Anyone Child Free By Choice?

Starrystarrynight

It'll take me a while, but I will read this thread with great interest!
I'm purposely child-free, and was sterilised a few years ago. I expected to have to argue my case with the GP and hospital but they were fine about it. Maybe if I had been 25 at the time rather than 35 they might not have been so obliging!
I'm probably repeating many other posters in saying this, but I hate being told that I don't know what I'm missing in not having kids! Other than that, some people say they wish they had made the same decision, some say each to their own and some just find it mildly odd but are probably too polite to say anything LOL.
Marmiterulesok, I certainly like the idea of things like child benefit/tax credits etc being limited to the first two kids! Can't see it ever happening, though :-(

marmiterulesok

TBH I've never expressed these opinions to anybody.I don't feel that many would appreciate what I'm actually saying or agree with me.

I also can't be bothered with people who would no doubt be outraged/offended by my thoughts.

So it is quite a novelty to have dared say what I think,even when it is relatively anonymously done on this forum.

For me,it is the same logic that means that I do not have and never will have a car:there's one less car on this planet,where there are already too many.

MegS

My two best friends are both child-free by choice. I was never planning on having any but ended up with a son (who I wouldn't be without even when he's a little !!!!!! lol!), in fact my gynaecologist said it was a miracle I ever even had a child (which I try to remember when DS is being a little toad lol) so I understand where you're coming from. I've never liked children and still don't although I love my own (hope that makes sense). Never had a maternal urge either - I was 32 when I had DS. I even envy my child-free friends sometimes. Don't understand why some people think your life is bereft if you don't have a child. With all the worries in the world - and I'm terrified of mind going to senior school - why would you want to bring a child in this world anyway?

missfit44

I used to work in a residential care home most of the elderly females in there were mothers and grandmothers all were taken to their childrens home for christmas all were back within the hour as they could not or would not put up with their mum so much for children looking after their parents in their old age. Also why is it that those with children always expect the best holidays off most of the girls I worked with used to come out with the old chestnut. Have to have christmas off, august off, bank holidays off, school breaks off, because I've got children. Then they couldnt work certain shifts nights, weekends etc because nobody to look after the kids which meant that the ones without the children would be asked to cover their shifts although most of them managed to get to the pub in the evenings. And all these family friendly laws coming in, who do they think will work the shifts that are left. They always look at the ones without kids to plug the gap. Im child free by choice when I see some kid screaming till its purple in the face in the local supermarket I can only think YES!!! right choice. And one final thought for those who stated that they like to leave something of themselves behind what if that person that you left behind turns out to be another Hitler or Jeffery Dhaimer nice eh.

eco

I'm childless through choice, I love my neices and nephews but wouldn't want a child of my own 24/7, I just don't think I'm maternal enough. I get a bit peed off by people who seem to think I'm odd cos I don't want kids, I don't give them an hard time so feel they hould keep there opinions to themselves.

Person_one

missfit44 wrote: »

I used to work in a residential care home most of the elderly females in there were mothers and grandmothers all were taken to their childrens home for christmas all were back within the hour as they could not or would not put up with their mum so much for children looking after their parents in their old age. Also why is it that those with children always expect the best holidays off most of the girls I worked with used to come out with the old chestnut. Have to have christmas off, august off, bank holidays off, school breaks off, because I've got children. Then they couldnt work certain shifts nights, weekends etc because nobody to look after the kids which meant that the ones without the children would be asked to cover their shifts although most of them managed to get to the pub in the evenings. And all these family friendly laws coming in, who do they think will work the shifts that are left. They always look at the ones without kids to plug the gap. Im child free by choice when I see some kid screaming till its purple in the face in the local supermarket I can only think YES!!! right choice. And one final thought for those who stated that they like to leave something of themselves behind what if that person that you left behind turns out to be another Hitler or Jeffery Dhaimer nice eh.

To be fair, I work with mainly women, loads of them have kids and for the most part they all do their hours, their fair share of the shifts etc.

I'm not sure how they manage things like only sleeping between 10am and 2pm after a night shift because of the school run, they must be exhausted! Another reason why I'm not keen on the idea!

Mrs_pbradley936

There is a thread on here (I know because I posted on it but cannot find it) but anyway there was a link to a website that showed that those that had had children (now grown up) would not do so if they knew then what they know now. I think I might be one of them but my youngest is 28.

Also Fifer and his wife are child free by choice.

Kate78

missfit44 wrote: »

And one final thought for those who stated that they like to leave something of themselves behind what if that person that you left behind turns out to be another Hitler or Jeffery Dhaimer nice eh.

Haha, that reminds me of the one that goes:

"But your child could grow up to cure cancer!"

to which I reply:

"Statistically they'd have a much higher chance of becoming a serial killer".

Usually shuts them up into appalled silence! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Hermia

Kate78 wrote: »

Haha, that reminds me of the one that goes:

"But your child could grow up to cure cancer!"

to which I reply:

"Statistically they'd have a much higher chance of becoming a serial killer".

Usually shuts them up into appalled silence! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ha ha! I usually say something along the lines of, "Hang you, you have restricted your family to only two kids. What if the third kid was the one destined to grow up and cure cancer?!"

missfit44

They take the jobs then moan that they cant do the hours then go to the unions to try to get their hours changed. As for the school run and lack of sleep well when you make the choice to have kids then you cant expect not to do those things. After all they are your responsibility and the rest of us shouldnt be expected to work around parents. And I expect everyone has worked with someone who cannot do their hours at sometime because of their children and has also heard the excuse of but I have to have those times off as the children are out of school