Why do they have to shout all the time?!

liney

helena4 wrote: »

Thats exactly my opinion they are not considerate so why would they listen to me?

Then you have 2 options:

Move house or learn to live with it.

If you won't speak to them or do anything differently then it won't change....

helena4_2

ceridwen wrote: »

If they've been brought up properly - then they will know without the necessity for one "communicating with them". They will automatically keep to considerate behaviour anyway - without having to be told to do so (okay - put that as "polite request to do so").

exactly I dont really feel comfortable talking to them after seeing how they act towards each other. sometimes they say hello if our paths cross other times they blank me.

When the owner was leaving I asked him if he was letting through an agency he said yes via the local council for benefit claiming families so he would be 'guaranteed' rent money, I thought great!

liney

helena4 wrote: »

exactly I dont really feel comfortable talking to them after seeing how they act towards each other. sometimes they say hello if our paths cross other times they blank me.

When the owner was leaving I asked him if he was letting through an agency he said yes via the local council for benefit claiming families so he would be 'guaranteed' rent money, I thought great!

Would you care to elaborate?

helena4_2

liney wrote: »

Then you have 2 options:

Move house or learn to live with it.

If you won't speak to them or do anything differently then it won't change....

tell me how you would learn to live with it? the parents shout they dont speak at normal levels. What do you want a single house dweller to do? invite the street round to teach them a lesson? maybe you can give me some pointers?

helena4_2

liney wrote: »

Would you care to elaborate?

The benefits agency if your unemployed pay your rent or mortgage dont they?

ceridwen

liney wrote: »

Would you care to elaborate?

Well - I read that instantly as meaning "Oh - aaah!:eek::mad: - that means that most households that ever live in that house will be badly-behaved! BAD news!".

Money_maker

I have similar but the children are older and neither children nor parents can converse in words with more than four letters.

We've had one lot of stones over the fence this year, will send DH round if it starts again.

Oh - and the pyromaniac bonfire lighter who cares not what time of day it is or if his neighbours have washing out.

Fancy a swop?

Janey3

I can imagine how you are feeling and how you feel like they are taking over. I suffered the same with next door for several years. I used to plan my outdoor time while the children were at school and at least got several hours peace then. Now they are older, I hardly ever see them due to after school activities.

Brazen it out, get outside with book and earphones, please don't be a prisoner in your own home.

As regards the bbq, yes, it would be manners to mention it to you, but regrettably, for some, it would never enter their head to do that.

Could you get some nice trellis fencing put up so you would feel a bit less exposed?

helena4_2

ceridwen wrote: »

Well - I read that instantly as meaning "Oh - aaah!:eek::mad: - that means that most households that ever live in that house will be badly-behaved! BAD news!".

I know when the owner told me I thought I would mean bad news! and I was right, the parents are not even 30, of course I dont know why they dont work but they seem fit and healthy to me

Curlywurli

Unfortunately unless you live on your own in a detached house miles away from anyone/ anywhere you are going to have to learn to deal with people and situations.

We have lovely neighbours but I'm sure that some days we annoy them just as some days they annoy us. One of our neighbours has a barbeque three out of seven days, sometimes more- they don't let us know, but we know that when it's sunny they'll have a barbeque.

Personally my neighbours love to hear young children outside playing and having fun and not just sitting inside the house playing on their computer games. They love my children rushing up to the fence when they go into their garden and saying hello. Sometimes my children need reminding that not everyone wants to hear them all of the time and we try to be considerate.

You never know your next door neighbours could feel the same way about you, particularly if you never smile at them or talk to them and look down at them just because they're on benefits. A neighbour sitting glaring can be just as off putting as noisy neighbours.