Why do they have to shout all the time?!

helena4_2

mrsr wrote: »

Please come and live next to me .My nieghbours are hell ,nice people but the noise of screaming kids is horrendoue i really feel for you .

lets all swap the people who think its ok to act like my neighbours live next to each other and let them enjoy it...:rotfl:

mutley74

A polite letter requesting they let you when they doing a barbQ and your clothes are out. (I did that when my neighbour did bonfires, and he listened but is even more ignorant now, so be careful)

play Radio 2 on high volume when their kids are out or try classical FM! Might put them off!

mrsr

helena4 wrote: »

lets all swap the people who think its ok to act like my neighbours live next to each other and let them enjoy it...:rotfl:

thats agood idea :j
PS i want you next to me

helena4_2

mrsr wrote: »

thats agood idea :j
PS i want you next to me

deal:beer:

helena4_2

mutley74 wrote: »

A polite letter requesting they let you when they doing a barbQ and your clothes are out. (I did that when my neighbour did bonfires, and he listened but is even more ignorant now, so be careful)

play Radio 2 on high volume when their kids are out or try classical FM! Might put them off!

thats what im nervous of in case it gets their back up if thats the way they behave then thats the way they behave, a polite letter or word may have a negative effect.

I pay a mortgage and work and dont feel at home in my garden

chris1973

Blimey, I could have almost written that original opening post myself, word for word.

I am fortunate enough to live in a small cul de sac, which up until 2007 housed older couples and families with older or no children or single people like myself. I considered myself very lucky as I enjoyed the peace of quiet, and being able to sit outside in the summer without screaming babies and noisy kids. The road had parking issues and the usual normal small neighbourhood disputes but for quiet and peace it was bliss and I wouldn't have traded it.

Then one single parent moved in with a couple of kids, for a while the kids spent the weekend at their Dad's and I hardly knew they existed. That lasted for just over a year, until she moved in a partner, who also brought a dog and now the kids seemed to spend far more time at home,,,in the garden....tormenting the dog and don't seem to spend any time with their natural father.

Seems to have now gone a full circle, the peace and quiet has gone and its like living next to a Creche' and I dread the warm weather. purely because I know that the kids will be home in the evenings in the Garden, invaribly with several visiting school friends, winding the dog up. So my evenings and weekends are filled with screaming kids and a tormented, madly barking dog. Not to mention the thump, thump, thump of their basketball against the ajoining wall, for several hours at the weekends, often starting at 7AM - Bye Bye Sunday lie-ins, they are a thing of the past!.

I can't even relax in the privacy of my own garden any more, as some relative has just given them one of those massive trampolines, so I can';t even sit out enjoying a beer or eating my tea without heads coming over the level of the hedge and these kids giggling and grinning over the hedge like chad as they bounce up and down for hours.

BUT, I recognised that a small part of the problem was mine, I can't stop neighbours enjoying their Garden nor stop their kids from playing outside. I knew that i'd grown accustomed to the peace which i'd enjoyed for over a decade previously and that my nerves were on edge and patience in short supply due to my Job, and rather than earmark myself as some kind of miserable Victor Meldrew or some kind of spoilsport - it was down to me to find a solution.

So during the summer I spend time stopping with friends, house and petsitting for relatives who are away on holiday and even borrow a caravan now and again to just get away. I understand that effectively this one family has driven me out and away from my own home but it keeps the peace, stops the red mist from descending and keeps my nerves from fraying and blood pressure low.

Can't wait for winter though, those long, dark, cold winter evenings, don't half bring a bit of peace.

I know that this doesn't provide a solution to the OP's problem, and that i'm lucky enough to escape it for a few months during the worst time, but it does help to know that people are in exactly the same situation. Perhaps it will also serve as a notice to others that being a poor or inconsiderate neighbour does actively affect others

helena4_2

chris1973 wrote: »

Blimey, I could have almost written that original opening post myself, word for word.

I am fortunate enough to live in a small cul de sac, which up until 2007 housed older couples and families with older or no children or single people like myself. I considered myself very lucky as I enjoyed the peace of quiet, and being able to sit outside in the summer without screaming babies and noisy kids. The road had parking issues and the usual normal small neighbourhood disputes but for quiet and peace it was bliss and I wouldn't have traded it.

Then one single parent moved in with a couple of kids, for a while the kids spent the weekend at their Dad's and I hardly knew they existed. That lasted for just over a year, until she moved in a partner, who also brought a dog and now the kids seemed to spend far more time at home,,,in the garden....tormenting the dog and don't seem to spend any time with their natural father.

Seems to have now gone a full circle, the peace and quiet has gone and its like living next to a Creche' and I dread the warm weather. purely because I know that the kids will be home in the evenings in the Garden, invaribly with several school friends, winding the dog up. So my evenings and weekends are filled with screaming kids and a madly barking dog. Not to mention the thump, thump, thump of their basketball against the ajoining wall, for several hours at the weekends.

I can't even relax in the privacy of my own garden any more, as some relative has just given them one of those massive trampolines, so I can';t even sit out without heads coming over the level of the hedge and these kids grinning over the hedge like chad as they bounce up and down for hours.

BUT, I recognised that a small part of the problem was mine, I can't stop neighbours enjoying their Garden nor stop their kids from playing outside. I knew that my nerves were on edge and patience in short supply, and so it was down to me to find a solution.

So during the summer I spend time stopping with friends, house and petsitting for relatives who are away on holiday and even borrow a caravan now and again to just get away. I understand that effectively this one family has driven me out and away from my own home but it keeps the peace, stops the red mist from descending and keeps my nerves from fraying and blood pressure low.

Can't wait for winter though, those long, dark, cold winter evenings, don't half bring a bit of peace.

I know that this doesn't provide a solution to the OP's problem, and that i'm lucky enough to escape it for a few months during the worst time, but it does help to know that people are in exactly the same situation. Perhaps it will also serve as a notice to others that being a poor or inconsiderate neighbour does actively affect others

Im glad you posted here it does show im not the only one who feels this way.

I long for the rain

turtlemoose

oh, OP, i totally sympathise.

All you people who scoff at the problem and suggest the OP should just go talk to them?? Surely you realise if that was an option then it would have already been done....

Kids (and adults!) on my street seem to enjoy standing out the front of mine, using my front garden as a goal post. Now I know that a football is not going to break my toughened glass windows, but my GOD it makes one hell of a bang when it hits the wall/windows/doors - I spend half the day jumping out of my skin. I once went outside and calmy, rationally, reasonably explained that I have no problem with them using my front fence as goal posts, but please possibly could they try not to hit the house? Came home from work the next day to 3 smashed windows.

Lesson learned? I was £50 out of pocket (and that's cheap, luckily through work I bought the glass at cost and got it fitted free), and learnt to put up and shut up where troublesome neighbours are concerned. Yes i might get labelled a snob for this....but certain types of families just won't change. Now I just save every spare penny and long for the day I can move somewhere else....

helenamy123

Helena,

You have my sympathies. It is easy for people to say put up with it (why should you!) or go and talk to them about it (yeah like thats likely to go down well with them... more likely to have more bbq/loud music/eggs or bricks thru windows etc etc) - and before anyone says anything I am a single parent on benefits myself, we arent all the same - this is just indicative of the whole 'lack of respect' culture we have.

I moved out of chav - ville about a year ago having been blinded to a terrible area by a lovely house - we had the lot - bbqs, bonfires, adults and kids racing round on mini-moto bikes on the street and around their gardens, loud music day and night, swearing and shouting constantly from adults and kids, drug dealing, drinking on street, police raids most weeks, loud dogs, dogs allowed to roam loose etc etc...myself and other neighbours tried to reason with them, complained to council and police - to no use.....I came to hate the summer and loved it when it rained. Eventually after physical threats to myself and my property I got out by selling house to a 'quick sale' company, I lost 30k but to be honest it was worth it!

I havent moved to an area without problems, but its not an estate so dont get as many problems, plus majority of people around me now are retired or out working or more respectful (for now anyway lol!)

Btw I personally detest the smell of bbqs, and hate it when I smell one and have to fetch washing in because of one - but I can smell one in next street tho! I dont understand how people are far more conscious of bonfires and wouldnt often have them in the day nowadays - but quite happy to have bbqs with the smoke and smell!

The only practical suggestion I can make is asking their landlord if he will put up a fence? - or go halves perhaps? (If you can get a mate to put up a fence for you, fence panels themselves are not hugely expensive)

Anyways, best of luck to you, dont let the b***ers drive u mad!

hugs

helen x

PasturesNew

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Pastures I hope you did your hoovering nice and early the next morning .

It wouldn't have worked that way round ... and I try to avoid hoovering because of the noise of the hoover

I lead a QUIET life.