Why do they have to shout all the time?!

helena4_2

poet123 wrote: »

I can understand to a degree the noise issue, we live next door but one to a young family and the little boy is Autistic, and so has a tendency to scream a lot, but it is part of his condition and so he cannot help it, nor can his parents. They socialise in their garden a lot, and are quite noisy. When my kids were little we always made them tone down the noise in the garden, in fact it is probably worse now they are young adults and sit in the garden chatting, drinking and laughing till the small hours, it is more difficult to tell one of their friends to be quiet when they are 24!!

BBQ is the smell of summer to me and doesnt bother me at all. I think that perhaps you beed to chill out a bit and accept that families do make noise.

Maybe you could invite some of your own friends over and have a BBQ/lunch in the garden, and the company would mean you had less time to focus on what is going on next door. I would also invest in that trellis to preserve your privacy, plant a fast growing climber and it will deaden some of the sound as well.

I only posted because this is excessive, different people have come and gone next door all with different families making the usual noise which I accept but this is constant and dont think they will change.

TBH when my immediate neighbours are not home or away on holiday I miss the usual noise closing of doors the little girl sreaming because her brother snatched her toy...thats normal and I like it because I know there is someone next door , but this lot on the other side are in a league of their own

sp1987

ceridwen wrote: »

I must admit my first reaction to that is "If the neighbours had been brought up properly - then they would KNOW that one doesnt light a barbeque or bonfire if there is washing out or the like" - so when a neighbour does something like that you instantly know that they possibly have a different way of thinking/living to yourself and are likely to react badly to any polite request to consider you first (however you phrase it...).

I have to be honest in stating that it would not have crossed my mind to have asked next doors permission before having a bbq in my own garden. If someone were adverse to the smell (I like it) I would be only too pleased for them to pop round and ask that I gave them a bit of notice so they could move their washing if that is what they would like. In fact I went to a bbq at my mother's house yesterday and she didn't think to tell either neighbour we were having one. Though to be honest Mr Bachelor next door with his porsche will slash and burn any old rubbish at any time of year and isn't one for getting fresh air on his washing:rotfl:
I don't think their employment status bears any odds. The best example of this I can think of when we were looking to rent a house where two drs were moving out. The place was AWFUL. So much so the letting agent did not have a date for when prospective tenants would be able to move in as he had no idea how long it would take to gut the place before anyone could. It was an ex show home so had very expensive furniture in it so they were probably picky who rented it....wasted effort really! I would have been worried letting dogs live there let alone people!

I think my point is that sometimes people are inconsiderate, but they do not mean to be. Smile at them, say how nice the weather is and you are pleased the children are enjoying it (even if you have to lie!) but that a bit of warning for their bbq would mean you can get your washing in. I'm sure they will tell you, even if it is for the male to brag about how they are going to burn some meat outside. I would be only too pleased to oblige if it was polite. If you build up a bit of conversation with them and things go well, that is the sort of time a friendly request for a bit of peace goes down very well.

Janey3

helena4 wrote: »

Thanks if you saw the garden layouts the very least I would do for fencing is 6ft high wooden fence which I cant afford.

The current fence is not in good condition they climb over to get the balls but I dont mind that if I put a trellis it would get ruined

Oh, right, it's just that I wouldn't be happy with just a wire fence. I would be doing all I could to minimise the situation you are in.

Wishing you all the best.

Blackpool_Saver

I lived in a very select neighbourhood in Lytham St.Annes and we had constant racket from kids, bbq's etc and a neighbourhood watch chap who would walk about naked proclaiming he was a naturist !!!!!!, you get ignorant nut cases everywhere and rich and poor, money does not cure bad breeding........

helena4_2

well all I can is this site is addictive and if I play my cards right i should be able to save more money then to sell up and buy a remote house somewhere far away from here!

patchwork_cat

When my kids were little it was a beautiful day and I decided to wash all the bedding etc. fleeces and all - I had 4 loads of washing out on my rotary and guess what next door lit a BBQ at 2 pm right next to the washing.

I was so cross - I asked them to tell me next time and it was always hit and miss for the 8 years we lived next to them. It does astound me though as has been said surely people should have some consideration.

In our first house we had a similar garden and next door decided to have an all day birthday party for their 2 year old - there were people out the front, back everywhere. We needed to cut the grass and left it until about 6pm, but the party was still going on - yes we had sat inside all day! When we cut the grass the grandmother got up and started shouting abuse at us about cutting the grass, but this party had gone on from 10am! We had left cutting it as long as possible thinking the party must end soon he is only 2, but it didn't!

patchwork_cat

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

I lived in a very select neighbourhood in Lytham St.Annes and we had constant racket from kids, bbq's etc and a neighbourhood watch chap who would walk about naked proclaiming he was a naturist !!!!!!, you get ignorant nut cases everywhere and rich and poor, money does not cure bad breeding........

Where abouts in St Annes? I must be honest when I grew up their it was VERY quiet on Clifton Drive nth.

flippin36

My little boy is profoundly autistic and when he plays in the garden he sometimes screams because he's excited on the trampoline, or because someone sat next to him when he didn't want them to, or because he's dropped something, or lost his ball, or because he doesn't like a particular noise.....I could go on. I overheard the lady that lives next door complaining to her husband about his screaming. So now I'm really anxious whenever he plays out that he's annoying our neighbours .

I want to explain to her about his disabilities in a hope to appeal to her better nature, and that we do try and keep the noise down but she never smiles, or says hello, she's really unfriendly and unapproachable. She blanks us when we pass in the street. She stands in her garden with hands on her hips staring at us, looking p*ssed off even if the kids are just playing nicely. Not making any judgements, just want to show you the other side of it.

clairibel

Instead of a new fence what about getting some conifers or the like to give you some privacy, i think the noise is more bearable when you can't see it if that makes sense.

I prefer my privacy so noise i can deal with if i feel removed from the open glare, if i know i don't have to watch nor them me i am more relaxed and better able to deal with any noise

Saying that the noise from my son does get on my wick but we always tell him to turn it down as i am quite conscious of others.

helena4_2

flippin36 wrote: »

My little boy is profoundly autistic and when he plays in the garden he sometimes screams because he's excited on the trampoline, or because someone sat next to him when he didn't want them to, or because he's dropped something, or lost his ball, or because he doesn't like a particular noise.....I could go on. I overheard the lady that lives next door complaining to her husband about his screaming. So now I'm really anxious whenever he plays out that he's annoying our neighbours .

I want to explain to her about his disabilities in a hope to appeal to her better nature, and that we do try and keep the noise down but she never smiles, or says hello, she's really unfriendly and unapproachable. She blanks us when we pass in the street. She stands in her garden with hands on her hips staring at us, looking p*ssed off even if the kids are just playing nicely. Not making any judgements, just want to show you the other side of it.

I know what your saying but im not that old woman far from it! I dont stand staring at my neighbours looking p*ssed if anything I feel intimidated as there are far more of them than me. when im coming home I long to close the door behind me . I guess it has made me a prisoner in my own home.

If I were you I would not be anxious if your son is making a noise he cant help it.