Why do they have to shout all the time?!

Zazen999

ceridwen wrote: »

If they've been brought up properly - then they will know without the necessity for one "communicating with them". They will automatically keep to considerate behaviour anyway - without having to be told to do so (okay - put that as "polite request to do so").

But if nobody challenges them, they aren't going to ever know how they are breaking the rules of 'being brought up properly'.

They evidently aren't thinking of the OP; so unless she says so, they will think it is ok to do so. Unless they are mind readers and are just doing it to annoy her. Either way, you can't complain about someone doing it if you are unprepared to actually ask them to stop.

PasturesNew

I am staggered at the people who think the response to being bombarded with noise is to bombard yourself with more noise.

I like the absolute peace and quiet. Right now I can hear a small private plane in the distance, birds tweeting, trees rustling in the wind .... but yesterday there were 8 neighbours/mates getting drunk and talking loudly until 10pm (couldn't go out there as I looked like sad billy no mates waiting for an invite). Until 4am this morning I could hear two people within 100 yards had parties - one was being attended by a gobby girl who loved the F word) - and lots of drunks were walking home and shouting football terrace songs. Earlier, two excited teen girls were shouting to each other in the garden 4 doors along.

WHERE'S THE BL00DY PEACE AND QUIET GONE??

I wouldn't want to replace their noise with other noise. I have no stereo/PC/radio, etc, because noise disturbs me (aspie) and so I have to have absolute quiet.

If I were in my garden and wanted to speak to somebody inside the house, I'd go inside to speak to them - not holler their name 4x until they hollered back ....

clairec79

Maybe instead of asking them to ask you before they have a barbeque (which could wind them up) if you asked if they could let you know they are having a barbeque so you can get the washing in it may go down better

3 kids also seem to generate more noise than 2, when 2 of my 3 are out the back they tend to be quieter (and it doesn't matter which 2) and when it's all 3 the volume increases - neighbours don't seem to mind though

tiamai_d

helena4 wrote: »

I know when the owner told me I thought I would mean bad news! and I was right, the parents are not even 30, of course I dont know why they dont work but they seem fit and healthy to me

Imagine having children in your twenties. How awful. :cool:

helena4_2

PasturesNew wrote: »

I am staggered at the people who think the response to being bombarded with noise is to bombard yourself with more noise.

I like the absolute peace and quiet. Right now I can hear a small private plane in the distance, birds tweeting, trees rustling in the wind .... but yesterday there were 8 neighbours/mates getting drunk and talking loudly until 10pm (couldn't go out there as I looked like sad billy no mates waiting for an invite). Until 4am this morning I could hear two people within 100 yards had parties - one was being attended by a gobby girl who loved the F word) - and lots of drunks were walking home and shouting football terrace songs. Earlier, two excited teen girls were shouting to each other in the garden 4 doors along.

WHERE'S THE BL00DY PEACE AND QUIET GONE??

I wouldn't want to replace their noise with other noise. I have no stereo/PC/radio, etc, because noise disturbs me (aspie) and so I have to have absolute quiet.

If I were in my garden and wanted to speak to somebody inside the house, I'd go inside to speak to them - not holler their name 4x until they hollered back

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My thought exactly! they are still outside hollering for the one inside to make them a drink,!
Im not a snob but they come across as very common loud mouthed people with no respect for others who are living just yards away

I wonder if they can see I have all my larger windows shut and why? probably not.
No BBQ today thank goodness

helena4_2

Zazen999 wrote: »

But if nobody challenges them, they aren't going to ever know how they are breaking the rules of 'being brought up properly'.

They evidently aren't thinking of the OP; so unless she says so, they will think it is ok to do so. Unless they are mind readers and are just doing it to annoy her. Either way, you can't complain about someone doing it if you are unprepared to actually ask them to stop.

I know what your saying but I dont feel comfortable challenging them as im on my own and they frequently have friends there I feel intimidated by just being here in my living room ! how sad is that? But I dont think having a chat with them will let feel any less intimidated anyway.

Its so hard to approach them because I look at my other immediate neighbours and see the difference in characters.

Its not going to solve the behaviour they show if they think that shouting and screaming between adult and child is normal then no amount of talking to them is going to change the way they act.

helena4_2

risingsun wrote: »

Why dont you knock a few sprogs out yourself then you can bombard them with noise.

I wouldnt let them behave like that if I have kids oneday I would teach them manners

crutches

There is no need to tar all families on benefits with the same brush!.we have a large family and since falling ill I'm not able to work.
I regularly apologise to my nneighbours for the noise but they either say they love to hear children having fun or that they can't hear it.I do get mine to be considerate and keep the noise down in the garden and they are described as good mannered too.

You are just unlucky and I do feel for you but they are just noisy because they are inconsiderate people not because they are on benefits!

Doom_and_Gloom

You judge them because you know they are on benefits? Well that was and is wrong of you. Just because people are on benefits does not mean they are going to be 'bad news'. You are probably just looking for things because you know they are on benefits. You may be seeing them as different because you want to see them as different.

You don't like them because their children do what children should do by going outside and have fun? I think that children being outside doing something is better than them being inside all the time on game consols or just because the people next door don't like noise! It's probably people complaining about chidrens noise levels over the years that made children more likely to stay in and be inactive!

Where I live we are the only ones in the flats that do not have a child/children. I hear the children every day. Children make noise and they should be able to enjoy their time. Yes they can be bothersome sometimes but I realise it's due to the mood I am in and not them. The children do have manners I am sure of it. They are just having fun that's all. I'm sure there are some things we do that they do not like but that's because people are different.

Your next door probably don't see anything wrong in encouraging their children to stay active. To be honest I'd see their point.

looby-loo_2

ceridwen wrote: »

I sympathise.

I have some neighbours with very different ideas about how one leads a life to my own - and :mad:.

It makes for a very unequal situation - as I never disturb them with my "peace and quiet" - but THEY disturb me with their noise.

I look forward to hearing any solutions to this - short of winning enough money to move to a better neighbourhood (I wish.....)

I wouldn't be too sure about that. I live in a very select lane and two doctors moved in to my left two summers ago. You have never heard such a racket. When either works a night shift they sleep at his mums in the day so the children can play at home so we don't even get peace then. They have every conceivable garden toy and lots of noisy friends.

The neighbour I'm joined on to is 60+ and lovely but next to her is an elderly woman whose policeman son has moved back in. He seems to think we all want to listen to his car stereo.

Then most summer Saturday evenings we get the boom, boom of the base beat from someones BBQ over the fields in the 'posh' houses (footballers/70's pop stars alley)

My next house is going to be here:





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