Why do they have to shout all the time?!

helena4_2

Hello just a vent

Its a lovely day im being frugal staying at home very happy to potter around do some washing etc etc.

But ever since the neighbours moved in 2 years ago I cannot enjoy the gorgeous weather, their 3 kids aged I think from 4- 10 are always shouting when they play outside the older one shouts 'here I come im gonna kill you ' with his water pistol at his younger siblings about 300 times.:eek:.. the parents sream at them when they want them to behave (never seems to work) I feel like they take over and that any privacy is gone in my garden , all the gardens are quite open with short wire fence separating.

Now the other neighbours on the other side have 2 kids similar ages and I never hear a peep out of them im lucky they are the ones i share the wall with its a semi.

The noisy ones as soon as the back door opens a load of noise just comes out!

Now dont get me wrong I think kids should scream and shout but its constant and the fact the family I think are a bit lets say 'chavvy' so I dont really have any relationship with them and I prefer it that way.
I also hate it when they have a BBQ not up in the garden but outside the kitchen window so yes I get the stink and smoke into my house even when I close the windows, they never warn me either incase I have washing out. I constantly dread them having a BBQ I should be able to keep my windows open during the warm weather...:mad:

Does anyone else who lives alone feel isolated when its hot and feel they have to stay in? do you find it hard to sit in your garden with a book like me?
maybe im just too meek and mid but they are a family and im on my own

Please dont ask me to make 'friends' with them as I really dont want to and it wont stop the way they behave from what I can see that is them and this is me

They rent the property.. and I dont think the parents work as the car is always there and I see both parents come and go at all times of day.

I could go out but cant do that for hours on end.

What I wouldnt give for some good old fashioned PEACE AND QUIET.

rant over. I think they have gone out the car is gone hope its late when they return!:T

ceridwen

I sympathise.

I have some neighbours with very different ideas about how one leads a life to my own - and :mad:.

It makes for a very unequal situation - as I never disturb them with my "peace and quiet" - but THEY disturb me with their noise.

I look forward to hearing any solutions to this - short of winning enough money to move to a better neighbourhood (I wish.....)

helena4_2

Im only lucky in one way that they are not joined to my house otherwise I would hear all the doors banging and the kareoke (sp) machine I can hear from outside! I just have to share the side path so their back door faces mine, needless to say my door hardly opens they have free reign to the fresh air and outside

SugarSpun

I would ask them if they'd mind letting you know before they light the BBQ if you have washing out, and invest in an MP3 player and some nice headphones for sitting in the garden.

The first part is just courtesy, and the second is damage limitation. I don't think you can do anything about noisy kids, but you can change the noise in your own environment.

helena4_2

I wish I could but they dont seem like nice people im on my own and even if I did its the dread of seeing whether they will stick to it.

I cant sit in the garden as I feel bit exposed if you know what I mean...they have others round sometimes so dont feel comfortable, its not that they actually say anything bad to me I just wish they were more quiet.

liney

Perhaps you could put some quiet background music on to distract you from the children playing and dull their noise abit. I don't think there is such a thing as a quiet water pistol fight though

As for the BBQ, if they aren't the a joining neighbours then i'm struggling with the logistics to be honest. Unless the BBQ is next to the clothing, then surely it's not a problem, and most people will BBQ next to the house on their patio or decking? The smoke is usually only for a few mins whilst it gets going.

Zazen999

Take the radio out there; and what's wrong with asking them to tell you before they light up a barbie?

If you don't communicate, then how will they ever know?

ceridwen

SugarSpun wrote: »

I would ask them if they'd mind letting you know before they light the BBQ if you have washing out, and invest in an MP3 player and some nice headphones for sitting in the garden.

The first part is just courtesy, and the second is damage limitation. I don't think you can do anything about noisy kids, but you can change the noise in your own environment.

I must admit my first reaction to that is "If the neighbours had been brought up properly - then they would KNOW that one doesnt light a barbeque or bonfire if there is washing out or the like" - so when a neighbour does something like that you instantly know that they possibly have a different way of thinking/living to yourself and are likely to react badly to any polite request to consider you first (however you phrase it...).

Re the headphones - that does not answer the problem. The thing is that many of us expect to go out into our garden and only hear birds/rain/voices at normal volume level/etc and we are deliberately listening for the sounds of "peace and quiet"/the birds/etc - so part of our reason for going out into the garden is defeated if we have to find ways to block out noise from any neighbours that think its okay to make noise outdoors.

helena4_2

Some people know how to BBQ some people burn cheap shop bought burgers until its died all over again ... seriously it STANK my entire house out last time I closed all the windows even covered the vents

ceridwen

Zazen999 wrote: »

Take the radio out there; and what's wrong with asking them to tell you before they light up a barbie?

If you don't communicate, then how will they ever know?

If they've been brought up properly - then they will know without the necessity for one "communicating with them". They will automatically keep to considerate behaviour anyway - without having to be told to do so (okay - put that as "polite request to do so").

helena4_2

ceridwen wrote: »

I must admit my first reaction to that is "If the neighbours had been brought up properly - then they would KNOW that one doesnt light a barbeque or bonfire if there is washing out or the like" - so when a neighbour does something like that you instantly know that they possibly have a different way of thinking/living to yourself and are likely to react badly to any polite request to consider you first (however you phrase it...).

Re the headphones - that does not answer the problem. The thing is that many of us expect to go out into our garden and only hear birds/rain/voices at normal volume level/etc and we are deliberately listening for the sounds of "peace and quiet"/the birds/etc - so part of our reason for going out into the garden is defeated if we have to find ways to block out noise from any neighbours that think its okay to make noise outdoors.

Thats exactly my opinion they are not considerate so why would they listen to me?