Its a wonderful life... Want to try.....?? A Single parents View.. !!xx!

black-saturn

mrcow wrote:

:rotfl:

As opposed to any other kind of Mum?

How can you tell if someone is a single mum by the way they are getting on a bus?

Married mums wear wedding rings.

Broken_hearted

black-saturn wrote:

Married mums wear wedding rings.

I've always had a ring on my finger, was engaged 9 years.

mrcow

black-saturn wrote:

Married mums wear wedding rings.

I'm not married, but I'm not a single mum! and I don't wear any jewellery.

mrcow

black-saturn wrote:

Married mums wear wedding rings.

:rotfl: lol anyway, are you implying that someone will scope a woman out for a ring on her finger before deciding whether to help her on a bus with a buggy?

black-saturn

mrcow wrote:

:rotfl: lol anyway, are you implying that someone will scope a woman out for a ring on her finger before deciding whether to help her on a bus with a buggy?

Yes, I experienced a lot of negativity when I was pregnant so I started wearing a ring and it stopped.

viktory

Where I live I have offeredhelp to several young mum's and you know what puts me off? Not the fact that they are or aren't wearing a ring, that makes no difference to me, it is the downright rudeness of the majority. I have held countless doors open, and not received a single thank you. I have offered to help young mum's on buses and have been very tersely refused. I have offered my seat on the bus and have received a mouthful of abuse.

I think that the young mother's round here have got such huge chips on their shoulders that they assume everyone is having a go, even when they have been given a genuine offer of help.

Now I don't bother. It's not worth it.

looby75

viktory wrote:

Where I live I have offeredhelp to several young mum's and you know what puts me off? Not the fact that they are or aren't wearing a ring, that makes no difference to me, it is the downright rudeness of the majority. I have held countless doors open, and not received a single thank you. I have offered to help young mum's on buses and have been very tersely refused. I have offered my seat on the bus and have received a mouthful of abuse.

I think that the young mother's round here have got such huge chips on their shoulders that they assume everyone is having a go, even when they have been given a genuine offer of help.

Now I don't bother. It's not worth it.

Thats terrible! If anyone ever offered to help me when my kids were little I was very greatful, as for offering your seat, why on earth would anyone abuse you for that Can't understand why anyone would see that as an insult. Maybe it's just that I was brought up to have manners.

liney

I could not wear my wedding rings while i was pregnant due to water retention. Not once did i have any sort of prejudice. Perhaps i wasn't looking for it though... or perhaps being 25 years old people assumed i was married with water retention... perhaps they didn't give a monkeys..... We women are renowned to be oversensitive while pregnant, after all.

Sarahsaver

I have found older people a lot ruder on buses! I know for a fact some of them resent the younger generation for having so much freedom to be open - in the past it was something to be hidden being an unmarried mum. DD's granny was in that situation in the 1950s, so I do know it had a lasting effect on her outlook on life.

Chrysalis

msmicawber wrote:

I can't say that's been my experience with the Council when I've gone to try and deal with housing benefit problems. I'm so glad that my children are old enough now that I can leave them outside because one of the things I hated was being spoken down to in front of my children.

Yeah if I had children I wouldnt want to take them to somewhere like that.