Creepy Man making life hard! LONG

Wickedkitten

AliasGirl wrote: »

I suppose I am worried the police won't take me seriously. I just wish the scout leader would get rid of him, his CRB is 5 years out of date and the night with the car was 3 years ago so he could have done anything in that time. BTW, my mum now feels very guilty for not protecting me when I was young to the point where she scares off any men who talk to me when she is there (:o), she is saying she will tell the police if I don't and I think I should because of the kids not me.

Your mother damned well should feel guilty for not being there for you and believing you when you needed her.

MrsE_2

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

Please don't listen to people who 'demand' you take action etc. Obviously it's right that you have told on him, but you have NO responsibility for his behaviour, whatever he does or has done in the past.

I disagree.

While she is no way no how responsible for what he's done or will do.

She does have the responsibility of knowledge. Especially as someone who works with children, she has a duty of care with child protection & voicing concerns/threats she has is part of that duty of care.
Even people who don't work with children would (I feel) as responsible adults have a moral obligation to voice their concerns to the proper channels.

Reading her OP shocked me that so many adults brushed off this mans weird & stalking behaviour towards her as something she was "making too much of" & "should just deal with".
The OP sounds like a young woman, but I though this sort of attitude died out in the 70s at the latest:(
Its saddening that young women are still pressured & expected to deal with sexual aggression like this:(

Savvy_Sue

Not read the whole thread, but there was a bit on this morning's Today programme about a new helpline for people who were having problems with Stalkers. Not available to listen again yet, and looking at the programme summary it might have just been in the news headlines. Can't find anything in a hurry but hope you'll be able to. Apologies if someone has mentioned this already.

sheldon08

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Not read the whole thread, but there was a bit on this morning's Today programme about a new helpline for people who were having problems with Stalkers. Not available to listen again yet, and looking at the programme summary it might have just been in the news headlines. Can't find anything in a hurry but hope you'll be able to. Apologies if someone has mentioned this already.

I also came to tell you about this. Looks like it launches later today.

Found these links

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/8650603.stm

http://www.nss.org.uk/


I haven't read the whole thread either so apologies if already posted.

Gingham_Ribbon

MrsE wrote: »

IIts saddening that young women are still pressured & expected to deal with sexual aggression like this:(

Which is exactly my point. There's the pressure to put up with it and the pressure of blame if they don't report him.

I wish these attitudes had died out but they haven't. You must have flirted with him. It's because you're well developed. You should be flattered. You're exaggerating. He's just being friendly. It's just a pat on the bottom/he's just looking at you. You're lying. And that old classic - wear something more appropriate then.

But they're no worse than the flip side of blame and reprisals if girls don't tell or aren't believed and give up trying.

jinky67

I for one think alias girl has been very brave in trying to stop him doing to other people what he did with her:T:T

would we be so brave if the shoe was on our feet?

hermum

Keep you chin up. once you had pieced things together you made sure that something was being done about it. Hopefully it's now been taken out of your hands.
Walk tall & proud that you have been able to stick up for people less able than yourself.

ailuro2

Have you thought about taking up Martial Arts - plenty opportunities there to help out with kids once you've been there for a while, but you would also learn a bit of self defence and how to handle yourself. you don't sound very confident, martial arts classes can increase your confidence, and of course will look good on your CV, many employers like to see applicants who look after themselves and participate in sports. Doing something that isn't just Church based will show you have a wider horizon too.;)

Good Luck! Glad you stood up and got something done when all the others were 'turning the other cheek' from something that simply wasn't right and should never have been ignored for so long.

jonty1970

Well done for reporting him.
Have a look here
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1270085/Depraved-sex-offender-tried-murder-woman-abduct-rape-granddaughters-aged-TWO-EIGHT.html

This man is obsessed with children. Who knows if the man who is stalking the OP here won't attack a child in the future.
The police need to check him and the scouts need to ban him from being anywhere near their meetings!

loopy_lass

martial arts is a good one, i do kickboxing, which strangely enough keeps me rather calm no matter what, but last summer a bloke cut me up on a roundabout, got out and spat at me thro the car window. I got out of my car to show him the road markings and that he was wrong, when he suddenly smacked me in the face...... so i smacked him one, boy did he look surprised, got in his van and cleared off.... Pfffffffffffffffftttttt...

loops