Why do they have to shout all the time?!

helena4_2

clairibel wrote: »

Instead of a new fence what about getting some conifers or the like to give you some privacy, i think the noise is more bearable when you can't see it if that makes sense.

I prefer my privacy so noise i can deal with if i feel removed from the open glare, if i know i don't have to watch nor them me i am more relaxed and better able to deal with any noise

Saying that the noise from my son does get on my wick but we always tell him to turn it down as i am quite conscious of others.

I would love really high conifers but they will take years to grow, I agree if I didnt have to see the noise as well as hear it then it would make things better

SugarSpun

I don't see what you expect to be able to do if you won't ask them for a five-minute warning on a BBQ and don't want to drown them out with noise you get to choose.

My small daughter can make a lot of noise, and so do our neighbours' five kids. We muddle along disturbing each other occasionally - that's the price of living where we do. No doubt it would be quieter living in the middle of a field, but we can't afford to do that and if you can't either you have to find a way to live with it.

I still think the easiest thing is to ask them for a few minutes to get your washing in before the BBQ lights up. The worst they can say is no, and if you ask them nicely you're not going to be any worse off.

poet123

flippin36 wrote: »

My little boy is profoundly autistic and when he plays in the garden he sometimes screams because he's excited on the trampoline, or because someone sat next to him when he didn't want them to, or because he's dropped something, or lost his ball, or because he doesn't like a particular noise.....I could go on. I overheard the lady that lives next door complaining to her husband about his screaming. So now I'm really anxious whenever he plays out that he's annoying our neighbours .

I want to explain to her about his disabilities in a hope to appeal to her better nature, and that we do try and keep the noise down but she never smiles, or says hello, she's really unfriendly and unapproachable. She blanks us when we pass in the street. She stands in her garden with hands on her hips staring at us, looking p*ssed off even if the kids are just playing nicely. Not making any judgements, just want to show you the other side of it.

When our neighbours moved in they sent around a lovely photo of their little boy, on the back was a note which explained his condition, and asked for our understanding, and also told us he was fascinated by cars and that if he got into the road in our cul de sac would just stand there.

This really broke the ice with all the neighbours and we all look out for him now. All of us who live here with young drivers were grateful for the knowledge, as we could warn our kids to take more care on the road here than they might otherwise have done.

lynzpower

helena4 wrote: »

LOL if you wnat to come here and swap places then you can have the constant hollering that goes with the burnt shop bought burgers stink

Believe me, you sound far too fragile to live where I do love!

flippin36

poet123 wrote: »

When our neighbours moved in they sent around a lovely photo of their little boy, on the back was a note which explained his condition, and asked for our understanding, and also told us he was fascinated by cars and that if he got into the road in our cul de sac would just stand there.

This really broke the ice with all the neighbours and we all look out for him now. All of us who live here with young drivers were grateful for the knowledge, as we could warn our kids to take more care on the road here than they might otherwise have done.

Thanks poet - good idea. I've actually told some of the other neighbours, but I think I really should mention it to her, in fact this thread has made me realise that communication is key , especially with summer hols approaching.

Helena- I apologise, I didn't mean to insinuate that you were like the lady next door, at all. It was a little clumsy of me. What I meant is that its a viscious circle of her not liking us because of noise, and us not communicating with her because she looks unapproachable. Your neighbours do sound a bit intimidating and you don't want to make things worse by aggrevating them. If its of any consolation, with it being a rented property they might not be around for long.

helena4_2

lynzpower wrote: »

Believe me, you sound far too fragile to live where I do love!

LOL.....:eek:

joyfull

I feel for you. We're all obviously different & some of us are more sensitive to noise, & generally boisterous 'vibes'. It makes it difficult to even approach the people making the 'disturbance'.

How about accepting that they are noisy & will have bbqs, but try to create your own little atmosphere of something more peaceful. Maybe purchase a canvas gazebo thing (not expensive) to put up in the garden so you can create a barrier between you & them. Or buy a large parasol & tip it so you cannot be 'seen'. Buy some earplugs for when you want to read. Or plug into your own music whilst relaxing in your space.

Accept what you cannot change. But take control of what you can do. I think you'll feel less of a victim in all of this. Be creative. Best of luck.

helena4_2

flippin36 wrote: »

Thanks poet - good idea. I've actually told some of the other neighbours, but I think I really should mention it to her, in fact this thread has made me realise that communication is key , especially with summer hols approaching.

Helena- I apologise, I didn't mean to insinuate that you were like the lady next door, at all. It was a little clumsy of me. What I meant is that its a viscious circle of her not liking us because of noise, and us not communicating with her because she looks unapproachable. Your neighbours do sound a bit intimidating and you don't want to make things worse by aggrevating them. If its of any consolation, with it being a rented property they might not be around for long.

please dont apoligise,, maybe I need to speak to them but im always thinking what if they dont care? they dont seem to care now..

helena4_2

joyfull wrote: »

I feel for you. We're all obviously different & some of us are more sensitive to noise, & generally boisterous 'vibes'. It makes it difficult to even approach the people making the 'disturbance'.

How about accepting that they are noisy & will have bbqs, but try to create your own little atmosphere of something more peaceful. Maybe purchase a canvas gazebo thing (not expensive) to put up in the garden so you can create a barrier between you & them. Or buy a large parasol & tip it so you cannot be 'seen'. Buy some earplugs for when you want to read. Or plug into your own music whilst relaxing in your space.

Accept what you cannot change. But take control of what you can do. I think you'll feel less of a victim in all of this. Be creative. Best of luck.

Thanks I have 'made use' of their time in the garden by doing useful things indoors like my exercise bike more often, good for my health, I just put on my Mp3 and off I go for an hour ok maybe 40 mins. I put on a DVD there is always plenty to do of course.

And I do go out but its not always possible as sometimes I just wnat to be at home and rest.

helena4_2

MaggieN wrote: »

I've got as far as this post. Is this just a lonely Sunday afternoon rant or are you genuiely looking for solutions?

A rant I guess from someone who feels isolated, I dont think there is a solution I can only dream of conifers...