your body than two pregnancies very close together!

fireflycatcher

I second that whole post ^. xx

Hulahoops

absolute rambling from me - will resend when not rambling. Sorry

Morganarla

Cait2 wrote: »

I have read everything as a guest, I've wanted to stand back though. Some of the comments have upset me (and I imagine others). I do know we all have opinions though... so it's fine obviously.....

Just want to clear up I was not completely irresponsiable. I was on the pill - and it failed, I didn't use no protection at all. I had imagined that would work, but I don't want to talk about that so much, because it didn't, right ?

I didn't have sex underage. I waited until I was 16, and no younger. Same with my boyfriend. We're not idiots, we're not children, we're at the legal age. And he is not a stranger, I do love him, and after long talks I know he is serious, he will stand by me...! If he didn't, then it doesn't matter, I live at home and my parents are totally behind me on this. My mum is more excited than myself bless her. :rotfl:I'm not bring a Baby into a bad enviroment.... far from it. The baby will be loved more than ever, and cared for the best I, my boyfriend, (and my mum :rotfl:) can.

I won't get too involved in the debate, but please don't get personal to the point the thread is closed.... but it has been interesting seeing your opinions.

Also yes I joked about my brother moving out. It was a light joke, he's moving out anyway, because he chose to. If he didn't, it wouldn't change the love or care Baby will get.

Stay well all
xx

Cait, this has gotta be one of the more mature posts towards the end of this thread...! :beer:

Best of luck chick, glad you've made you're decision and are happy with it xx

LauraN_3

Cait2 wrote: »

Also big big thank you to all who have posted and been supportive. xxx*Hug*xxx

Hi Cait2

You can be a great mother at any age and I'm sure you will as you seem very mature

I've always been very mature for my age, bought a nice house with my partner when I was 19 and have a great job in IT and been there since I was 18. My partner and I tried for a baby when I turned 20 and we had him when I was 21. He's the best thing in the world and we can't wait to have another baby. We want a big family

Babies do take up a huge amount of time and money etc but if you just go with the flow and keep relaxed you'll be fine. And there's always loads of money saving stuff you can do.

Sign up to every baby group you can (huggies, pampers, cow & gate etc) as they normally send out loads of money off vouchers through the post which helps a lot. And the cheaper nappies are sometimes much better than the expensive ones. We like the pampers value nappies. There's hardly any difference and they do just the same job as the higher branded pampers nappies.

Also don't go mad buying clothes for when the babies born as you'll get loads of stuff from family, friends etc. Just get the basics for the hospital like a pack of sleepsuits or 2, scratch mits, nappies, wipes, cotton wool, booties etc from Asda or where ever you want. Matalan can be really good, you get the cheapest cot sheets and cellular blankets from there. If your baby will be born in the winter it's handy to have a snowsuit or pramsuit for taking them home from hospital, keeps them snug and warm

Hope that's given you a little bit of help. You can PM me if you want anymore help, advice or just a chat. I'm a first time mum and everythings totally new to me as well.