Brother thinks he's getting a raw deal with rent - What do you charge your children?

lauren_1

£33 Is about right.....for the room only.

No lifts, No washing, No food. Nothing.

Does he have debts or any other drain on his finances?

andrealm

There's been a number of threads on this subject and I think the general conclusion has been that a third of their salary is not unreasonable, for most people.

I'm shocked at him doing £600 of damage to the house, I hope he will pay for the damage. If he refuses to pay and to make a reasonable contribution, they should throw him out

If he can find somewhere else to live that will only charge him £50, do all his cooking and cleaning and taxi him to work every day, he'll be very lucky.

ninky_2

where is the love and affection in this family?

it is a bit of a worry that your brother has grown up with these values. and that your parents way of dealing with it is to show him the receipts for things. i would NEVER have a situation like this with my parents. if they can't respect each other they shouldn't be living under the same roof.

your brother should be worrying for the wellbeing of his mum and dad and vice versa. a few words of thanks, checking it's okay, 'is there anything i can do to help' wouldn't go amiss. really he should just pay without having to be asked and your parents should have the sense not to take more than him than he can afford.

a sorry state of affairs.

BitterAndTwisted

It is a sorry state of affairs but I suspect that it might have been a consequence of the parents always killing their kids with kindness. I honestly wouldn't tolerate this kind of behaviour from a grown man, I really wouldn't. I feel sorry for this Mum and Dad but I think they need to help their son to stand on his own two feet and driving him to and from work is a sign of real weakness in my book and that's why the son is throwing his weight about and terrorising them.

Errata

Sounds like the brother has massively lost the plot. Has he always been a little !!!!!! or is this new behaviour ? If it's longstanding evilry then it's domestic abuse, if it's a new thing is he into drugs ? Alternatively, how's his mental health because he really hasn't got a grip on reality at the moment by the sound of things.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I can tell you where he should go that would suit him down to the ground if he doesn't like it where he is right now - pretty much free board, lodgings, food, TV, socialising, simple journey to workplace every day...

HMP Highdown

Ideal place for aggressive, manipulative, thieving (which he is, he's thieving from his parents) scrotes.

I'd get him arrested and charged for that kind of behaviour. (If he wasn't in intensive care from a shovel applied to the side of the head in self defence)

tiamai_d

Anyone else got a vision of him in an oversized childs car seat, sitting in the back with his little suit and lunchbox, kicking off about pocket money - 'it's not fair! I'm 5!'

I'd kick him out and let him get a right good bruise on his !!!! when he falls back down to earth.

BitterAndTwisted

tiamai_d wrote: »

Anyone else got a vision of him in an oversized childs car seat, sitting in the back with his little suit and lunchbox, kicking off about pocket money - 'it's not fair! I'm 5!'

No, I wish I had. In my mind's eye I can see the OP's parent cowering while this lumbering 21 year-old terrorises the life out them by kicking !!!!!! out of the house. And all after a perfectly reasonable request to pay enough not to be a burden on them. Which he had no right to be. That right ended when he ceased to be full-time education. He needs his backside kicked and a night on a park bench to show him the light

custardy

TBH having thought about it,the only way i can see your brother 'seeing sense' as you asked is for him to be sent on his way
paying real world prices should open his eyes,and if he tries the same violent outburst with non family members he may get another type of lesson

robchap_2

kick him out

i let a family member (girl friends uncle) stay with us for 8 months he is 63 all i asked him for was 50 pound a month for food i covered all extra costs then i found out the !!!!er was putting me down to all the family saying i was ripping him off (thats until i pulled him up on it in front of them)
after that i gave him 2 weeks to get out and have heard nothing from him since

turns out you try to do good deeds and get !!!! on your mum and dad need to stand up for themselfs and out him now before he gets worse