Why do they have to shout all the time?!

PasturesNew

I suspect a lot of the people here giving 'advice' have never lived entirely alone. If you aren't the intimidating type yourself, then couples will quite often intimidate you and shout you down if you do try to say anything about anything.

I lived next to some bad neighbours, he was a massive bully (police came one night and they all disappeared for 2 months) and when they were out/having a BarBQ the only place I felt comfortable was inside with all the windows closed (smoke from the BarBQ would travel throughout the house - and them/their mates were sinking stella like it was going out of fashion).

I'm also not a negotiater. I did say something once, when they'd had another party inside until 4am that had boomed throughout the house (back to back chimneys and my big fireplace acted like a speaker in my house), and she spat at me "live and let live!" and he said the same thing, then they glared at me ... and I scuttled off. It was two months before I thought up the reply I should have given: "Yes, but you're not allowing ME to live!".

lynzpower

ceridwen wrote: »

O.P. is not being "fragile". That sounds a bit of an "opinion" there - and not a flattering one. O.P. is the sort of person she is - and she is entitled to be. There wasnt a problem until this family moved in next door....

I live in Inner london in a postcode well known for its armed gangs, a large homeless population and a massive drug problem. Most flats seem to be pumping out heavy soca and ragga- you can tell its summer the noise gets high and people hang out in the estates a lot more, a lot later.

If OP cant have a conversation with the neighbour about the barbeque I think she would feel super intimidated where I live.

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Bogof_Babe

Pastures I hope you did your hoovering nice and early the next morning .

esmf73

Helena, All I can say is I feel for you. I would love to have some peace & quiet - from my own children. They've just discovered water pistols and the noise level in our quiet street has gone through the roof. I try and let them play for a while, then bring them in and calm them down before letting them out again. I seem to constantly be telling them not to shout and to calm down. I realise your neighbour may not be trying, but I am and it is nigh on impossible.

Best of luck to you xx

B00

I think I must be the only person who's read this loooong post and has come away with the impression that the OP is a terrible snob and unbelievebly patronising towards a young family who are doing what most families do- enjoy being together and doing family things within their own house and garden.

Children playing in the garden ?? My Goodness how terrible!

Maybe the probable normal family will choke on their "shop bought" burgers (My God- the peasents!) and then the OP will get the silence she so craves.

Savvy_Sue

helena4 wrote: »

the reason he took on tenants on benefits is its guaranteed rent paid as its not the tenants paying but the who ever housed them, thats what he told me himself when he was packing up to go

But even with THAT 'attraction', many landlords just will not let to tenants on benefits. So I still say "good on him", however he should be ready to listen if the tenants are not making good neighbours.

helena4_2

B00 wrote: »

I think I must be the only person who's read this loooong post and has come away with the impression that the OP is a terrible snob and unbelievebly patronising towards a young family who are doing what most families do- enjoy being together and doing family things within their own house and garden.

Children playing in the garden ?? My Goodness how terrible!

Maybe the probable normal family will choke on their "shop bought" burgers (My God- the peasents!) and then the OP will get the silence she so craves.

Lol that is funny.what most families do? well if enjoying being together is hollering at each other and throwing in the odd F word infront of kids is good clean family life then yes make me a snob:rotfl:

lynzpower

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

But even with THAT 'attraction', many landlords just will not let to tenants on benefits. So I still say "good on him", however he should be ready to listen if the tenants are not making good neighbours.

To be fair, I hardly think it fair on the family to go wading in and speaking to the landlord if the OP hasnt had the decency to talk it over with the parents first?

mrsr

helena4 wrote: »

Thank you and to add they are lucky to have me as a neighbour on both sides as im quiet and considerate

Please come and live next to me .My nieghbours are hell ,nice people but the noise of screaming kids is horrendoue i really feel for you .

vaio

clairec79 wrote: »

……..3 kids also seem to generate more noise than 2, when 2 of my 3 are out the back they tend to be quieter (and it doesn't matter which 2) and when it's all 3 the volume increases - neighbours don't seem to mind though

Yep, three kids are four times as noisy as two, throw in some water pistols and it doubles again.

Your neighbours probably do mind but are too scared of you to mention it