Too young to have my baby?

hngrymummy

Berry. wrote: »

I don't know but I don't think it should be closed. Nobody has been offensive to the OP. I think it should be lead back on topic. OP and her baby her situation. Not closed. It is helpful.

Some of them have been offensive. And many of the comments are extemely unhelpful. Imagine what a pregnant teenager searching the internet would think when they read some of these posts - eg enforced sterilisation, demands for teenagers to have abortions etc. How many of the posts have really been about moneysaving and how many have been about personal opinions on teenage pregnancy? Far better to start a new thread if you really want it to get back on topic. Indeed there are already several pregnancy threads that the OP can read for moneysaving tips.

thorsoak

Cait - good luck, honey - on whatever decision you make (and I think I know which one it is!). Please let us know how things go with you and your baby.

Just don't forget - keep on reading, keep on studying, keep on learning - and you'll be a fantastic mum - and you can also have a fantastic future!

{{hugs}}

dobs

Cait, good luck and all the best, i'm glad you have made a decision you feel right about. You come across as v mature and caring, and it's great that you've got your parents full support behind you. Having little ones at any age can be hard sometimes but its also fantastic. Hugs x

CFC

JaneRN wrote: »

I can't understand why you feel you need to offer an opinion on something you feel so hostile about?

Yes, I am deeply and utterly opposed to children having babies (and although sex may be legal at 16, at 16 one is a child still) and trying to bring them up. It appears that you think I should only have an opinion that involves giving love and hugs?

OP I wish you and your family the very best of luck in having and bringing up your child although I believe you are making a serious mistake. I only hope it works out well for all concerned.

LilacPixie

Contraception can fail on anyone. ultimatly at the age of 16, Cait can marry, join the army and fight in wars, Scary but real.

gravitytolls

CFC wrote: »

Yes, I am deeply and utterly opposed to children having babies (and although sex may be legal at 16, at 16 one is a child still) and trying to bring them up. It appears that you think I should only have an opinion that involves giving love and hugs?

OP I wish you and your family the very best of luck in having and bringing up your child although I believe you are making a serious mistake. I only hope it works out well for all concerned.

Of course you're entitled to your opinion, a valid one it may even be, but this particular thread, read by a vulnerable, pregnant, 16 yr old OP isn't the place for such contentious views.

Bebs

Hi Cait2, I would like to wish you and your family the best of luck, you do what you think is right. I think some of the comments made here are just awful!

I had my DD1 when I was 18 and the next one 22, my DH and I are still together and my DD1 is now 18, going to uni. I am now 37 years old and would not have been able to have children after the age of 28 due to "female problems", I think things happen for a reason!

Good luck xxx

ellas9602

Congratulations. I was pregnant at 14 and had just turned 15 when I gave birth. It was very hard but you are very lucky in that you have a supportive family, as I did, to help you. This support will be the most important thing to you and your baby, my daughter spent her early years surrounded by people who loved her (my mum, dad and 2 younger siblings) and I think this helped make her the well rounded person she is today. DD’s dad tried pressuring me into getting a council flat with him but I never budged as I felt this would trap me, we didn’t make it past the first year and she hasn't see her dad since she was 3. I went back to school and got my GCSEs, this wasn’t easy, I especially remember the winter months when I had been up doing night feeds and coursework, then had to walk 2 miles pushing the buggy to the childminders (in my school uniform, must have raised a few eyebrows...) then another 2 mile walk to school, but I was so determined. I found work as soon as I left school. I’ve never been out of work since and I have a good job now! I met a lovely man when DD was 5 and we bought a home together. She’s 15 now and I'm 30. I've never had any more children, it just didn't happen (I suppose it still could but I'm looking forward to travelling now!). My DD is wonderful, beautiful, intelligent, funny and talented, I know I'm biased but she is and I can't tell you how proud she makes me and how proud I am of myself for being determined to prove everyone wrong and do a good job of raising her. You sound mature and strong and I'm sure (with the help of your family) you'll do the same. I wish you all the luck in the world x x x

jcr16

ellas9602, your post just goes to prove you can do anything if you put you mind to it and want to do. well done. i'm 28 and i couldn't imagine being a mum to a 13 yr old, but wheres theres a will theres a way and you sound like you have done an amazing job. xx

ellas9602

Thanks Jcr, I know I couldn't have done it alone and owe a lot to my afmily. I don't want to romanticise teenage pregnancy, obviously it's not ideal. It really feels like this was my fate though my OH had 2 daughters (who live with us also) and didn't want any more children so we would probably never have worked together so I gained the love of my life and two step daughters . My sister also passed away when I was 19 and I feel priveliged that my DD knew and loved her. I wouldn't change a thing. Cait, if you want to talk about anything please PM me. :A