Anyone Child Free By Choice?

no1gymbunny

Gavin83 wrote: »

Why not? I went to see a friends new baby at the weekend and wouldn't hold it, just said he was lovely but I wasn't comfortable holding a baby. Didn't cause any problems.

I guess I did it to 'keep the peace' . My ex already had a child from a previous relationship and his two sisters both had young kids and kept saying things like "we won't get rid of the pushchairs just yet, you never know!" nudge, nudge and all that. I hated it. Glad I'm no longer part of their sorry little lives.

SandC

Kevin Bridges did a really funny sketch about how people are with new born babies.

It was something like how you go round to their house and all the family is there and they're passing the baby round...... like a joint. :rotfl: And he's thinking 'what the eff do I say now?'.

I've been on this and other threads before now on the subject but not since a recent dalliance with someone who has kids. I now realise that I am zero interested in young children but I'm fine with older ones and teens. I found myself switching off when he talked about his 4 year old. Amongst a multitude of other things I realised he wasn't for me - even though I saw it as a plus at first that we could take things really slowly due to him having the children every other weekend.

I feel I am a little bit of a horrid person. But I'm not expecting no kids with new people I meet - just to be a lot further down the line with them.

Person_one

no1gymbunny wrote: »

My OH's cousin has two children aged about 6 and 10 and they are so completely ignorant. Whenever we visit they just have their noses glued to their bloody Nintendo DSs. They have to be prodded to say 'thank you' for gifts, etc. Just really annoying, yet the parents and grandparents have them on such high pedestals they couldn't possibly put a foot wrong. And don't even start me on my MIL!

Obviously you realise not all children and parents are like this?

mrcow

SandC wrote: »

I feel I am a little bit of a horrid person. But I'm not expecting no kids with new people I meet - just to be a lot further down the line with them.

If you are, so am I.

I have 3 kids of my own, but serously, I have no interest in hearing about other people's children. I used to think that it was because I'm just nasty, but I've since learned that it's not the children I dislike, it's how (unwittingly) irritating and self satisfied some parents can seem (and I emphasise the word "some").

As for pass-the-baby. Sorry, no. You had it, you can hold it.

Gavin83

The worst comments by far come from my parents. They're very vocal about the fact they want grandkids. I have told them that we don't want children but I think they've shut their ears to it or think we'll change our minds. At the moment we're quite young and not married but I'd imagine it'll get worse as we get older and more established in our relationship. I can actually see us having a rather big fallout over it in the future. Sadly my girlfriends mum is starting with the comments as well.

It makes it slightly harder that I'm an only child so I'm their only opportunity but thats life, I'm not going to have children for someone elses benefit.

Better_Off_1983

SandC wrote: »

Kevin Bridges did a really funny sketch about how people are with new born babies.

I am seeing him live in November!!

Better_Off_1983

Gavin,

Just tell both parents that you are barren... REAL conversation killer.... I hope! LOL

SandC

Better_Off_1983 wrote: »

SandC wrote: »

Kevin Bridges did a really funny sketch about how people are with new born babies.

I am seeing him live in November!!

aw lucky you, I love im!

aneres

I'm 38 and have never wanted children apart from a brief spell when I was 32 and wasn't even in a relationship, as soon as I met someone I was back to not wanting children.

The worst comment I've had is from a friend who said "you may as well have a child as you don't go out that much".

Well that's a good reason if ever I heard one lol.

no1gymbunny

aneres wrote: »

I'm 38 and have never wanted children apart from a brief spell when I was 32 and wasn't even in a relationship, as soon as I met someone I was back to not wanting children.

The worst comment I've had is from a friend who said "you may as well have a child as you don't go out that much".

Well that's a good reason if ever I heard one lol.

I had someone say that to me once!! It was some time last year when I was unemployed and really struggling to find work and obviously had very little money. A friend said to me in all seriousness "Have you thought about having a child as you can't find any work?" :eek: