war with parents - are we being mean

Ivrytwr3

It's their house and so their rules. They are HELPING you by babysitting. You accepted this when you left your baby in their care.

I think after you first found out that the dog was left to roam, i would have put the child into nursey. However, i would not have said it was because their house was dirty and the dog was a danger (you have probably offended your parents).

I would have told them something like, educational needs, socialising with other children, journey time easier etc.

Your child is safe and your parents are non the wiser.

I think you jumped in with both feet and now need to build bridges, they aren't going to be around forever and lifes too short.

gingin_2

Paddy's Mum - you have a great way with words (plus you tend to write what I am thinking but put it far more succinctly ).

Henpecked1, I really think you should reread what you have written, it's quite frankly bizarre. There is no point me rewriting what Paddy's Mum has just written as she has put it perfectly enough.

I don't get the "at war" part in your title. There seems to be no war, just some very hurt feelings that can easily be mended with a bit of humility on your side and a bit of acceptance (and cleaning) on theirs. You seem to have some serious issues with your every one of your immediate family but those are irrelevant if you were prepared to leave your child with them.

I really don't get it. Apologise, take your daughter round and get her enrolled in a good nursery.

Auntie-Dolly

Haven't I read this very same thread before??

gingin_2

Auntie-Dolly wrote: »

Haven't I read this very same thread before??

I thought exactly the same.

Lotus-eater

Some people have got very good memories it seems.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1777167&highlight=
And some are just daft and have to re-ask the same question 8 months after the first time the easy question was answered.

gingin_2

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Some people have got very good memories it seems.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1777167&highlight=
And some are just daft and have to re-ask the same question 8 months after the first time the easy question was answered.

Well done, Sherlock.

Lotus-eater

gingin wrote: »

Well done, Sherlock.

I claim my prize, a kiss from the loveliest lady, Pucker up love.

ChrisCobra

It never suprises me how thick some people can be and allow harm to come to their children on more than one occasion.

OP should have put their foot down and sent the kid to nursery after the first incident , or not even allow the grandparents to look after the child if it was so obviously unfit a situation.

mark13

I agree with ailuro2 also.
Your folks are big enough to understand the situation and to deal with it , but your child relies on you to be kept safe. Take the nursery option, and then hold out the olive branch to your folks , as I'm sure you don't want to loose contact with them.

Threebabes

I would never have left my baby/small child in those conditions in the first place.

Why in earth did you let them look after the baby in the first place?