war with parents - are we being mean

thorsoak

I would never, ever have our dogs wandering around when baby grandchildren visit - they are safely put away in another room and are only allowed "supervised" cuddles - and of course no kisses from dog for child - for the sake of the dog as well as the child. But, at the same time, I will point out that children raised in "dirty dog households" are generally healthier - because they develop the natural immunity that is being depressed by the constant useage of anti-bacterial cleaners in the average household. Of course, if a child is delicate or has any health problems then more care has to be taken with the house-cleaning - but otherwise, my grandchildren have crawled on floors that have been walked on/laid on by dogs with no ill-effects - and all 3 of my 6ft plus sons used to "steal" Winalot dog biscuits (from the food bin - not the dog bowl) with no ill effects.

chesky369

I cannot believe that the OP re-read what she wrote in the first post here. If she had, she would have realised that it tells us much more about her than it does about her parents. If I had written it about myself, I would have been too ashamed to post it.

Errata

Threebabes wrote: »

I would never have left my baby/small child in those conditions in the first place.

Why in earth did you let them look after the baby in the first place?

I wouldn't have even left a dog with the parents, never mind a small child.

McKneff

It's always somebody elses fault or oh poor me....................

McKneff

I have been in the situation where my grandchildren were taken to the other end of the country after a rift between my Son and his wife who ran off with another man.
Have you any idea how cruel this is to your parents.
I know how distraught i was, I grieved almost as if they had died. I cannot begin to tell you how bad it afffected my mentally.
Stop being so selfish, put your baby into a nursery and go and eat humble pie with your parents, tell them you are sorry before its too late,
What if one of them died tomorrow, it happens.
You may be a married woman but you have a lot of growing up to do.
Annie

shellsuit

You knew what your parents, the house and the dog was like, so why have them look after the baby in the first place?!

That was irresponsible of you, you should have listened to your OH to begin with ~ I would never have let them care for my child, not because of the way they look after themselves and their home, but because of the dog.

Now you have upset your parents, and it's you who needs to back down and apologise to them.

They have done nothing wrong, and it looks like you have offended and certainly insulted your Mum big time, she must feel that you have used them, which I'm not surprised about one little bit!

Mojisola

chesky369 wrote: »

I cannot believe that the OP re-read what she wrote in the first post here. If she had, she would have realised that it tells us much more about her than it does about her parents. If I had written it about myself, I would have been too ashamed to post it.

I think the OP is a man.

kendalls_cave

If something happened to your baby you'd be the first to complain, but you put the child in that position. You are supposed to protect your child, she can't do it for herself, it YOUR responsibility

Counting_Pennies_2

I am sorry to hear your story.

It echoes so many parts of my life in terms of ignorance to other points of views growing up and now.

I made the decision my parents weren't ever going to look after my children, I feel emotionally they are very damaging people, I am shocked and angered that my sister puts her children in the care of my parents. I see now the damage they are doing and have done to my niece and nephew.

So it is with a very clear head I urge you to go with your gut feeling on this.

You have to remember children are only lent to parents, when they fly the nest it is an honour for them to return and the relationship needs to change, which is hard for many parents to master.

You have a right to look after your children how you see fit and given the conditions I feel very certain your child will receive better care in a nursery than with the grandparents.

Don't think for a moment longer, go with your gut feeling. If your parents choose to come round to your thinking great, but don't chase them. They have to be willing to respect your feelings. This is your family, and they must come first

Zazen999

Either that or they forgot which wind up thread they posted on which forum and double dipped in here.