Its a wonderful life... Want to try.....?? A Single parents View.. !!xx!

krisskross

I think the not helping may be because a lot of the buggies are HUGE. Add in the weight of the shopping , the child etc and i worry for my back. Plus I am scared that I might drop my bit, tipping out the baby. I often offer to take sundry bags of shopping on for the buggy owner.

Not for one moment has the buggy owners marital status influenced my decision. Whenever I was pregnant my fingers used to swell and the rings had to come off, sometimes not to go back on until months after the birth. I honestly cannot believe that people are so shallow that they do not help a young struggling mother because they might think she has no partner.

I have also had my offers of assistance refused very curtly, puts you off for the next time.

Anthillmob

i only have a sensible mclaren lol

Broken_hearted

Anthillmob wrote:

people dont help any mums with buggys full stop.

i have been helped once. and that was only because i asked some bloke to help me.

I always offer to help if people look like they need it.

mrcow

Chrysalis wrote:

Without offending anyone how many people here had a child before they got married

I'm not married and I will have three children by Christmas. I've been with my partner for ten years, we've both worked all our lives (except when we were getting our degrees) and our relationship is as rock solid today as it has ever been.

You can "judge" me or my family all you like (couldn't give a monkey's), it will say more about you than it ever will about me.......

pandas66

I have been divorced longer than married................its my non exsistent 18th anniversary today (no celebration) but on 5th Oct its my divorce anniversary

Wooooopie Do!

astonsmummy

mrcow wrote:

I'm an unmarried mother and have been for the past five years and I've never heard anybody mutter any such kind of rubbish anywhere near me

Have you not read thiss thread??
it's rife in this forum, but hey each to their own.

astonsmummy

mrcow wrote:

Still having problems getting my head round this.

Has anyone else here ever seriously experienced any sort of comment being made to them in the street about not having a wedding ring? Or ever had any personal comments made to them about being an unmarried mum?

It's just that you say "nothing much has changed". Well perhaps it has...? Perhaps you'd have expected this sort of thing even 20 years ago, but whenever I've gone out with the children, the only comments I've ever had were how cute/well behaved they are.

Where do you live?

I'll admit i've had funny looks, maybe coz i look like a chav! lol:D
But the only time i have ever known anyone to make the 'slate single and young mums' comments on here! but thats only a few minority who have obviously never experienced singleparenthood, i hold my head up high because i know i will instill the values of work in my son and know i'm a better mum at age 22 than some 30 and 40 year old mums

mrcow

astonsmummy wrote:

But the only time i have ever known anyone to make the 'slate single and young mums' comments on here!

Me too! (funnily enough )

That was kind of my point too.

I find it difficult to believe that some of the members on this forum who seem so openly hostile to other members and their situations would be half as bold if they were to meet face to face, without their anonimity and their keyboard to shield them (but I guess that goes for a lot of threads lol).

I'm not for one minute disputing what looby was saying (maybe in a village environment situations are slightly different?), but I've never had anyone comment on my marital status to my face. I've known a couple who have apparently done it behind my back, but then again, they are not the kind of people who's opinion I'd respect in the first place!

looby75

mrcow wrote:

I'm not for one minute disputing what looby was saying (maybe in a village environment situations are slightly different?), but I've never had anyone comment on my marital status to my face.

I'm at my sisters house at the moment and we were talking bout this thread, and she got pg with her first dd when she was 15. She lived in a big town then and she says no one ever actually came out and said anything to her but she got plenty of funny looks. She just ignored them. So maybe it is the fact that I live in a small village that was the bigest contributing factor

Sarahsaver

It is rampant prejudice - you just have to read the daily mail! Do their readership not agree with the editorial at all?
I get a free copy at the gym which is the only reason I read it. Otherwise I wouldn't touch it with a barge pole.